This document discusses sexual pleasure from a variety of perspectives. It begins by asking participants to write down what sexual pleasure means to them. It then discusses sexual pleasure and rights, noting that pleasure goes beyond just orgasms and includes intimacy, acceptance and gender. The document examines myths around gender and sexual pleasure. It also explores research on how developmental assets like autonomy and self-esteem relate to sexual enjoyment. Finally, it discusses addressing sexual pleasure in the context of youth-friendly health services, comprehensive sexuality education, and work with young people living with HIV.
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Society , sexuality and pleasure (AIDS 2012)
1. From choice, a world of possibilities
Society Sexuality and Pleasure
Maya
Koumanova,
YSAFE CHAIR
Luize Ratniece,
YSAFE
2. What is sexual pleasure?
Write on a piece of paper
what sexual pleasure
means to you ( whether
you have experienced or
whether it is a fantasy)
1-3 words
No name
YSAFE Brussels 2012
3. Sexual Pleasure and Rights
What is sexual pleasure?
More than having orgasms
Intimacy, acceptance, confirmation
Gender and pleasure
Are sexual rights there to protect against
pregnancy, rape, disease and violence, or are they
there in relation to eroticism, recreation and
pleasure.
Is addressing sexual pleasure in our work a luxury?
YSAFE Brussels 2012
4. Public health: us
Responsible behaviour
Healthy life styles
Risks
Safety
Morality and ethics
5. Sex Industry
Enjoyment
Lust
Desire
Pleasure
Fantasies
Orgasm
8. “A majority (78.5%) of gay and bisexually
identified men reported having used at least
one type of sex, toy, including dildos (62.1%),
non-vibrating cock rings (51.9%), vibrators
(49.6%), butt plugs (34.0%), masturbation
sleeves (27.9%), and anal beads or balls
(19.3%).”
(From: Sex Toy Use by Gay and Bisexual Men in
the United States , 2012)
9. Pleasure and srh health: strange bed
partners?
Some evidence on positive
relationship between sexuality
and health:
Contraceptive use and
sexual enjoyment
( Rademakers e.a)
Breaking gender roles and sexual
enjoyment
( USA Bureau of Labour Statistics)
10. Research “The Association Between
Developmental Assets and Sexual
Enjoyment Among Emerging Adults”
Galinsky & Sonnenstain
•Autonomy
•Self Esteem
•Empathy
11. How do we think and feel about sex and
pleasure?
16. Myths on gender and sexual pleasure
Good sex should always be spontaneous
Good sex should always end in an orgasm
Good sex is the same as intercourse
For good sex you need an erection
17. Love and sexual pleasure
Romantics: do you refuse a life without passion; you
never give up on true love. So every time desire does
wane, do you believe that love is gone?
Realists; do you think that enduring love is more
important than hot sex, and that passion makes people
do stupid things. It’s dangerous, it creates problems,
and it’s a weak foundation for a relationship. So for you
love is more important than sex. The initial excitement
grows into something else — deep love, mutual respect,
shared history and companionship. Diminishing desire is
inescapable.
24. Sexual pleasure in our commitment
to young people’s sexual rights
Sexuality is an integral of
being human for all
young people
Sexuality and sexual
pleasure are important to
young people regardless
their reproductive desires
All young people have the
right to freely and fully
experience sexuality and
gender in a pleasurable,
healthy and satisfying
way.
25. Sexual pleasure and youth friendly
services
A Youth Friendly Health
Professional:
Accepts young people
as sexual beings
Listens and respects
the experiences of
the young person
Avoids moralizing
Helps to understand
what sexual pleasure
is
26. Pleasure in comprehensive sexuality
education
Anatomy and sexual
pleasure
Sexual expression and
enjoyment
sexual consent and
sexual coercion
Creating mutual
respectful and
responsible
relationships
28. Addressing sexual pleasure with
young people
It is not just about behaviour itself but what it
means to the person(s) involved
Consider the social context in which sexual
behaviour takes place
Have an inclusive approach: sexual orientation as an
essential part of oneself
Address both sexual enjoyment and sexual abuse
Make safer sex more attractive and pleasurable as
unsafe sex
29. Finally….
Recognize the importance of sexuality
Take an inclusive, gendered and positive approach to
sexuality
Recognize the links between different sexuality issues.
Support integrated approaches to sexuality
Go beyond rights to be free from violence, to support
positive rights and rights to pleasure as well
Draw inspiration from and connect with the exciting
initiatives already happening!
We are born and raised into being sexual beings. Sexuality exists within system of gender norms- culture, social, historical. Differences understood in binary way between men and women. How gender is conceptualized is changing, and we hope to change it.Sex happens between gendered individuals. How sex occurs comes from social/cultural norms and expectations as a gendered activity. Flag issue of gender essentialism; questioning of social/cultural/historical formations- need to develop frameworks within which to navigate before we get to change. Key dilemma: formations of norms of institutions of heterosexuality. Pacts between men and women map desire and hope with respect to social norms. How do we learn to embody gender and sexuality as a gendered self? Institution of heterosexuality- evolved historically as relations of power. Positioning women as inferior and lacking rights, in contrast to men and sense of entitlement and respect- men- women punished if they don’t buy into that. Women constitute self in terms of femininity, giving pleasure- map of desirability. The inner workings of gender in the public domain are glued together by workings of sexual domain. Need to develop critical thought about this. Homophobia is developed of these norms- hierarchies of power are normalized. Law, customs, norms- cultural scripts too. How are we invited to embody gendered norms in our minds, bodies, and in our actual sexuality? Sexuality ends up an appendage to gender issues. Double standard of gender equality discourse vs. private domain with commercialization of sexuality. Variability and fluidity of sexuality. How sex is understood- norms related to mechanics of the body. Open the debates about understanding the body and how media influences how we perceive and define it. Illiteracy among men and body related to masculinity, power and fear of failure; boys have not had any opening into the discussions of what is happening. Empowering women- a radical shift needs to happen to bring men and boys in compassionately and lovingly to that process. Silences in culture need to be used to create dialogue. Men and boys are essential in navigating sexual identities within culture. New relationships with our own bodies. Shaping of sex and desire by media.
CYP and pregnancies averted is less than half of the story. IPPF believes that young people are sexual beings with the same rights as adults. We believe that young people have the right to participate in and have choice in relation to sexual and reproductive health decisions. In providing services to under-25s, due regard must given to their autonomy as well as their need for protection and privacy. Young people have the right to freely express their sexuality and, in doing so, to be free from violence or harm. IPPF supports young people to achieve their right to sexual and reproductive health/well-being by promoting and providing comprehensive sexuality education that is rights-based and challenges norms that perpetuate gender inequities.
