The way you see yourself can alter the way you express and communicate with people in any given situation. It’s important to access the deeper parts of yourself in order to uncover the layers of your behaviour to make subconscious coping mechanisms become conscious. This empowers us to improve our expression and communication with ourselves and others, in the key areas of life: health, wealth, well-being, work and love. Clear communication therefore requires awareness, flexibility and acute yet agile listening – there’s a lot to listen for!

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a lot of pressure, experience stress and
feel undervalued – this impacts their
health, as well as personal and work
relationships. Therefore it is a must to
learn about the most effective ways
to interact, as it impacts the way people
are heard, perceived and understood
by others.
BECOME AWARE
The way you see yourself can alter the
way you express and communicate with
people in any given situation. It’s important
to access the deeper parts of yourself
in order to uncover the layers of your
behaviour to make subconscious coping
mechanisms become conscious. This
empowers us to improve our expression
and communication with ourselves and
others, in the key areas of life: health,
wealth, well-being, work and love.
Clear communication therefore requires
awareness, flexibility and acute yet agile
listening – there’s a lot to listen for!
The art of conversation, like any other
art, is a skill of elegance, nuance and
creative execution.
The ability to communicate well is a
life-long task and an important one, too,
as it helps us come together as families,
tribes, and nations. It’s a must to master
this skill in order to function effectively
in society, without it we would be fully
isolated and become extinct.
Tony J Selimi is an
Elite Life & Business
Success Coach,
Mentor, Healer,
Speaker and
Author of A Path
to Wisdom (£19.99, Panoma Press).
For more information about Tony’s new
book, visit apathtowisdom.com
OUREXPERT
LEARN TO LISTEN
Communication is a two-way street – do
more listening and less talking. Observe
the changes in others as you spend more
time listening. Stop, listen and be prepared
for feedback and clues of comprehension.
UNDERSTAND WHAT
YOU AND OTHERS VALUE
Recognising how to interact through other
people’s values will help you go far in life.
It opens many doors that lead to many
paths, as you’re perceived as engaging,
caring and loving
KNOW WHAT YOU
WANT TO SAY, HOW YOU
WILL SAY IT AND WHY
Clearly understand the purpose and intent
of your message. Ask yourself what
outcome you want to achieve and the
impression you want to leave. We all know
it’s not always what you say but how you
say it that counts. Convey your message in
a cooperative and non-adversarial tone
REACH AN AGREEMENT
OR UNDERSTANDING
You must understand and be understood.
Make sure your message has been received
as intended and any questions or concerns
have been alleviated
CLARITY OF THOUGHT
Be clear about what you want to express.
Often we spend more time speaking
about superficial matters rather than
addressing core, significant and underlying
concepts. Inner clarity and thorough
communication with yourself is vital
TACT AND GOOD
MANNERS MATTER
That said, don’t let them inhibit you
from speaking your truth. If your
communication isn’t honest, integrity
is lost and relationships suffer. Tact
matters as much as honesty!
SILENCE
Communication isn’t only about the words
a person verbalises – it’s also the silence
between them. We learn about each other
by what we don’t say as much as by what
we do say. From this we can better
understand which topics to discuss, as well
as the ones to avoid.
TIPS TO IMPROVE
COMMUNICATION
Experiment with these ideas so you
can experience communication and
life more powerfully...
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