Controlling your anger
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  •   What are emotions? Emotions are feelings that include both positive and negative responses, which are triggered by what we experience.  What are some of the typical emotions we experience? Joy, anger, fear, love, hate, depression, passion, sorr ow, excitement, embarrassment, thankfulness, and so forth.  How can we practice self-control regarding our emotions? By stopping, thinking about our thoughts and feelings, considering our options and then proceeding to
  •   Today we will focus on the emotion of anger and how you can practice self-control regarding anger.
  •  Anger  Is a normal emotion.  Can become dangerous  Can affect the way you deal with others.  Can affect the way you feel about yourself.
  •   No one ever makes you angry. You make a conscious choice to become angry.  Anger is a secondary emotion.  Anger is felt as a result of other emotions that have not been appropriately resolved.  Anger that is uncontrolled can turn to rage. “We create our own anger by the way we think, our attitude and our choices.” Facts About Anger
  •  Anger Hurts  Anger that is uncontrolled has the potential of causing harm that cannot be repaired.
  •   We experienced something that is bad or our expectations were not met.  The reasons we get angry are called triggers.  A trigger causes something to occur.  A trigger could be a person, situation or experience. Question of the Day… Why do we get angry?
  •   Don’t take everything so personally:  Taking the random comments of others personally.  This comes from our own insecurities.  Insecurities are areas where we lack confidence. Feeling a little insecure?
  •  Jumping to conclusions  Insecurities can lead to jumping to conclusions.
  • What do you see?
  •   Just like the optical illusion, we can see one thing at first glance, but upon closer inspection, it becomes clear it is misleading.  Keep things in perspective.  We sometimes make assumptions based on insecurities. Jumping to conclusions [cont..]
  •  Another anger trap lies in using abusive behavior as a means to resolve conflicts.  Conflicts are not excuses to become angry. Work it Out!
  •  BEHAVIOR Feelings Hot Thoughts Triggers Anger Sequence
  •   There are three typical ways an angry person responds: To withdraw means to ignore the source of the anger. Displacement: When angry you tend to store your anger and take it out on others or inanimate objects rather than handle your feelings in a straightforward way Attack. When angry you tend to be verbally and physically aggressive.
  •   No one can make you angry and no one can control your anger for you.  START controlling your anger.  Change your concept of anger.  Common misconceptions:  Anger is an excuse to become physically or verbally aggressive.  Anger is a reason to withdrawal from those you care about.  Anger is a reason to hurt yourself.  Anger is a reason to get even.  Anger simply tells you that something is being said or done the you do not agree with. You Are Responsible
  •   Focus on cool thoughts. Hot Cool
  •   Speak in a respectful tone of voice.  Use “I” language to communicate your feelings.  Behave in a peaceful way.  Use your positive character traits.  If possible, walk away and take time out to cool down.  Talk to someone trusted. Ways to Deal
  •   Anger is normal.  Anger can be dangerous.  No one can make me angry.  Anger is secondary.  Conflicts are not an excuse.  Feeling angry is the result of a series of steps.  I can handle my anger. What have I learned?