This document provides advice on self-management and success. It discusses that every successful person has overcome failures and painful experiences. It defines success as achieving one's desires and goals, which can vary between individuals. The document emphasizes setting goals, both long-term and short-term, with target dates. It also stresses the importance of time management, prioritizing tasks, and having a plan to achieve goals through small, achievable stages. Strong desire, self-confidence, and learning from failures and feedback are identified as characteristics of successful people.

1. SELF MANAGEMENT
How to be successful in Life?
by
PROF (Lt Col) DAYAKAR THOTA

2. FAILURE IS NOT A CRIME
;
 FAILURE TO NOT TO LEARN
FROM FAILURES SHOULD BE.”
-WALTER WINSTON

10. Every successful person has a
Every successful person has apainful story.
painful story.
Every painful story has a successful ending.
Every painful story has a
successful ending.
Accept the pain and get
ready for
success.
Accept the pain and get
ready for success.

11. WHAT IS SUCCESS ?
It differs from person to person, time to time &
circumstances – it is relative
Distinguish between money & success
Success must give one happiness
Happiness is better enjoyed & more lasting if it is
achieved by your own efforts

12. Web site:presidentofindia.nic.in
(Reader’s Digest; November 2004)
Abhishek Shetty, Std VIII:
According to you, what is ‘achievement’?
The President APJ:
That which gives happiness and fulfillment.
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HENCE, DEFINE YOUR OWN
MEANING OF SUCCESS

13. Have Dreams
"DREAM is not what you see
in sleep,
DREAM is the thing which
does not let you sleep“
-- APJ Kalam

14. GOALS
Goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort, A
destination, An aim – (oxford)
Goals are the purpose of life.
One who does not know where he wants to go will reach
nowhere.
Goals are a must -- if you want to succeed.
SUCCESS IS REALISATION OF YOUR DESIRES /
AMBITIONS /GOALS

15. GOALS
You can achieve anything if you really want
Goals must be challenging, should be pragmatic, i.e.,
Goals may be ambitious but achievable and must inspire
a strong desire
Goals could be personal or / and organizational
GOALS –of SURVIVAL or ACHIEVEMENT
HAVE POSITIVE GOALS
YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU WANT
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

16. GOAL SETTING
Goals must be set in the back drop of SWOT
analysis of self.
TAKE STOCK OF SELF
• Carry out a detailed analysis of your own strengths &
weaknesses.
• Make a list of all positive & negative attributes of self.
• Peruse the list from time to time and, if need be,
REVISE & UPDATE.

17. YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK
Don’t get into Elephant mind set

18. Don’t Act Like An Elephant !
Strange statement, isn’t it?
LET ME EXPLAIN:
You know that in our
country elephants are
used for manual labor.
But what to do with
them when they are not
behaving? How to
restrain them?

19. Their handlers came up with the idea to “program”
them while they are still very young by setting self-
imposed limits into their thinking.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
When the elephants are still
small, weighing around 150
pounds they get tied up with a
very heavy rope.
All day long, the elephants try
to get rid of it, whine, tug at it
and some of them even try to
chew it.

20. Finally the elephant
gives up and the fight is
over.
From this moment on, they
strongly believe that there
is absolutely no chance to
get rid of the rope.

21. They accept the “fact” that the rope limits
them. And with this imprinted belief in
place, their handlers are able to tie them
with extremely small ropes, even as adults
weighing 8,000 pounds and more, they
never attempt to break free, because they
“know” they have no chance at all!
As you can see, the
elephants limits are
not real but exist
only in their mind.

22. We also have built-in boundaries.
They are also not real but exist only in our minds. But it
doesn’t have to stay this way. Our negative belief
systems don’t have to limit us for good.
If you truly want to become
successful and are not
kidding yourself, you can
change your inner belief
system, your attitude, and
break your inner
boundaries.

23. JOHARI WINDOWS
FEED BACK
KNOWN TO UNKNOWN TO
SELF SELF
E
X
P ARENA
ARENA BLIND SPOT
BLIND SPOT KNOWN TO
O OTHERS
S
U FAÇADE UNKNOWN UNKNOWN TO
FACADE UNKNOWN
R OTHERS
E
(JOSEPH LUFT & HARRY INGHAM)

24. COURAGE IS WHAT IT TAKES
TO STAND UP AND SPEAK;
COURAGE IS ALSO WHAT IT
TAKES TO SIT DOWN AND LISTEN.
-WINSTON CHURCHIL

25. GOAL SETTING - Contd
Make a list of all your goals
- Long term
- Medium term
- Short term
All the medium & short term goals should dove
tail and lead to the Long term goal.
SET DEADLINES –
TARGET DATES / MONTHS / YEARS

26. NOBODY go back and BACK TO
No one can CAN GO
START a bad beginning; BEGINNING;
change A NEW
BUT ANYONE CAN START
But anyone can start now and
TODAY TO MAKE A NEW
create a successful ending.

27. TIME MANAGEMENT
TIME & TIDE WAIT FOR NONE
Make a list of all the jobs to be done a day before
All these jobs must, in some measure, lead toward
your goal (s)
Prioritize and pick up the tough & dirty job first
Adhere to the list
Tick off the jobs completed :Review the job list at
the end of the day

28. People don’t plan to fail;they fail to plan
Every success is the result of a plan
1. Set a deadline
2. Break the plan down into easily achievable
stages
3. Be prepared to change direction
4. CHECK YOUR PLAN with THE PROGRESS
5. Concentrate your thoughts on what you want

29. 6. Ask opinions from qualified persons only
7. Consider what you have to do to achieve your
goal
8. Ensure your plan is visible to you at all times -
do not loose sight
The person who is sure nothing can be done is
usually the one who has never done anything

30. ALL THE BATTLES ARE
WON OR LOST
IN THE MINDS OF THE
COMMANDERS
MUCH BEFORE THEY ARE
FOUGHT

31. What makes a successful person ?
Self confidence
Mental robustness
Conceptualisation
Extrapolation
Burning ambition to achieve

32. Dreams
"DREAM is not what you see
in sleep,
DREAM is the thing which
does not let you sleep“
-- APJ Kalam

33. STRONG DESIRE
IS

34. THE CARDINAL PRINCIPLES
1. Control over one’s speech –talk less; hear more
2. Control ego – don’t be “I” specialist
3. Be empathetic / follow righteous path
4. Be clear about your goals
5. Dream / imagine & feel your goals
6. Pursue the goals steadfastly
7. Be positive
8. Success will be yours