How to have control in your life, in own decisions and choices

1. Proactive vs. Reactive
 When you are PROACTIVE, you make good
choices about how you respond to something
happening. You are always ready with a calm
attitude. You do things to make sure that the
right things will happen. You are prepared for
anything that might happen. When things don’t
go your way, you aren’t happy, BUT you stay
calm.
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When you are REACTIVE, you could explode
at any minute. Things happen and they
“catch you off guard”. You aren’t ready for
things that might happen. You deal with
things when they happen instead of being
prepared.

2. Proactive vs. Reactive
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Proactive People
• Do not Blame anyone or
anything.
• Behavior is a product of
their conscious choice,
based on values.
• They carry their weather
with them.
• They are still influenced
by external stimulus – but
their response is value
based choice or
response.
Reactive People
• Blame circumstances,
conditions & conditioning.
• Behavior is a product of
their conditions, based on
feelings.
• If weather is good, they
feel good, if it is bad, they
feel bad.
• Reactive people build
their lives around others
emotions.

3. Circle of influence
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circle
of
influence
circle of
concern
Things you
can’t control
Things you
can control
or change
Focus on things you can change!!