Your one and only parenting advice book. Because no one can tell YOU how to raise YOUR kids!
You are you, I am me. Your kids are yours; mine was mine!
The book is a mixture of psychology, personal reflections and information.
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You Can Totally Screw Up As a Mom And Still Raise Great Kids
1. Parenting 201
because you still have questions
Lynn Dorman, PhD
2. The one and only parenting advice book you
will need!
Why? Because it tells you that you need not
listen to the parenting experts [including me.]
I call myself the anti-expert expert
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3. Ask
yourself:
Who is • Me?
raising your • The books?
child or • You?
children?
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4. There are parenting books that spell out what to
do, when, tell you exactly how to play with your
children, and what exactly to say to them under
specific circumstances.
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5. If that is what you are looking for – let me
say upfront this is NOT the book for you!!
Please do not buy it!!
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6. Your child is yours!
Not mine
Not the other authors
Not your parents
Not your in-laws
Not you neighbors
Not those concerned others
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7. Being a parent is the hardest –
yet most rewarding thing you
will do in your life….
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9. Having a child is a major undertaking; one that
often leaves you wondering on a daily basis:
did I do the right thing?
did I make a mistake?
how will this affect my kid?
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10. Or:
What do I do when [x] occurs?
What do I do to get [child] to do [x]?
Do I reward? Punish? If so – for what?
How do I reward or punish?
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11. It’s a long list of questions when you fill in
the x’s –
and there are no specific answers that
anyone can give you...
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12. When I am asked, I pose back a whole lot
more questions:
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13. Why do you ask?
What about the situation is important for your child?
What about the situation is important for you?
Is this your issue or the child’s?
What else is going on in your home, work?
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14. Mostly I want you to think about:
Is this issue really worth a big fight?
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15. I don’t give answers – I give lots of information,
advice, ask questions and let you know about
potential consequences.
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16. You then make your own intelligent decisions
based on all this thinking!
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17. I did this questioning as a parent and as a
therapist; I do it as a professor, a coach
and an author.
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18. I can’t really tell you how to live your life or
raise your kids.
I am not you!
You are not me!
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19. I raised my son this way and he is now one fine,
thinking, concerned-about-the-world adult!
Moms are allowed to brag – always!
[Tattoos? I have one too –
he bought it for me as
a birthday present!]
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20. Did I make mistakes along the way?
Of course I did! I’m human!
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21. Did we come out ok? Yes!
Why? Because at the heart of parenting is
the communication between you and your
child.
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22. You can always make it better tomorrow –
or even later today.
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23. Slow down and take a deep
breath!
Say “I’m sorry.”
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24. An “I’m sorry,” a hug, kiss, smile, touch, or saying
“I love you” goes a long way in countering any
mistakes you think you made.
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25. YES!!
You Can Totally Screw Up As A Mom
And Still Raise Great Kids
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