2. SELF AWARENESS
Self-awareness refers to the conscious knowledge of one’s own
character, emotions, desires, and motivations.
• It is a key component of emotional intelligence theory and, in
psychology, the two concepts are often studies as co-dependent and
intricately linked.
• Being self-aware can refer to the ability to be conscious of both your
own behaviors and how others perceive them. For example, ability to
identify and name your current emotions and identify how others are
reacting to your behaviors are both examples of self-awareness.
3. SELF AWARENESS AND ITS TYPES
•Internal self-awareness: refers to understanding your
own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and
actions. This is an inherent introspective task and
an intrapersonal skill.
•External self-awareness: refers to understanding how
others perceive your thoughts and actions. In other
words, it’s the ability to be aware of your situatedness
within social contexts and a key interpersonal skill.
4. Based on these two types of self-awareness, there are four ‘self-awareness archetypes’.
5. •Introspectors: Introspectors have high internal self-awareness, meaning they
are very much aware of their own emotions. However, they’re often unaware of
how others perceive them (low external self-awareness). They often don’t seek out
feedback from others, which can limit their self-growth and lead to plenty of
blindspots.
•Aware: The ‘aware’ archetype is the idealized model because it represents
people with very high emotional intelligence. These people are both internally and
externally self-aware, meaning they will both self-reflect regularly and seek out
external information and feedback to help broaden their perspectives and address
blindspots.
•Seekers: Seekers don’t think much about themselves, their emotions, thoughts,
or identities. They also aren’t aware of how others perceive them. As a result,
they’re often frustrated by their lack of progress (especially in terms of networking
and relationships).
•Pleasers: Pleasers tend to be more focused on and concerned about how others
perceive them than their own self-perception. By focusing too much on pleasing
others, they often make decisions that aren’t in their own best interests, such as
by saying ‘yes’ to too many collaborations, leading them to becoming burned-out!
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6. The Benefits Of Self-Awareness
The benefits of self-awareness are profound and far-reaching, profoundly impacting various aspects of life.
•Relationships and Interpersonal Skills: Having high internal and external self-awareness means you’re tuned not
just into your own actions and emotions but also those of the people around you. This can help predict and respond
appropriately to others’ behaviors, needs, and emotions, strengthening and deepening your relationships.
•Personal and professional growth: By understanding your strengths, weaknesses, core values, and areas that
need improvement, you can develop strategies to bolster your skills and address areas of weakness. In a
professional context, this might translate to choosing projects that align with your strengths or opting for upskilling in
areas where you’re not as confident.
•Stress management: Recognizing your emotional and physical reactions to stress can help you develop effective
coping mechanisms. Whether it’s understanding that a walk outdoors can calm your mind or realizing that speaking
about your challenges helps relieve stress, these strategies are borne out of self-awareness.
•Emotional health: Self-awareness lets you better understand and manage your own emotions, leading to improved
psychological well-being. Take, for example, developing clarity about sleep patterns, foods, exercise patterns, or
actions that affect your mood. This self-awareness can help you to make life decisions that can manage your
emotions more effectively. Decoding your emotional responses leads to better resilience and overall emotional
health.
7. Low internal self awareness
Low internal self-awareness denotes a lack of
understanding or consciousness about one’s
own emotions, thoughts, desires, and values,
as well as how these influence one’s behavior.
EXAMPLES
• Overlooking preferred learning styles and
methods.
• Underestimating the intensity and range of
your emotions.
• Ignoring personal needs and neglecting self-
care.
• Missing the recognition of personal growth
over time.
Low external self awareness
Low external self-awareness refers to a deficit in
understanding how one is seen by others and
how one’s behavior impacts them.
EXAMPLES
Failing to recognize how your social media
presence impacts others.
Overlooking student feedback or response to
teaching methods.
Disregarding the impact of your sense of humor
on others.
Ignoring how your behavior or actions alter team
dynamics.
8. High internal self awareness
High internal self-awareness involves the
understanding of one’s emotions, thoughts,
and values, and how they affect behavior.
EXAMPLES
• Being clear about your long-term goals and
what you want in life.
• Recognizing unproductive habits and
actively trying to change them.
• Acknowledging your core personal
beliefs and how they shape your worldview.
• Being aware of your emotional triggers and
learning to control them.
Low external self awareness
High external self-awareness comprises the
understanding of how one is perceived by
others, recognizing others’ perspectives, and
adapting to different interactions or situations.
EXAMPLES
Adjusting one’s behavior to align with cultural
norms or social expectations.
Comprehending how effective your persuasion
methods are in changing others’ opinions.
Being considerate of others’ needs while
expressing your own.
Actively seeking feedback from peers, friends,
or family.