Merging finances is an important step for newlyweds. Couples should 1) create a joint budget that accounts for both partners' incomes and expenses to avoid financial surprises. They also need to 2) decide how to share financial responsibilities like bill payments, savings, and discretionary spending. Finally, 3) establishing clear communication about financial matters is essential for avoiding arguments down the road. Open discussion of individual priorities and mutual financial goals can help couples develop a unified strategy.

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n Tips on choosing the ring — 1
n The advantages of having a
wedding planner — 2
n Checklist for the bride — 3
n Wedding budget planner — 4-5
n How to get the best deals on
wedding services — 6
n Checklist for the groom — 7
n Tips for newlyweds about to
merge their finances — 8
n Choose a wedding date
wisely — 9
n What to wear checklist — 10-11
n A guide to purchasing
a tuxedo — 12
n Tuxedo history — 13
n Choosing the right bridal gown
— 14-15
n Makeup tips for the big day — 16
n Make sure your shoes
a r e b o t h c o m f o r t a b l e
and fashionable — 17
n Planning the reception — 18
n Explore options with alternative
reception sites — 19
n Choosing the right wedding
reception favors — 20
n Don’t underestimate the
importance of wedding day
photography — 21
n Explore unique cake flavor
combinations — 22-23
n Brides look for some-
thing blue — and more —
in jewelry — 24
n How to calm those last-
minute jitters — 25
n How to approach music on your
wedding day — 26
n How to make your wedding
eco-friendly — 27
n How to stay energized
throughout your wedding day — 28
n The proper etiquette of writing
thank-you notes — 29
n Pointers for packing for your
honeymoon — 30
n Local bridal shows — 31
n Weddings by the numbers — 32
n Symbolic gestures — 32
Table of Contents
Congratulations!
In a 2011 survey by from
XO Group, Inc., former-
ly The Knot Inc., the aver-
age engagement ring costs
Americans $5,200. Consid-
ering an engagement ring
is typically a once-in-a-life-
time purchase, many men
say the high cost is war-
ranted and are even willing
to finance the purchase or
push their budgets to pro-
cure a beautiful ring.
It can take a groom-to-
be around three months to
find his (and her) ideal ring,
sometimes longer. Consid-
ering a ring is such a sig-
nificant investment, it pays
to have some knowledge in
gem selection.
Having an idea of what
you want can help anyone
get a better deal, whether
one is shopping for a new
sofa or an engagement ring.
An informed shopper can
avoid being taken advan-
tage of or buying some-
thing that really isn’t worth
the asking price.
The 4 Cs is a good place
for shoppers to get start-
ed. Various attributes affect
the value, quality and beau-
ty of a diamond. The 4 Cs
stand for cut, color, clari-
ty, and carat weight. The
cut refers to the shape of
the stone as well as the
skill involved in achieving
the shape of the facets so
that it reflects the light bril-
liantly. The color is desig-
nated by the International
Gemological Institute. The
grading color in a diamond
determines how closely a
diamond’s color approach-
es colorlessness. The low-
er the letter in the alpha-
bet, the whiter the stone.
Clarity refers to the
amount, size, type, and
location of internal flaws
in a diamond, also known
as inclusions. The cost of
the diamond increases
when there are fewer in-
clusions in the stone. Fi-
nally, the carat weight is
the size and weight of the
stone. The larger the stone,
the more pricey it can be.
Another question to ask
is which style of ring your
girlfriend prefers? Your fi-
ancee-to-be may have a
certain setting style and di-
amond shape preference.
It pays to know what she
wants, including the type
of setting the stone will be
encased in. You should also
know whether she will be
happy with a larger stone
that may have some imper-
fections not easily seen to
the naked eye or a smaller,
flawless stone.
L
ong before couples stand before an officiant and say, “I do,” many make
another pledge to each other by getting engaged and agreeing to begin
a new life together. Here are some tips on finding the right ring.
Tips on choosing the ring

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P
lanning a wed-
ding is often both
fun and frustrat-
ing. While planning a
party for friends and
family can be fun, cou-
ples can easily be over-
whelmed by the nuts
and bolts of planning
such a significant event.
Interviewing vendors,
negotiating prices and ar-
ranging for accommoda-
tions are just a few of the
many tasks couples must
complete before they can fi-
nally relax and tie the knot.
The sheer volume of deci-
sions couples must make
when planning a wedding is
one reason many men and
women seek the services of
wedding planners. The fol-
lowing are some addition-
al reasons couples might
want to ease their burdens
and hire wedding planners
as they get ready for their
big day.
n Planners are famil-
iar with vendors. Wedding
planners work for couples,
and while planners often
recommend certain ven-
dors, they typically work
with whomever the couples
ultimately choose. As a re-
sult, veteran wedding plan-
ners tend to have worked
with every florist, caterer,
deejay, and venue in their
areas. Wedding planners
also can make recommen-
dations based on what
couples want. For exam-
ple, wedding planners may
know which deejays are
best for more raucous re-
ceptions and which ones
are best suited for couples
who want a more formal af-
fair.
n Planners know pric-
ing. Wedding vendors often
leave room for negotiation
when making proposals
to prospective customers.
Seasoned wedding plan-
ners will know the going
The advantages of hiring a wedding planner
ThePerksof
Plannersrates for various servic-
es, helping couples get the
best rates possible and do-
ing so with minimal effort.
In addition, planners might
be able to negotiate direct-
ly with vendors they have
worked with in the past, re-
moving one of the biggest
stressors of planning a wed-
ding, the negotiation pro-
cess.
n Planners remember
the small details you’re
likely to forget. Many cou-
ples who have large wed-
dings are getting mar-
ried for the first time, and
there are bound to be de-
tails they overlook along
the way. Seasoned wedding
planners are far less likely
to overlook even the tiniest
of details, helping couples
rest easy knowing that no
stone has gone unturned as
their big days draw closer
and closer.
n Planners keep you on
course. The longer a cou-
ple’s engagement, the easi-
er it becomes to put certain
decisions off. But as the
wedding day draws nearer,
that procrastination often
turns into panic, as couples
realize their options dwin-
dling and decisions need
to be made as soon as pos-
sible. Wedding planners
hired shortly after a couple
gets engaged will be there
to ensure couples stay on
track, making decisions as
needed and not putting im-
portant decisions off until
the last minute.
n Planners make the
wedding day less stress-
ful. Despite all the planning
and preparation that goes
into their weddings, cou-
ples often find their wed-
ding days to be whirlwind
days that seem to fly by.
Small problems on a cou-
ple’s wedding day have a
tendency to be magni-
fied, but a seasoned wed-
ding planner can address
such issues before the cou-
ple is even aware they ex-
isted. This makes the day
much more enjoyable for
the bride and groom and
their investment in a wed-
ding planner that much
more worthwhile. `

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Nine to 12 months
before the wedding
_ Decide how large, how formal the wedding will be.
_ Set a tentative budget.
_ Choose the date, time of the ceremony, reception.
_ Make an appointment with the official performing the
ceremony.
_ Compose a guest list with names and addresses.
_ Shop for the wedding rings.
_ Shop for the wedding dress and accessories.
_ Choose the colors for the ceremony and reception.
_ Select the attendants, their dresses and accessories.
_ Choose the photographer, videographer, transporta-
tion, entertainment and caterer.
_ Begin planning the honeymoon.
Six to nine months
_ Announce the engagement if you have not done so
already.
_ Register gifts at selected stores or online.
_ Choose a florist and have a consultation with the
florist about floral needs and preferences.
Three to six months
_ Order invitations and personal stationery, allowing at
least four weeks for delivery.
_ Keep a record of all gifts received and send thank-
you notes as gifts arrive.
_ Help mothers select their dresses.
_ Double-check that all bridal attire has been ordered.
_ Shop for your trousseau if necessary.
_ Choose a baker for the wedding cake.
Two to three months
_ Start addressing the wedding invitations.
_ Shop for wedding accessories such as toasting
goblets, ring pillow and garter.
_ Confirm all ceremony and reception reservations.
_ Make wedding rehearsal arrangements.
_ Ask family members or friends to help with the guest
book or gifts at the reception.
_ Confirm honeymoon plans and get passport if
necessary.
_ Confirm flower orders with florist.
One month before the wedding
_ Mail invitations.
_ Finish wedding dress fittings.
_ Choose gifts for the attendants.
_ Arrange accommodations for out-of-town guests.
_ Purchase wedding album and guest book.
_ Choose a wedding gift for the groom.
_ Apply for a marriage license.
The week of the wedding
_ Send the final estimate of guests to the caterer.
_ Double-check all bookings: Photographer, videog-
rapher, baker, entertainment, florist.
_ Pack for the honeymoon.
_ Send maps to out-of-town guests or post them on-
line.
The day of the wedding
_ Have your hair styled and makeup done.
_ Begin getting dressed at least 90 minutes before the
ceremony.
After the honeymoon
_ Finish thank-you notes.
_ If changing your name, notify authorities in charge
of driver’s license, Social Security card, bank accounts
and credit cards.
Checklist for
the Bride

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Ceremony
Location fee ________________________________________
Officiant fee ________________________________________
Marriage license ____________________________________
Rings _____________________________________________
Pillow _____________________________________________
Total ceremony: $_________________________________
Reception
Reception Site ______________________________________
Food ______________________________________________
Drinks ____________________________________________
Rentals ____________________________________________
Cake ______________________________________________
Favors ____________________________________________
Total reception: $__________________________________
Attire
Gown _____________________________________________
Headpiece/veil ______________________________________
Undergarments / hose ________________________________
Shoes _____________________________________________
Accessories
Jewelry ___________________________________________
Makeup ___________________________________________
Hair ______________________________________________
Tuxedo ____________________________________________
Shoes _____________________________________________
Cuff links __________________________________________
Men’s grooming _____________________________________
Total attire: $______________________________________
Music
Ceremony musicians _________________________________
Band/DJ ___________________________________________
Extra musicians _____________________________________
Total music: $_____________________________________
Flowers
Ceremony _________________________________________
Bride’s bouquet _____________________________________
Bridesmaids’ bouquets _______________________________
Corsages and boutonnieres ____________________________
Reception centerpieces _______________________________
Flower girl basket ___________________________________
Bathroom arrangements ______________________________
Total flowers: $____________________________________
Wedding Budget Planner

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Transportation
Limousines ____________________________________________
Buses/transport for guests ________________________________
Total transportation: $__________________________________
Stationary
Invitations _____________________________________________
Postage _______________________________________________
Thank-you cards ________________________________________
Calligraphy ____________________________________________
Total stationery: $______________________________________
Photography
Total photography: $___________________________________
Gifts
Wedding party _________________________________________
Parents _______________________________________________
Other _________________________________________________
Total gifts: $__________________________________________
Honeymoon
Accommodations ______________________________________
Food _________________________________________________
Total honeymoon: $____________________________________

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Vendors vary considerably with re-
gard to their willingness to negotiate,
but the following are a few tips for
couples hoping to get the best deals
possible on their wedding services.
n Prepare, prepare, prepare. When
working with any wedding vendor,
whether it’s a wedding venue repre-
sentative, a local florist or a deejay,
couples should know what the go-
ing rate for the vendor’s services are.
Couples who find a venue they like
should receive quotes from similar
venues before negotiating a rate with
the venue they most prefer. Arming
oneself with quotes from competitors
increases the chances of receiving a
more couple-friendly quote from the
venue liked best, as that venue won’t
want to lose business, especially to
one of its chief competitors. In addi-
tion to pricing, estimates from other
venues can vary based on what they
include. Even if a favorite venue does
not come down much on its original
quote, they may be willing to add ex-
tra services, such as an open bar or
an extra hour during the reception,
free of charge to match a competi-
tor’s offer.
n Avoid making demands. The
right tone can go a long way with
wedding vendors, who are typical-
ly more willing to work with couples
who treat them nicely than couples
who enter the negotiation process
full of demands.
n Don’t be afraid to ask for more.
Making demands and asking for
more are not the same thing. When
negotiating with wedding vendors,
there’s no harm in asking for more.
Reception venues often have the
most wiggle room, so don’t be afraid
to ask for free coffee with dessert or
valet parking.
n Make sure all contracts are item-
ized, and read them thoroughly be-
fore signing on the dotted line. When
hiring a wedding vendor, make sure
the contract is itemized, spelling out
in intimate detail just what was ne-
gotiated and how much each item
costs. Couples may even notice items
in the contract that can be removed,
saving them a few dollars as a re-
sult. Be especially mindful of extra
fees that can add up. For example,
some venues try to make up for lower
rates couples negotiated by tacking
on fees for cutting the cake or other
minute details.
n Remember there are two parties
involved in the negotiation process.
Couples might have to be flexible in
order to make their dream weddings
a reality. Some vendors charge con-
siderably less during certain times
of the year than they do during peak
wedding season. If couples are find-
ing it impossible to afford the wed-
ding of their dreams during peak
wedding season, they should consid-
er tying the knot during a less pop-
ular time of year, when venues and
vendors can offer them more com-
petitive rates.
How to get the best deals on wedding services
Negotiation Know-How
M
any engaged couples have grandiose visions of their wed-
ding days. While such visions typically come to fruition,
they often do so only after heavy negotiations with the
various vendors necessary to turn a dream wedding into a reality.

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Nine to 12 months
before the wedding
_ Discuss the wedding date, size, style and budget with your
fiancee.
_ Choose your best man and ushers.
_ Shop for your wedding rings with your fiancee.
_ Begin planning the honeymoon and booking accommodations
and transportation.
_ Help compose a guest list with names and addresses.
Six to nine months before the wedding
_ Help your fiancee register gift preferences at selected stores or
online.
_ Choose formalwear for yourself, groomsmen.
Three to six months before the wedding
_ Check requirements for blood tests, marriage license.
_ Finalize honeymoon plans, get a passport if necessary.
Two to three months before the wedding
_ Start addressing the wedding invitations.
_ Reserve your wedding attire.
_ Plan and make reservations for the rehearsal dinner, which usu-
ally is hosted by the groom’s family.
_ Meet with the florist — the groom traditionally pays for the
bridal bouquet and all corsages and boutonnieres.
Six to eight weeks before the wedding
_ Choose gifts for best man and groomsmen.
_ Purchase a wedding gift for the bride.
_Adjust insurance policies to fit married status.
_ Pick up the wedding rings.
_Apply for a marriage license with your fiancee.
Two weeks before the wedding
_ Double-check honeymoon reservations and tickets; purchase
traveler’s checks if necessary.
_ Pack for the honeymoon.
_ Send maps to out-of-town guests or post them online.
The week of the wedding
_ Give the marriage license and officiant’s fee to the best man.
_ Present gifts to best man and groomsmen at the rehearsal dinner.
The day of the wedding
_ Give wedding rings to the best man.
_ Make sure both of you have signed the wedding certificate and
put it in a safe place before leaving on the honeymoon.
After the honeymoon
_ Help your wife finish the thank-you notes.
Checklist for the Groom

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Combining finances can
be a touchy subject for many
couples, especially those
who had not given much
thought to their finances
prior to tying the knot. But
there are steps couples can
take to make the process of
merging finances go more
smoothly.
n Discuss finances early
and often. Allowing financ-
es to be the elephant in the
room is a mistake, as cou-
ples do not want to begin
their lives together treading
lightly around an issue as
significant as finances. Cou-
ples should discuss their ex-
penditures and spending
habits as early as possible,
as one of the biggest hurdles
newly married couples must
clear is coming to grips with
one another’s financial hab-
its. If such habits have al-
ready been discussed, then
developing a financial plan
will be much easier once
that time comes. When dis-
cussing finances, define
both short-term and long-
term goals and how each of
you can adjust your spend-
ing habits to make those
goals come true.
n Pay off any debts. The
cost of weddings has sky-
rocketed over the last sever-
al decades, and many new-
lyweds find themselves in
a considerable amount of
debt upon returning from
their honeymoons. When
merging finances, couples
should prioritize paying
down such debt, as debt is
a significant source of stress
for newlyweds and long-
married couples alike. New-
ly married couples with lit-
tle or no debt should avoid
spending above their means
in the months after they
get married. Such spend-
ing is commonplace, as new-
ly married couples often
want to fully furnish their
new homes or reward them-
selves for pulling off their
weddings. But new debt can
be just as stressful on a mar-
riage as debt from the wed-
ding, so avoid this poten-
tially problematic pitfall by
paying down existing debts
with your newly merged fi-
nances.
n Make note of mutual ex-
penses and open a joint ac-
count to pay for those ex-
penses. Mutual expenses
like mortgage payments,
food and utilities should be
the responsibility of each
partner, and a joint ac-
count should be established
to handle such expenses.
Merging finances is an issue many newly married couples face
upon returning from their honeymoons.
Managing your money together
Tips for newlyweds about to merge finances
N
ewlyweds often have a lot on their plates
upon returning from their honeymoons. One
of the more critical issues newly married cou-
ples must address is their finances and how those fi-
nances will be combined going forward.
When opening a joint ac-
count, discuss how much
and how often each part-
ner will contribute money.
One partner might earn
considerably more mon-
ey than another, so work
out a reasonable agree-
ment that details how
much each partner will
contribute each month,
and whether such con-
tributions will be made
on a weekly, bi-weekly or
monthly basis.
n Make concessions for
one another. When merg-
ing finances, couples often
discover that they don’t
see eye-to-eye on how
each person spends mon-
ey. Couples who success-
fully merge their finances
often note the importance
of making concessions
with regard to their part-
ners’ spending on cer-
tain hobbies or luxuries.
As long as those hobbies
are not putting couples in
debt or jeopardizing their
financial goals, couples
can make concessions so
their partners continue to
be happy and enjoy their
favorite activities.
When merging finances,
couples should prioritize paying
down such debt, as debt is a
significant source of stress for
newlyweds and long-married
couples alike.
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Couples should de-
cide if there are certain
times of the year they
want to tie the knot or
avoid.
Month
Certain months may
may not be good for
busy professionals or
those with limited va-
cation time. For ex-
ample, early spring
may not be good for
accountants tally-
ing year-end num-
bers. Teachers may
feel most comfortable
tying the knot in the
summer when they al-
ready have days off. If
you run a pool busi-
ness or a lawn mainte-
nance company, then
the summer might not
be so good.
Holidays
Holiday weddings
can be exciting, but
they also produce sig-
nificant obstacles.
Guests may not want
to travel or spend time
away from their fam-
ilies to attend a holi-
day wedding. Having a
wedding during a hol-
iday may mean com-
peting for vendors and
reception spaces. Pric-
es on everything from
food to flowers to air-
line tickets could be
higher as vendors cash
in on customer de-
mand.
Day of the week
It’s less expensive for
couples to get married
on Fridays and Sun-
days than Saturday af-
ternoons or evenings.
Couples may think
that the money saved
will be well worth it,
but they also should
think about how this
decision may affect
their guests. A Friday
wedding requires peo-
ple to take off from
work or school. Sun-
day weddings may be
slightly more conve-
nient, but those who
have to get back to
work on Monday may
be tired.
Any available
dates
If you have a par-
ticular venue in mind,
you may be limited by
their availability. This
is a concession you will
need to make if your
heart is set on a partic-
ular location.
Choose a
wedding
date wisely
M
any couples find themselves bombarded with questions
the moment they become engaged. Perhaps no ques-
tions is more common than, “When is the wedding?”

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Bridal attire
Gown
Gown style/name __________________________________
Store name _____________________________________
Address _________________________________________
Phone ___________________________________________
Consultant’s name _________________________________
Dress size _______________ Color ___________________
Headpiece/veil style ________________________________
Fitting dates ______________________________________
Final pick-up date __________________________________
Deposit amount ____________________________________
Balance due ______________________________________
Total cost _________________________________________
Accessories
Shoe style ________________________________________
Store ____________________________________________
Color ____________________________________________
Size _____________________________________________
Expected arrival ___________________________________
Cost _____________________________________________
Jewelry
Necklace _________________________________________
Earrings _________________________________________
Hair accessories __________________________________
Lingerie
Slip _____________________________________________
Hosiery __________________________________________
Bra/bustier _______________________________________
Garter ___________________________________________
Camisole ________________________________________
Bridesmaid attire
Gowns
Gown style/name __________________________________
Store name _______________________________________
Address __________________________________________
Phone ___________________________________________
Consultant’s name _________________________________
Color(s) __________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Fitting dates ______________________________________
Final pick-up date __________________________________
Deposit amount ____________________________________
Balance due ______________________________________
Total cost ________________________________________
Accessories
Shoes ___________________________________________
Store ____________________________________________
Color(s) __________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Expected arrival ___________________________________
Cost _____________________________________________
What to Wear Checklist

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Jewelry
Necklaces ________________________________________
Earrings _________________________________________
Hair accessories ___________________________________
Lingerie
Slips ____________________________________________
Hosiery __________________________________________
Bras/bustiers ______________________________________
Groom/groomsmen attire
Tuxedos
Tuxedo style/name _________________________________
Store name _______________________________________
Address __________________________________________
Phone ___________________________________________
Consultant’s name _________________________________
Color ____________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Fitting dates ______________________________________
Final pick-up date __________________________________
Deposit amount ____________________________________
Balance due ______________________________________
Total cost _________________________________________
Accessories
Shoes ___________________________________________
Store ____________________________________________
Color __________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Expected arrival ___________________________________
Cost _____________________________________________
Cummerbund/Vest _________________________________
Color(s) __________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Ties _____________________________________________
Store ____________________________________________
Color ____________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Rings
Style ____________________________________________
Sizes ____________________________________________
Consultant’s name _________________________________
Final pick-up date __________________________________
Deposit amount ____________________________________
Balance due ______________________________________
Total cost _________________________________________

12. 12 Weddings 2014-15
A guide on purchasing a tuxedo
Threads for Grooms
G
entlemen getting ready to tie the knot will have to make certain
wardrobe choices so they look their best on their big day. Although
many grooms-to-be rent tuxedos on their wedding day, it may be
more cost-effective to purchase a tuxedo.
Men frequently called upon to attend formal
events may find purchasing a tuxedo is a wise in-
vestment. There are several advantages to own-
ing a tux rather than renting one time and again.
Tuxedos typically cost around $1,000, whereas
renting tuxedos can be $200 or more each time,
making it advantageous for men who frequent-
ly don tuxedos to purchase their own rather than
rent.
Another advantage to owning a tuxedo is the
opportunity to wear a tux that is custom-made
and tailored just for you. Instead of a rental that
will merely be stitched temporarily to fit your
measurements, a tuxedo you purchase will be tai-
lored specifically to your body, increasing comfort
and making you look better as well.
Men worried about purchasing a tuxedo only to
see their waistlines increase or decrease should
keep in mind that many tuxedo shops offer free
tailoring for as long as you own the tuxedo.
When purchasing a tuxedo, men should
choose classic styles and colors so they can
enjoy the tux for years to come. Opt for a slim-
fitting white shirt underneath that won’t bil-
low out when jackets are removed. Men who
want to break from tradition can opt for a
shirt that is a pale blue or light gray to wear
under the jacket. This is still an understated
look, but one with a hint of creativity.
A classic, black bow tie is an ideal match when
purchasing a more classic tuxedo. The bow tie
is back in a big way, and men who want to spice
things up can purchase more traditional neckties
for those occasions when they don’t want to wear
bow ties.
Tuxedos come with different lapel styles, and
it’s important to know the differences. Today’s
most popular style is the notch lapel, wherein a
triangular indentation is cut where the lapel joins
the collar. This lapel mimics the shape of a clas-
sic suit. A peak lapel is the quintessential classic,
featuring a broad, V-shaped lapel that points up
and out just below the collar line. A shawl lapel
is a smooth, rounded edge lapel. The shawl lapel
reached the height of its popularity in the 1950s,
but it can still look good today.
The photo to the left is an example of a notch lapel tuxedo, which
has become the most popular style of recent years.
When purchasing a tuxedo,
men should choose classic styles
and colors so they can enjoy the
tux for years to come.

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The origins of the modern tuxedo remain a topic for debate, but one of
the more widely known tales of the tuxedo’s beginning traces this clas-
sic look to a wealthy tobacco magnate of the 19th century. Pierre
Lorillard lived with his family in a residential colony called Tuxedo
Park, which was roughly 40 miles northwest of New York City.The
Lorillards were popular in social circles, and Pierre helped establish
the area as a prime hunting and fishing destination. Lorillard also
developed a social organization called the Tuxedo Club, which
regularly hosted balls.At the time, men wore dinner jackets with
long tails to formal events. However, Lorillard wanted something
different and modern, and he commissioned a tailless black jacket to
wear to the Tuxedo Club’s Autumn Ball. Lorillard got cold feet in time for
the ball and did not wear the shorter jacket. However, his son, Griswold,
did wear the short jacket and received much praise. Soon the style was
copied and worn in various social circles across the country.The
“tuxedo” was born, and soon became a timeless classic.
Tuxedo History

14. 14 Weddings 2014-15
Choosing the right bridal gown
Wedding
dress
silhouettes
Wedding
dress
silhouettes
F
ew wardrobe decisions are
scrutinized as much as a
bride-to-be’s choice of wed-
ding gown. Finding the perfect
gown that flatters the future bride’s
figure while stunning her guests
and soon-to-be husband is a labor
of love for many brides.
The Bridal Association of Ameri-
ca estimates a bride-to-be will spend
between $1,500 and $2,000 total on her
gown, veil and accessories. Brides often
spend months, if not years, shopping for
the right gown. Finding the right gown
means having an understanding of what
silhouettes are available and what flat-
ters certain body types. After all, you
want to look like the best version of your-
self when getting married. Here is a look
of some of the common types of gown sil-
houettes and why choosing this shape
might be right for you.
Ballgown
A ballgown dress is truly a classic style,
evoking images of fairy tale princesses.
With a fitted bodice and full skirt that
flairs at the waist, this silhouette is usu-
ally good for all body types. Because the
full skirt, typically poofed-up by crinoline
and will hide the hips and thighs, wom-
en with a pear shape might gravitate to-
ward this style. The ballgown style may
not be ideal for petite women, as the
skirt may overwhelm their figures.
A-line
Another silhouette very forgiving or
appropriate for many body types is the
A-line gown. A-line cut dresses should
be the go-to style for anyone looking to
minimize perceived flaws. The cut of the
dress will fit to the waist and gradually
fan out from the hips to form the outline
of an uppercase “A.” When in doubt, A-
line gowns are classic and sensible and a
favorite among brides.
Trumpet
Women who prefer something a little
more form-fitting may select a trumpet
silhouette. This dress is fitted through
the body and then the gown flares out
at mid-thigh level. Women with taught
stomachs and hourglass figures can ben-
efit from this style gown, but those who
do not want anything tight in the hips
and thighs will want to select something
else.

15. Weddings 152014-15
Mermaid
A bit more fitted than the trumpet,
this silhouette is close to the body
from the chest down to the knee. The
skirt then flares out slightly by the
knee. Tall, thin women generally look
best in this type of gown.
Modified A-line
A balance between a traditional
A-line and a more fitted gown, the
modified A-line does not flare out as
much. But it does flare out enough
from the waist to hide areas around
the hips and thighs. This is another
good choice for a wide array of figures.
Tea length
Brides who do not want a gown
that reaches the floor can opt for a
tea length dress, on which the skirt
generally falls between the ankle and
the knee.
Sheath
Lean brides who want simplicity
in their gowns can opt for a sheath
silhouette. The narrow shape of the
gown from the neckline to the hem
will definitely accentuate the body
shape. Therefore, women who are
shy may want to select a different op-
tion. Petite women who may be over-
whelmed by more fabric can usually
wear a sheath gown with success.
Although a bride may have a wedding
gown style in mind, it is a good idea to
try on a number of different silhouettes to
find the one that is most flattering. Bridal
salon employees are usually well-versed
in matching body type to a gown and can
prove invaluable when selecting a dress.
Finding the right gown means having
an understanding of what silhouettes are
available and what flatters
certain body types.

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Makeup tips for the big day
Best Face ForwardBest Face Forward
B
rides want their best features enhanced and have the
makeup add to their beauty rather than outshine it.
Brides want guests to notice their faces and gowns
and not their makeup.
Here are some other tips
brides can employ:
n Begin preparations a few
days prior to the wedding. If
you will be enhancing your
skin color with a spray-tan, do
so at least two days prior to
the wedding. By the third day
the color will set and appear
more natural. The same idea
applies to your brows. Tweez-
ing, waxing and threading can
create irritation and redness.
Have your brows profession-
ally shaped a few days before
the wedding and then do a mi-
nor touch-up with your twee-
zer the night before.
n Start out with well hydrat-
ed and moisturized skin. Ap-
ply a few layers of moisturizer,
preferably one with an SPF if
you will be spending time out
in the sun.
n Match your foundation
color to your natural skin col-
or. When these colors don’t
match, your face may look
like it is a separate shade from
your neck and decolletage. A
foundation that has slightly
yellow undertones will even
out redness on the face and
look better in photos.
n Use an eyebrow pencil or
powder to fill in your brows.
This is a must for your wed-
ding day and can really help
to frame your eyes. Use small,
light flicks of the pencil rath-
er than long strokes to make
the color blend naturally. Use
a brush to blend in further. Al-
ways go a shade or two light-
er than your natural color. Fin-
ish with a gel that will set the
hairs into place.
n Complement your lips
and eyes. Many brides like
to play up their eyes on their
wedding days. If you are going
for a dramatic eye, opt for a
more neutral lip, and vice ver-
sa. Neutral colors look best for
weddings and will not appear
dated in photos. Stick to sub-
tle browns and taupes for uni-
versal flattery on most eye col-
ors.
n Apply liner before mas-
cara, and blend it with a brush.
Push the liner into the lashline
to make lashes appear thicker.
Use mascara to lengthen lash-
es. Place a makeup sponge be-
hind your lashes when apply-
ing mascara so you don’t risk
hitting your lids with the mas-
cara wand. Waterproof mas-
cara will hold up through tears
of joy.
n Be subtle with blush. Use
subtle blush in a peach-pink
color to achieve that blushing
bride appearance. Smile and
apply the blush only to the ap-
ples of your cheeks.
n Choose a long-lasting lip
color that will hold up through
kisses and smiles.
Perform a
practice run
prior to the
wedding,
taking some
photographs
to see how the
makeup looks
in pictures.
Cameras and
flashes can
wash out
makeup, so
sometimes you
need to apply
just a little bit
more than usual
for it to show up
on film.

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From the bride to
the guests, choos-
ing the wrong shoes
could sideline you from
dancing or cause pain
through the night. A
smarter step is to put
just as much thought
into the shoes you will
wear as you will into
other parts of your
wardrobe.
Unless you’re wont
to go anywhere with-
out high heels, your
feet may be unaccus-
tomed to them for long
durations of time. At
a wedding, where it’s
all about mingling
and dancing, comfort
should be considered
just as much as style.
That doesn’t mean
you have to forgo an
attractive shoe just for
something comfort-
able. It’s possible to
have the best of both
worlds. Here are some
considerations.
n Wedge heels: Un-
like other types of heels
that put the brunt of
the pressure on the
ball of the foot, wedge
heels distribute body
weight evenly through-
out the foot.
n Ballet pumps: Bal-
let pumps, once made
famous by style icon
Audrey Hepburn, can
be worn with skirts or
slacks. Their low pro-
file helps keep feet
comfortable, and they
may come as flats or
with a tiny heel.
n Sandals: Particu-
larly for warm-weather
events, sandals can be
quite comfortable and
fashionable. Giving a
peek of toe and ankle
can be just as sexy as
stilettos, without the
pain.
n Flip-flops: Flip-
flops needn’t be the
run-of-the-mill rub-
ber kind found in the
discount bin. They
can be dressed up to
match your gown or
purchased with gem-
stones and other decor
already attached.
For those who prefer
heels for photo ops and
looking fabulous, con-
sider bringing along a
change of shoes just in
case foot pain flares up
later in the evening.
Make sure your shoes are both comfortable and fashionable
Well-heeled for
the wedding
S
ome say shoes make the woman, but if they’re uncomfortable, shoes
very well may break the woman — especially at a wedding.

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Reception details
Date __________________ Time ____________________
Number of guests ________________________________
Music begins _____________ Ends __________________
Option 1
Reception hall ___________________________________
Address ________________________________________
Contact person __________________________________
Phone _________________________________________
Adequate space for band/DJ/dancing? ________________
Deliveries (flowers, equipment, etc.) when? where? ______
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Liquor will be provided by _________________________
Number of bartenders _____________________________
Hours __________________________________________
Bar closed during meal? ___________________________
Number of tables _________________________________
Chairs per table __________________________________
Linens provided? _________________________________
Centerpieces provided? ____________________________
Ample photography settings? _______________________
Parking self or valet? ______________________________
Cost per person __________________________________
Total cost _______________________________________
Deposit ________________________________________
Balance ________________________________________
Option 2
Reception hall ___________________________________
Address ________________________________________
Contact person __________________________________
Phone _________________________________________
Adequate space for band/DJ/dancing? ________________
Deliveries (flowers, equipment, etc.) when? where? ______
_______________________________________________
_______________________________________________
Liquor will be provided by _________________________
Number of bartenders _____________________________
Hours __________________________________________
Bar closed during meal? ___________________________
Number of tables _________________________________
Chairs per table __________________________________
Linens provided? _________________________________
Centerpieces provided? ____________________________
Ample photography settings? _______________________
Parking self or valet? ______________________________
Cost per person __________________________________
Total cost _______________________________________
Deposit ________________________________________
Balance ________________________________________
Before choosing your reception location,
compare several different places.
This worksheet will help you decide which
location is right for your wedding size and style.
Copy more pages if needed.
Planning the Reception

19. Weddings 192014-15
Instead of booking with
the first catering hall they
find, couples should com-
parison shop to find a ven-
ue they find affordable and
unique to their particular
tastes. Couples who don’t
mind forgoing a more tra-
ditional setting may find
more unique locations to
hold their reception.
n Farmhouse: For that
country appeal, a barn or
farmhouse estate can make
for the ideal place to hold a
casual wedding reception.
n Botanical gardens:
Many gardens offer some
sort of wedding package
and may contract with an
outside caterer to provide
everything from sit-down
meals to passed appetizers.
n Sports arena: Sports
fans may dream of having
their wedding on the field of
their favorite professional
team. Individuals can con-
tact the stadium to find out
if they do any private par-
ties. If not, consider a sta-
dium on a more local lev-
el, such as a college or high
school field. The ambience
will be the same, but the
more local or smaller ven-
ue may be more affordable.
n Oceanside: Where
there is a beach, there is the
opportunity to have a wed-
ding at the seashore. Beach
weddings are usually casu-
al affairs, and couples could
have more leeway with re-
gard to food and drinks.
n Clubhouse: For those
who live in a condominium
or a community managed
by a homeowner’s associa-
tion, there may be a club-
house on the premises. Very
often these clubhouses can
be rented out for parties.
Couples interested in an in-
timate affair can bring in
their own food and have a
low-cost reception close to
home.
n Castle or estate:
Dreaming of a fairy tale
wedding? A historical
building may make for the
perfect backdrop. Certain
historical societies may
rent out estates and other
buildings for weddings. At
the very least, couples may
be able to have their wed-
ding on the grounds with
the impressive home in the
background.
n Boat: Dinner cruis-
es frequently depart dur-
ing peak sightseeing sea-
sons from various locations
on the coast. Couples may
opt to have their reception
aboard a paddle boat or
larger cruise liner.
Explore options with alternative reception sites
AVariety
of Venues
AVariety
of VenuesA
wedding can be an expensive endeavor for
couples. The cost for a reception venue will
vary depending on where the party is held,
so couples looking to conserve cash or simply set
their party apart can consider some different op-
tions.
Various reception venues can make for a
memorable wedding. Couples can explore
their options when a more traditional
venue is not necessarily their style.

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Brides- and grooms-to-be
should not underestimate
the importance of handing
out wedding favors. Find-
ing the right one can take
a little work. It is usually a
good idea to find something
that suits the theme of the
wedding and is both long-
lasting and practical. Try to
avoid anything that is too
kitschy.
The following are some
favor-finding guidelines.
Be creative
Wedding favors can be
just about anything, so
there’s no need to stick to
Jordan almonds or wine
bottle stoppers. The more
creative couples are, the
more receptive their guests
will likely be. For example,
for an autumn-theme wed-
ding, fill mason jars with
the ingredients for a spiced
cake and give the recipe di-
rections on a tag. For a sum-
mer wedding, gift guests
with a sun and surf surviv-
al bag, full of sunblock, a
beach towel and sunglass-
es.
Complete the
theme
Some weddings follow a
particular theme from start
to finish, and wedding fa-
vors should stick with that
theme. Couples who will
showcase their love of trav-
el on their wedding days
may want to give guests
keychains or purse holders
that feature popular land-
marks around the world.
Go traditional
Couples who opt for uni-
versally appealing favors
can lean toward some pop-
ular options, such as silver
cake servers, candlestick
holders, decorative photo
frames, or engraved keep-
sake boxes. Aim for favors
that have utility. Otherwise,
favors may end up collect-
ing dust on someone’s shelf.
Choosing the right wedding reception favors
Gifts for the GuestsGifts for the Guests
O
ne of the final components of weddings are
the favors guests will take home with them
as mementos of the festivities. Though fa-
vors don’t require immediate attention, that does
not mean couples should wait until the last minute
to made decisions regarding their wedding favors.
Edible wedding favor
ideas
Candy-coated almonds are
still popular, but many couples
have expanded their choices
and have created new trends
in favors:
n Cake or brownie pops:
These are small balls of cake
or brownie that are made from
cake crumbs and frosting. The
balls are covered in candy
melts or chocolate and served
on a stick. Chocolate artists can
transform ordinary cake pops
into works of art with intricate
piping designs on the hard, out-
er shell.
n Cookies: Many bakeries
offer intricately designed and
decorated cookies that can per-
tain to any theme. Think about
a wedding couple or a set of
rings as the cookie of choice
for a wedding favor.
n Petit fours: These bite-
sized pastries lend themselves
well to wedding favors. They
can easily be paired and put
in small boxes as take-home
treats.
n Chocolate: Choose among
truffles, caramels, chocolate-
covered pretzels, or any favor-
ite treat.
n Seasonal treats: If a wed-
ding coincides with a particu-
lar season or holiday, favors can
be coordinated as well. Think
caramel-covered apples for fall
parties, chocolate bunnies for
spring events, spiced cake bars
for the winter holidays or lem-
on tarts for summer weddings.

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Even if you will be hiring
a videographer and having
photos snapped by loving
friends and family, profes-
sional wedding photogra-
phy is an ideal way to im-
mortalize this special day.
Most couples say “I do”
with the hopes of stay-
ing together forever, giv-
ing them only one chance
to capture the magic of the
wedding day on film.
Professional photog-
raphers use high-quali-
ty equipment that will pro-
duce much better results
than photos snapped on
the average digital cam-
era. Plus, the photogra-
pher has experience with
posing, placement of arms
and legs, head tilting, and
lighting, each of which en-
sures that the photos come
out looking as good as pos-
sible. While a friend may
not notice an eyesore in the
rear of a photo composi-
tion when taking a picture,
a professional may notice
something that will stand
out and make adjustments.
Furthermore, profession-
al photographers tend to
have an eye for interesting
angles to capture images
that may be overlooked.
Price alone should not
dictate which photog-
rapher to hire. Couples
should realize the value of
experience and profession-
al equipment, both of which
tend to come at a premium
price. Do not expect to pay
package prices that would
be offered at department or
discount stores. Many pho-
tographers are artists who
take their work very seri-
ously.
Don’t underestimate the importance
of wedding day photography
Smile for
the camera!
T
hanks to the popularity of social media,
some couples may overlook the importance
of hiring a professional photographer for
their weddings. Although there is something to be
said for candid images captured on phones and
personal cameras, the pictures a couple will cher-
ish and look back on for decades are best supplied
by a professional photographer.

22. 22 Weddings 2014-15
Modern cakes are show-
pieces grander in scale than
in years past. As bakers and
confectioners hone their
skills with fondant, butter-
cream and gum paste even
further, the results are often
impressive, awe-inspiring
cake designs.
While the look of a wed-
ding cake is certainly impor-
tant, cakes should not only
look good, but taste good
as well. Vanilla cake with
vanilla buttercream frost-
ing was once the gold stan-
dard. But today’s couples
are being more adven-
turous with their wed-
ding cakes and win-
ning rave reviews from
guests along the way.
The vast scope of
wedding cake flavor
choices available to
brides and grooms is
astonishing. Options
may range from
the traditional to
something ad-
venturous and
daring.
Some cou-
ples shy away
from more ad-
v e n t u r o u s
cakes because
they fear some-
thing chocolate-
ly or not white in
color will not be
well suited to a wed-
ding reception. Such cou-
ples should keep in mind
that any flavor of cake can
be hidden beneath layers of
pearly white fondant or roy-
al icing. Therefore, the sky is
the limit with regard to fla-
vor combinations.
Those who might want to
veer from tradition can con-
sider these clever cake com-
binations.
n Lemon cake with vanil-
la buttercream: Lemons are
tart, juicy and refreshing,
helping to cleanse the pal-
ate after a rich meal. Lem-
on cake, with its summery
feel, is tailor-made for sum-
mer weddings. The flavor is
popular enough to appeal
to many, but just a little dif-
ferent to add an unexpected
zip of flavor.
n Chocolate cake with
chocolate ganache and mo-
cha filling: True chocoholics
will be hard-pressed to resist
such a decadent flavor pro-
file. Chocolate can be sweet
and satisfying and a wel-
come change from the vanil-
la cakes commonly served.
For traditionalists, the cake
can be covered with a white
chocolate ganache. Or cou-
ples can ask that the cake
be adorned with white sug-
ar roses for an eye-appealing
contrast. Chocolate cakes
covered with autumn hued
flowers go over well at fall
Explore unique cake flavor combinations
Beyond
Vanilla
Beyond
Vanilla
A
wedding cake is the piece de resistance of the wed-
ding ceremony. Guests anxiously await the unveiling
of the cake near the end of the festivities.

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weddings.
n Red velvet cake with cream
cheese frosting: Red velvet cake
was once a regionally specific sta-
ple, but now has grown steadily
in popularity across the country.
Red velvet has quickly become the
new classic, as its vibrant red color-
ing offers a shock of something dif-
ferent, while the flavor is mild for
those who are not comfortable tak-
ing risks. The richness and creami-
ness of cream cheese is irresistible.
n White cake with chocolate
mousse: Couples who want a bit
of chocolate but do not want to be
overwhelmed can select a white
cake that is filled with light and
rich chocolate mousse. It’s the per-
fect blend of vanilla and chocolate
for guests who enjoy both.
n Variety tiers: Those who can-
not settle on just one flavor can
have different flavors on each tier
of their cakes. This gives guests
some flavorful variety and enables
them to pick their favorite flavor
combination.
Brides- and grooms-to-be who
have specific flavors in mind can
ask their bakers to include two
cupcakes with the wedding cake.
Then the couple can enjoy their
own mini cakes while the rest of the
guests enjoy a more classic cake.
In addition, an assortment of cup-
cakes in lieu of one cake can give
guests the opportunity to sample
several different flavors.
Think outside of the cake box when selecting flavors
for the centerpiece of the wedding reception.

24. 24 Weddings 2014-15
“In addition to our wide
selection of pearl and crys-
tal jewelry for brides, we
have seen increased inter-
est in sapphire and other
colors like topaz for brides,”
according to Jill Maier,
Vice President of Design at
CAROLEE.
Sapphire blue stones are
popular, with stones set in
silver and gold tone met-
al. Topaz stones set in gold
are also hot, and rose gold
metal is another color op-
tion that brides have gravi-
tated to. These trends also
influence jewelry for brides-
maids and every member of
the bridal party.
While color is making
news in bridal circles, pearls
will always play a lead role
in the world of bridal jewel-
ry. Classic styles like single
and double row chokers, of-
ten mixed with crystal, are
truly classic and always ap-
propriate for brides. But
there are now many mod-
ern twists, both in design
and in ways brides choose
to wear pearls.
Modern brides often
personalize their pearls
by wearing bolder, longer
styles, by mixing and lay-
ering different millimeters
and by twisting, tying or
knotting them. The varia-
tions are endless with a 72”
white pearl rope — a sta-
ple for any bride — as well
as any post-wedding ward-
robe.
Crystal styles — teardrop
earrings and necklaces, del-
icate Y necklaces, chokers
and bracelets in floral de-
signs — are also beautiful
and popular choices among
brides. They, too, can be lay-
ered, mixed and matched
with pearls.
Brides look for ‘something blue’ — and more — in jewelry
Not just diamonds
& pearls
Not just diamonds
& pearls
A
s weddings become more and more person-
alized to the bride’s own tastes, blue and
other colors have been making their way
into the bridal picture, both in decor and in jewelry.
Pearls will always remain a classic choice. But modern brides often
personalize their pearls by wearing bolder, longer styles, by mixing
and layering different millimeters and by twisting, tying or knotting
them. Brides also may decide to go for a splash of color with sap-
phire or topaz jewelry.

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The following are a few ways cou-
ples can calm those nerves:
n Get a good night’s rest. Make
your last night as an unmarried
couple an early night so you will
look your best and have plenty of
energy on your big day, which will
no doubt start early and end late. A
good night’s sleep can go a long way
toward ensuring you’re in a good
mood as you handle a full slate of re-
sponsibilities on your wedding day.
n Spend time with family and
friends. Chances are your closest
friends and family members are
playing significant roles in your
wedding, and spending time with
them is a great way to keep your
nerves in check while having a fun
time before, during and after the
ceremony.
n Don’t be afraid to delegate re-
sponsibilities. In spite of months of
planning, couples will still have a to-
do list come their wedding days. If
such a list is overwhelming, brides-
and grooms-to-be should not be
afraid to delegate some of the tasks
on their lists. Bridesmaids and
groomsmen can no doubt handle
any outstanding tasks that don’t
require any input from the bride or
groom.
n Relax as the ceremony draws
nearer. As the start time for the cer-
emony approaches, couples about
to tie the knot should take time to
sit down and relax. Once their hair
and makeup is finished, brides-to-
be should sit down and exhale or
arrange for the photographer to
snap some fun pre-wedding photos
with their bridesmaids. Grooms-
to-be can do the same with their
groomsmen, sharing a few last-min-
ute jokes to ensure everyone is re-
laxed and ready to go before taking
their places.
How to calm those last-minute jitters
B
rides- and grooms-to-be are often nervous when the day
they will tie the knot finally arrives.

26. 26 Weddings 2014-15
Though music selection
might seem like one of the
easier decisions couples
must make, those about to
tie the knot typically must
make a host of music-relat-
ed decisions regarding their
wedding day.
Ceremony
Some venues, such as
houses of worship, may
have rules pertaining to
what can and cannot be
played inside the venue.
Classical, hymnal or proces-
sional music often makes
the best fit when weddings
are taking place in more
formal venues. Outdoor
weddings tend to give cou-
ples more leeway. But in
general couples don’t want
to choose any music that’s
too loud or over-the-top for
their ceremonies.
Keep in mind that while
the music played during the
ceremony can set the tone
for the day, this music can
vary significantly from the
music played during the re-
ception. A favorite perform-
er may not be appropriate
during the ceremony, but
that doesn’t mean the cou-
ple can’t dance to that art-
ist’s music during the re-
ception.
Live musicians can add a
more elegant feel to the cer-
emony, but such perform-
ers also can be costly. Play-
ing prerecorded music may
not be as elegant as having
a live performer, but it can
cost a lot less and still make
for an enjoyable day and
evening.
Reception
Many couples prefer dee-
jays to live bands for their
wedding receptions. Dee-
jays can play favorite songs
as couples and their guests
know them, while bands
can only play their own ren-
ditions of those songs.
Another thing to consid-
er when choosing between
a deejay or live band for the
reception is the venue it-
self. Some venues are small-
er and unable to accom-
modate a full band, while
others may not have ideal
acoustics, making it diffi-
cult for a live band to sound
as good as they might in a
more music-friendly envi-
ronment.
The formality of the event
should also come into con-
sideration when choos-
ing between a live band
or a deejay for the recep-
tion. Deejays spinning the
latest top 40 hits may stick
out like sore thumbs at es-
pecially formal weddings,
while a classical orchestra
How to approach music on your wedding day
M
usic often plays an important role on fes-
tive occasions, and wedding days are no
exception. The right music can make a
wedding day that much more meaningful, while the
wrong music can make a couple’s big event memo-
rable for all the wrong reasons.
likely won’t fit into the laid
back theme of a beach or
destination wedding.
Couples tying the knot
outdoors may need to con-
sider equipment when
choosing bands or deejays
to play their weddings. For
example, some venues do
not provide equipment,
such as microphones and
speaker systems, to couples
for their ceremonies. Rent-
ing such equipment can be
costly, but couples can of-
ten skirt such charges by
hiring deejays or bands who
lend couples their equip-
ment during the ceremony.
Deejays or bands who will
loan and set up the neces-
sary sound equipment for
outdoor ceremonies merit
extra consideration.
When discussing music to
be played during the recep-
tion, couples must consider
their own musical tastes as
well as those of their guests.
A wide range of popular mu-
sic tends to go best at wed-
ding receptions, as guests
are more likely to dance to
songs they recognize. Avoid
any music that has the po-
tential to offend guests,
opting for lighter, happier
tunes instead. Whether hir-
ing a band or deejay, cou-
ples should make a list of
no-play songs or artists and
make sure that such lists
are included in their con-
tracts.
They’rePlaying
OurSong
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While it might once have
been difficult to make wed-
dings environmentally
friendly affairs, today’s cou-
ples have many eco-friend-
ly options at their disposal.
From hotels that use so-
lar power to reception halls
that rely on locally sourced
foods, there are plenty
of ways to turn weddings
into entertaining and eco-
friendly affairs.
n Reduce reliance on sta-
tionery. Couples hoping to
be more eco-conscious can
cut back on the amount of
paper they at their wed-
dings and throughout the
planning process. Invita-
tions can be printed on re-
cycled stock.
n Choose earth-friend-
ly fabrics. When select-
ing gowns and other attire,
lean toward natural fabrics,
such as cotton, wool, hemp,
or linen, each of which are
eco-friendly fabrics.
n Pick flowers that are
in-season.Cut down on how
far flowers have to travel
and the use of potentially
harmful chemicals by buy-
ing locally grown, in-season
flowers.
n Encourage guests to
carpool to the wedding. You
can curb emissions by hav-
ing as many people travel
together as possible. Ditch
the sedan or limousine and
rent a party bus that can fit
many of your guests.
n Rethink wedding fa-
vors. Instead of trinkets
that are produced overseas
and likely to end up in the
trash, opt for edible favors,
seeds or plants or even do-
nations to charitable orga-
nizations.
n Cut down on waste. Do
you really need four courses
at the reception and a com-
plete dessert display? Food
that goes uneaten will like-
ly end up in the garbage. If
you cannot arrange to have
food delivered to a soup
kitchen or another chari-
table group, scale back on
how much is served. Chanc-
es are guests will not even
miss the extra food.
n Recycle your gold or
silver. Wedding bands sym-
bolize are customary at
wedding ceremonies. Rath-
er than buying new rings,
transform old jewelry into
rings by having the metal
melted down and formed.
n Style your hair natu-
rally. Although many hair
products have reduced
or eliminated their use
of CFCs, which can enter
the atmosphere and dam-
age the ozone layer, harm-
ful chemicals are still used
in many products. Brides
can skip the elaborate up-
do that requires a lot of hair
spray for a more natural,
free-flowing look.
How to make your wedding more eco-friendly
SomethingBorrowed
Something...Green?
SomethingBorrowed
Something...Green?
W
hile is has long been a favorite wedding
day color, many couples are now looking
for ways to go green at their weddings, as
more and more couples want to make their cere-
monies as eco-friendly as possible.
n Rent or borrow when-
ever possible. Rented items
are reused over and over,
while items couples buy
specifically for their wed-
dings are liable to be used
once and then discarded.
Opt for rentals when pos-
sible.
n Light beeswax candles.
Candles are an eco-friend-
ly way to provide roman-
tic lighting at the wedding.
Opt for non-toxic beeswax
candles rather than paraf-
fin candles.
Wearing borrowed or rented gowns and using locally grown flowers
are just two ways to make weddings more eco-friendly affairs.

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To ensure you have
enough energy to last
through to the final good-
bye of the evening, follow
these suggestions to remain
energized.
n Recognize your wed-
ding day is a very long day.
It’s possible to rise quite
early in the morning to be-
gin prepping with makeup,
hair styles, wardrobe and
more. If the party is an eve-
ning reception, it could last
until the wee hours of the
morning.
n Get a good night’s sleep
the night before. If you of-
ten grow anxious and strug-
gle to fall asleep before big
events, talk to your doctor
prior to the wedding to ask
if you can be prescribed a
one-time-only sleeping pill
that will ensure you get to
sleep promptly. Do not take
this medication with alco-
hol, and be sure to take it
only if you can get a full 7 to
8 hours of sleep.
n Enjoy a hearty break-
fast. At breakfast on the
morning of your wedding,
consume a combination of
carbohydrates and protein.
The carbs will provide the
initial burst of energy you
need to get going, and the
protein will keep you feeling
full. A combination of whole
How to stay energized throughout your wedding day
Keepgoing
andgoing!A
s enjoyable as a wedding can be, most brides
and grooms who have already tied the knot can
attest that a wedding is a long, often tiring day.
It is very easy for energy levels to wane.
wheat toast, fresh fruit and
Greek yogurt makes for a
filling start to the day.
n Stay hydrated. Dehy-
dration can result in head-
aches, weakness and diz-
ziness and may make you
feel cranky. Be sure to con-
sume water throughout
the day.
n Pack some snacks. In
your wedding “survival” kit,
be sure to pack some easy
snacks to eat. Trail mix can
be nibbled for a boost of
energy, and a banana can
take the edge off of hun-
ger pangs. Avoid anything
messy that can drip onto
clothing or get stuck in
your teeth. Arrange to have
snacks stowed in the lim-
ousine or another mode of
transportation so that you
can refuel on the way to the
ceremony or in transit to
the reception.
n Don’t overdo it with
caffeine. It may be tempt-
ing to lean on an energy
drink or a super-size cup of
coffee to give you the boost
you need. But caffeine is
only a temporary fix. After
the effects of the caffeine
wear off, you could find
yourself more tired than
before and crash at an in-
opportune time during the
day.
n Eat dinner. When fam-
ily is beckoning and the
photographer needs to get
yet another pose, it is easy
to skip dinner. Be firm with
your decision to enjoy your
meal. Sitting down to din-
ner enables you to rest and
absorb the atmosphere of
the wedding.
n Continue to drink plen-
ty of water throughout the
night. Alcoholic beverag-
es may be flowing, but too
many spirits can compro-
mise your energy levels. Be
sure to balance the booze
with hydrating fluids, such
as water or juice.
The wedding day festivities could mean rising at the crack of dawn
and not going to bed until the wee hours of the morning. There are
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Because gift-giving is tradition,
couples should plan on spending
some time writing thank-you notes
to express gratitude to the people
who were kind enough to give a gift.
Contrary to popular belief, couples
do not have a year’s grace period to
mail out thank-you notes after the
gift has been received or the wedding
has taken place. According to the et-
iquette experts at The Emily Post In-
stitute, all thank-you cards should
be written and mailed within three
months of receipt of a gift. It is pref-
erable that the thank-you be written
directly after receipt of the gift, but
time-strapped couples may not have
the opportunity to do so. However,
writing a few thank-you cards every
few days can alleviate having a giant
pile to do later on.
Many couples prefer to order
thank-you stationery when they or-
der their wedding invitations. This
way the paper, font and style match
the original invitations. In addition,
it may be less expensive to order sta-
tionery as a package.
For those interested in less expen-
sive options, preprinted thank-you
cards can be purchased at a statio-
nery store. There are many designs
and price points available. Remem-
ber, it is not the card itself, but the
thank-you that is important.
As to the rules regarding those get-
ting a thank-you, it is just about any-
one who contributed in some part to
the wedding, even if a verbal thanks
was already offered. Anyone who
provided an engagement, shower or
wedding gift, those who gave gifts of
money, anyone who hosted a party or
shower, attendants in the wedding,
people who may have housed wed-
ding guests, parents of the bride and
groom, suppliers and vendors, and
employers who have wished couples
well should all be included on the
thank-you list.
The proper etiquette of writing, sending thank-you notes
Expressing
Your Gratitude
Expressing
Your Gratitude Other thank-you note
guidelines
n Mail out a handwritten note to
each and every person being thanked.
n Do not use form letters or pre-
printed cards to which you simply add
your signature.
n Be sincere in your messages and
try to mention the gift and what it will
be used for.
n Promptly respond to gifts that
were received through the mail so the
giver knows they arrived.
n Never mention that you plan to
return a gift or exchange it.
n Mentioning the amount of a
monetary gift is optional, but it does
confirm to the giver that the right
amount was received.
n A mass thank-you posted on
social media is not adequate.
n Even if you are late with writ-
ing out thank-you notes, that doesn’t
exclude you from doing so.
W
eddings and gifts go hand-in-hand. Couples who are tying the
knot can expect to receive scores of gifts, ranging from simple
well-wishes to cash to items listed on their registries.

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There are a number of oth-
er tasks competing for your
attention close to the wed-
ding, so think about your list
early on. A suitcase stocked
with what you need won’t
expire, so you can take care
of packing when you have
a free moment, then stash
suitcases in an out-of-the-
way location.
If you take any medica-
tions that will need to be
brought along, allow yourself
ample time to visit the doc-
tor and ask for a prescrip-
tion renewal so you won’t
run out while away. Always
store these medications in
their original packaging so
that items checked by cus-
toms or airline personnel
can be easily identified.
It also pays to know the
rules of the airline well in
advance. Contact custom-
er service or visit the air-
line’s Web site to determine
if there are any baggage
weight limits or any re-
strictions regarding carry-
on items. In the wake of in-
creased security measures,
regulations regarding toilet-
ries, liquids and other such
items may change. Don’t be
Pointers for packing for your honeymoon
W
hether you’re
sailing off on a
cruise or flying
to a popular overseas
destination, there are
a number of things you
will need to bring along
for the trip, and having
a list that you can check
off will make packing
that much easier.
caught without something
you need because it was
confiscated prior to board-
ing.
Roughly 80 percent of
new brides take their hus-
band’s last name after their
weddings, but new brides
may want to wait until af-
ter they return from their
honeymoons to officially
change their names. This
way there will be no has-
sle when you check-in at
the airport or any hold-
ups when traveling inter-
nationally with a married
name that does not match
the name on your passport.
There will be plenty of time
to change your name after
the honeymoon.
Items to Pack
n Camera and accessories:
Don’t forget to bring a charger and
extra batteries. Pack an extra mem-
ory card unless you will be down-
loading the photos to a laptop or up-
loading them to a storage system. If
you are traveling internationally, you
will need an electrical converter to
plug in any electronics.
n Cash: In addition, take one or
two major credit cards if you do not
enjoy carrying too much cash.
n Clothing: Try to pack cloth-
ing that can be mixed and matched
for a number of different looks. Re-
member to bring at least one dress-
ier option in clothing for a night out
at a special dinner. Bring along at
least two swimsuits to have one
available while the other is drying.
n Comfort products: Items like
insect repellent, sunburn soothing
cream, aspirin and motion-sick-
ness medication, may be expen-
sive at your destination.
n Eyeglasses / contacts: Bring
your spare pair of contact lenses or
eyeglasses in case your primary pair
is lost or damaged.
n Feminine hygiene products:
Feminine hygiene products may be
unavailable where you are traveling.
n Fold-up travel bag: This ex-
tra bag can be used to tote items to
and from the beach or while sight-
seeing. It also can be used to carry
any souvenirs that may take up too
much space in your luggage.
n Phone: Check with your mo-
bile carrier to find out about roam-
ing charges or if you will incur extra
charges making calls or accessing
data at your destination. If so, you
may be able to purchase prepaid
phone cards or negotiate a tempo-
rary international rate.
n Sunscreen: Pack some sun-
screen so you don’t return home
from your honeymoon with a bad
sunburn.
n Toiletries: Cotton swabs, ra-
zors, toothbrushes, shaving cream,
and the like are items to bring from
home, as they are likely to cost
more at your destination than they
do at home.
n Work-out clothing: If you plan
on visiting the resort’s fitness cen-
ter, pack a pair of athletic shoes and
shorts or sweatpants.
n Zipper-top bags: Bring along
various sizes of storage bags to
store wet swimsuits or for protect-
ing and sorting different items.
Getready
togo!
Getready
togo!

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2014 Handpicked: A Different
Kind of Bridal Event
WHEN: June 26, 2014, 6:30- 10 p.m.
WHERE: 1403 West Hines Hill Road, Penin-
sula, 44264
WHAT: Hosted by Baci Designer. Join us for
a completely unique bridal show experience
bringing the inspirational wedding trends we
all adore right here to you in the Midwest.We’ve
handpicked the best vendors in the area and
brought them together for one night of styled
bridal goodness.What to expect: Gorgeous and
inspirational details; cocktails, appetizers and a
dessert bar; dress fittings; wedding hair consul-
tants; Q/A with several wedding vendors
Cost: $20 (advanced payment) $25 (at the
door)
FOR MORE INFO: http://handpickedevent.
bacidesigner.com/
2014 Cocktails & Veils Bridal Show
WHEN: July 16, 2014, 5-9 p.m.
WHERE: Landerhaven by Executive Cater-
ers, 6111 Landerhaven Drive, Mayfield Heights,
44124
WHAT: Presented by Today’s Bride. Meet local
wedding vendors, see trends and gather ideas.
COST: $10 admission; tickets available at To-
daysBride.com. The first 25 brides who attend
wearing a veil get free admission and a spe-
cial gift.
FOR MORE INFO: http://www.todaysbrideon-
line.com/bridal_shows.phtml
A Diamond and a Dream Bridal Show
WHEN: Sept. 12, 2014, 6 to 9:30 p.m., Sept.
13, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.
WHERE: DoubleTree by Hilton Cleveland East
- Beachwood, 3663 Park East Drive, Beach-
wood, 44122
WHAT: partnering with Brides Against Breast
Cancer. Browse through hundreds of new and
lovingly worn designer and couture wedding
gowns, all at an incredible savings. Gowns range
from $99 to $3,900, are available in all styles
and in sizes 4-18. Meet some of the area’s top
wedding vendors, and enter giveaways, all while
supporting a great cause. Brides Against Brides
Cancer will contribute $2 million dollars to help
people impacted by cancer this year.Attend VIP
Reception and enjoy light bites, beverages, en-
tertainment and giveaways.
COST: VIP ‘Unveiling of the Gowns’ Recep-
tion Sept. 12 6-9:30 p.m. $35 tax deductible
donation admits bride plus one guest, addition-
al guests $20 (Note : Prices listed above reflect
an online discount. Tickets at the door will be
$40/$25) General admission date: Sept. 13, 10
a.m. to 4 p.m. $5 tax deductible donation on-
line, $7 at the door.
FOR MORE INFO: http://www.bridesagainst-
breastcancer.org/upcoming-shows-2014/cleve-
land-area-bridal-show-september-2014/
Today’s Bride October Cleveland
Bridal Show, Independence
WHEN: Sunday, Oct. 12, 2014, 10 a.m. to 4
p.m.
WHERE: Embassy Suites, 5800 Rockside
Woods Blvd., Independence
WHAT: . Join us for Cleveland’s longest run-
ning, most helpful, fun fall bridal show produced
by Ohio’s very own Today’s Bride Magazine &
Shows - a tradition for 25 years. Meet over 80
of Cleveland’s finest wedding professionals and
get expert advice; see bridal fashion shows tak-
ing place at 11:30, 1:00 and 2:30 (shows last
approximately 35 minutes)see the latest trends
& ideas in weddings; sample cake & wedding
catering specialties.
COST: $10. Tickets are non-refundable.
FOR MORE INFO: https://www.eventbrite.
com/e/todays-bride-october-cleveland-bridal-
show-tickets-11250892723?ref=ecount
Today’s Bride October Akron
Bridal Show, Cuyahoga Falls
WHEN: Oct. 19, 2014, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.
WHERE: Sheraton Suites, 1989 Front St.,
Cuyahoga Falls, OH 44221
WHAT: Join us for Akron’s longest running,
most helpful, fun fall bridal show produced
by Ohio’s very own Today’s Bride Magazine &
Shows - a tradition for 24 years. Meet over 80
of Akron area’s finest wedding professionals and
get expert advice; see bridal fashion shows tak-
ing place at 11, noon, 1:30 and 2:30 (shows last
approximately 35 minutes); see the latest trends
& ideas in weddings; sample cake & wedding
catering specialties.
COST: $10. Tickets are non-refundable.
FOR MORE INFO: http://www.eventbrite.
com/e/todays-bride-october-akron-bridal-show-
tickets-11255879639?aff=eorg
Bridal Fashion Show
WHEN: Feb. 22, 2015, from noon-3:30 p.m.
WHERE: Hilton Garden Inn Cleveland/Twins-
burg, 8971 Wilcox Drive,Twinsburg, OH 44087.
WHAT: Bridal Fashion Show at 1:30 p.m. fea-
turing outstanding wedding wear from Brides by
the Falls and American Commodore Tuxedo So-
lon; complimentary hors d’oeuvres, champagne
and mimosa bar created by the Hilton Garden
Inn Cleveland/Twinsburg culinary team; enjoy
live music featuring the band Chance as well as
great DJ spins courtesy of the Marino Brothers;
visit over 40 booths touting the best wares from
local area wedding vendors.
COST: Email CLETH-SALESADM@hilton.com
to register.
FOR MORE INFO: Contact Kathy Pansmith
330-405-7687.

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Weddings by
the numbers
25: The average age of a
first-time bride.
175: Average number of
guests invited to a wedding.
75: Percentage of brides who
will receive a diamond en-
gagement ring.
2.4: Number, in millions, of
weddings performed in the
U.S. each year.
16: Average number of
months for an American
engagement.
15: Percentage of weddings
that include ethnic customs.
80: Percentage of weddings
performed in a church or
synagogue.
64: Percentage of couples
living together before
marriage.
10.2: Percentage of weddings
taking place in August,
second only to June as the
most popular month.
4,000: Dollars spent on the
average honeymoon.
Symbolic gestures are commonplace during wedding ceremonies.The exchange
of rings, stomping on a glass and lighting of candles are each among the various tra-
ditions associated with different faiths. Couples who would like to try something a bit
different can opt for pouring sand. Choose two different colored sands and decorative
vessels that can hold the sand until a special time in the ceremony.You also will need
another large, clear container that will contain the sand once it is poured.A glass vase
or heart-shaped vessel works well.To symbolize the joining of two lives together, both
the bride and groom can take one of the colors of sand and begin pouring them to-
gether into the larger container.The ribbons of sand will join and meld together, much
as the couple’s separate lives will now become one.The finished sand art can be kept
on a mantle as a remembrance of the wedding day for years to come.
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