Can you describe a situation that caused to realize you were privileged? I have asked many people that question now, and what I have learned is that privilege is an Unconscious Incompetence. Being privileged is a non-event. When we become conscious of it we realize that our privileged experience is not applicable to less privileged people. What happens to them does not happen to us. Only when we become Consciously Incompetent do we realize the need to listen. We need to learn. In this talk I hope to make you realize that we all have privilege and to start a journey through self reflection to becoming Consciously Incompetent. I hope also to give some indicators and patterns that you can look for in your daily lives to recognize and maybe even to correct imbalances you see.

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2. Going To The Hairdresser
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3. Planning a Vacation
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4. Deconstructing
Privilege
@pati_gallardo Patricia Aas
NDC OSLO 2018

5. Patricia Aas - Vivaldi Browser
Programmer - mainly in C++
Helped form the organization : #include<C++>
Currently : Vivaldi Technologies
Previously : Cisco Systems, Knowit, Opera Software
Master in Computer Science - main language Java
Twitter : @pati_gallardo

6. The Four Stages of
Competence
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7. @pati_gallardo
IntegratedInformedLearning
Unconscious
Competence
Conscious
Competence
Conscious
Incompetence
Wrong
Analysis
Right
Intuition
Right
Analysis
The Four Stages of Competence
Unconscious
Incompetence
Ignorant
Wrong
Intuition

8. @pati_gallardo
That’s rude!
Definitely
offensive
Maybe
offensive?
Unconscious
Competence
Conscious
Competence
Conscious
Incompetence
Wrong
Analysis
Right
Intuition
Right
Analysis
Swearing in a Foreign Language
Unconscious
Incompetence
Fun!
Wrong
Intuition

9. @pati_gallardo
Of course
privilege is a
factor!
Privilege is a
factor in
society
Privilege
might be real
Unconscious
Competence
Conscious
Competence
Conscious
Incompetence
Wrong
Analysis
Right
Intuition
Right
Analysis
Becoming Conscious of Privilege
Unconscious
Incompetence
Privilege is a
myth!
Wrong
Intuition
I don’t believe this is a problem
because I don’t experience it!

10. Conscious Incompetence
Results in Listening
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But let’s start from the beginning…

12. So What Is Privilege?
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13. Most people have experienced hardship@pati_gallardo

14. Privilege is Being
Spared a Hardship
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15. @pati_gallardo
Do you worry about which pronoun
you use for your partner?

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Has anyone at work ever asked you
how you have sex with your partner?

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Has anyone at
work ever
commented on
your weight?

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Has anyone at work ever asked you
what your genitalia looks like?

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Has anyone ever shushed you in a
meeting?

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Are you expected to always be meek
and accommodating?

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Are certain jobs unavailable to you
because of language/accent?

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Do people ridicule you as a
parent because of your
gender?

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Do you get time off for your religious
holidays?

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Do people refuse to use your name?
And instead uses painful a name?

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Have you ever worried about whether
you can attend an event?

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Has anyone asked you if you belonged
at an event?

27. - Sexual Orientation
- Gender Identity
- Gender
- Ability
- Age
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Types of Privilege

28. - Racial / Ethnic
- Language
- Citizenship
- Religion
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Types of Privilege

29. - Socio-Economic
Background
- Class / Accent
- Education
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Types of Privilege

30. @pati_gallardo
Passing Privilege
How arbitrary is privilege?

31. Privilege is Being
Spared a Hardship
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32. Problematic
Communication
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33. @pati_gallardo
Patterns in Problematic
Communication

34. Patterns in Problematic Communication
- Competitive Communication Style
- Downplaying Issues and Concerns
- Interpreting POC (and Women) as Angry
- Not Trusting Women's Experiences and Expertise
https://twitter.com/ErynnBrook/status/1001881209733988352
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35. Examples of Problematic
Communication
(These are rarely done accidentally or in good faith)
(They are often paired with a refusal to back off)
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36. Sealioning
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37. @malki
Wondermark

38. @pati_gallardo
“Sea lioning [...] is a type of trolling or harassment
which consists of pursuing people with persistent
requests for evidence or repeated questions.
The harasser who uses this tactic also uses fake civility
so as to discredit their target.”
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sea_lioning

39. Mansplaining
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40. “The technical definition of mansplaining is when a man
explains something to a woman that she already knows,
often in a condescending tone.”
Erynn Brook @ErynnBrook
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jun/06/is-th
e-term-mansplaining-sexist-google-autocomplete
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41. @pati_gallardo
When in pain
Most people swear

42. Tone Policing
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43. “Drawing attention to the tone rather than content of a
statement can allow other parties to avoid engaging with
sound arguments presented in that statement, thus
undermining the original party's attempt to
communicate and effectively shutting them down.”
http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Tone_argument
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44. @pati_gallardo
Not All Men
An example of tone policing

45. Patterns in Problematic Communication
- Competitive Communication Style
- Downplaying Issues and Concerns
- Interpreting POC (and Women) as Angry
- Not Trusting Women's Experiences and Expertise
https://twitter.com/ErynnBrook/status/1001881209733988352
@pati_gallardo

46. What Can You Do?
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47. @pati_gallardo
Of course
privilege is a
factor!
Privilege is a
factor in
society
Privilege
might be real
Unconscious
Competence
Conscious
Competence
Conscious
Incompetence
Wrong
Analysis
Right
Intuition
Right
Analysis
Becoming Conscious of Privilege
Unconscious
Incompetence
Privilege is a
myth!
Wrong
Intuition
I don’t believe this is a problem
because I don’t experience it!

48. @pati_gallardo
Of course
there is
inequality!
There is
inequality
There might
be inequality
Unconscious
Competence
Conscious
Competence
Conscious
Incompetence
Wrong
Analysis
Right
Intuition
Right
Analysis
The Four Stages of Competence
Unconscious
Incompetence
Inequality is a
myth!
Wrong
Intuition
I believe this is a problem
But I don’t Understand it

49. Listening & Educating Yourself
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50. Become aware that situations
that you experience as
uneventful can be hostile or
even dangerous to others.
For no other reason than for
example their gender, gender
identity, sexuality, skin color or
physical/psychological
disability.
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51. Educate yourself
- Use google - read and watch
videos
- Follow people on Twitter
Do not ask minorities to explain or
justify. Read what they write without
expecting them to teach you.@pati_gallardo
How?

52. Lending Privilege (google it!)
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53. Use Your Privilege to Lift
Others Up
- Partner with them
- React when they are ignored
- Call out your peers on their
prejudice
- Sponsoring them by supporting
their careers@pati_gallardo

54. @pati_gallardo

55. What Is the Impact of
Privilege?
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57. Privilege is Being
Spared a Hardship
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58. It doesn’t mean your life was
easy, it just means you didn’t
get this additional burden
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59. Becoming aware of our
privileges opens us up to
listening & learning
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60. @pati_gallardo