Andile s topic_on_lonliness


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i was asked by my english Tutor to come up with my favourite topic while i was an intern last year 2010 at SAEP

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  1. 1. NJAMELA ANDILETOPIC ;LONLINESSLoneliness or feeling lonely owing to emotional imbalanceMan is a social creature. Normally we experience loneliness for the first time when we are away fromhome, family and friends and are no longer supported by familiar surroundings. Adapting to a newenvironment makes people uncertain of what to do or how to behave and breeds insecurities which,may coupled with the lonely nature of job or work, can make for a real sense of isolation. For thisreason, many people suffer from loneliness.Loneliness is an emotional state of mind, which is often confused with depression. Loneliness need notcause serious health problems but can do so if overlooked. Homesickness, nostalgia and many otherbehavioral negativities may increase the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can be so powerful that itmay bring about a deep and persistent feeling of uselessness and rejection from society. It is often thosewho are more used to feeling lonely who deal best with the transitional period of leaving home. Pleaseunderstand that being alone does not represent loneliness, on the contrary being alone can be veryhealthy. We all need to be alone from time to time. Some activities such thinking, reading and writingare often best done in lonely surroundings.More people suffer from loneliness than you might think. Feelings of loneliness could impede overallprogress. No matter your age or intelligence, loneliness wastes opportunities for friendship and cancause some individuals deep unbearable pain. Understanding the fundamental characteristics ofloneliness enables us to identify it in ourselves as well as in others. Loneliness or feeling lonely issomething we all suffer from in varying degrees. Excessive loneliness or feeling lonely tendency inhuman nature may develop out of apprehension, uncertainty and even fear. Once it is identified; itseffects can be reduced, obviously reducing the intensity of loneliness improves the quality of life.Introversion, self-consciousness, shyness and difficulty in approaching people to initiate relationshipsare all clear signs of being lonely. Normally lonely people are ineffective at building relationships.They avoid communication because they think interaction may result in conflicts and conflicts orproblems in a relationship mean that the relationship has failed in some way. However this is notnecessarily true, in fact healthy conflicts can make relationships stronger. Frequent Loneliness orfeeling lonely tendency in nature can leave us with a sense of low self-esteem where one become self-conscious and feels that he has been rejected; it is very difficult to overcome. Lonely people tend toblame both themselves and others for their unhappiness. They may be reluctant to even try and takenew responsibilities or take part in group-activities, and will also find it difficult to say no to things,leaving you feeling exploited and weak. Lonely people are often self-centered and think only ofthemselves.People normally prone to loneliness or feeling lonely negativity because they expect too much fromfriends and family. Many time their unrealistic expectations more than what they could reasonablyexpect from their relationships brings disillusionment, frustration and disappointment. Apart they oftenmisinterpret their loneliness for depression. This may make them behave in a depressed manner at allthe time and make the situation much more serious. Lonely people found very hasty in taking major lifedecisions. Many lonely people suffer from an unnecessary sense of urgency and desperation abouthaving to quickly establish a special confidant or partner.
  2. 2. Few of the major symptoms of loneliness feeling lonely symptom include:Self-preoccupied with excessive work.Dissatisfaction with social or family relationships.Negative attitudes towards life.Bitterness towards lifeSelf-condemnation tendencyPassing judgment on othersShaming experiencesAn inability to create, develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.Poor emotional "fit"Lack of self-motivation.Public embarrassment for poor performance
  3. 3. WorkholismLack of direction.Genetic or Biological InfluencesLeast interest in activities of others.Failure to initiate social contactLethargy.Frequent sadness, loneliness or resentmentA feeling of emptiness and being very much alone.A feeling that your intimate needs are not being met or, if they are, they seem unsatisfying.Few or no friendsBookworm or Excessive user of PCOver-reacting to everyday events that you would generally take in your stride.Feeling worthless, helpless, powerless, unacceptable, self-absorbed.
  4. 4. Passivity or pessimismFeeling separated from other people.Highly sensitive, when lacking adequate social supportFeeling bored, self-pitying, sad and sometimes depressed.Excessive time spent on academic work or solitary professional activity to the exclusion of socialinteraction.Feeling nervous and disoriented.Low self-esteem and the feeling that there is no one with whom you can communicate openly,honestly, and intimately.Loneliness or feeling lonely and Negative emotions co-relation.Often the causes of "Loneliness or feeling lonely Tendency in behavior" are more mental than physical.A bad relationship, poor self image, a history of abuse, stress, frustration and many other factors canchange your overall attitude towards life which may directly impede your overall performance. Suchtendencies are deep-rooted in mind and nurtured by excessive Negative Emotions.It is needless to mention that these negative emotions are tremendously powerful. They can debilitatelives extremely quick by causing disparity in energy system, which triggers a sequence of emotionalimbalance (i.e. frustration, melancholia, persistent agony, mental instability, uncontrolled anger,inferiority complex etc.), which ultimately culminates in ill health.IF YOU ARE ALONE DONT HESITATE COME AND TALK TO ANDILE NJAMELA.OR E-MAIL ME AT