Positive discipline

1. POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
WHAT IS DISCIPLINE?

2. VALUE LINE ACTIVITY:
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Spanking is effective I don’t believe in spanking
• Mark where you stand on this line on a piece of
paper and list reasons for you stance on this issue.
• Students will make a line in the hall according to
where they stand on this issue.
• Teacher will wrap the line so those who are at
opposites on the issue are paired up. Discuss with
paired partner. See if anyone has a change of
heart.

3. WHAT ABOUT SPANKING?
• It is a physical assault on a child.
• It teaches children to deal with life in a physical way.
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Can lead to child abuse.
•It teaches outer control, and only stops the
behavior for a short time.
Creates feelings of hatred and revenge.

4. DISCIPLINE
“OK, here are your options:
jump and discover the joy
of flight, or don’t jump and I
kick your butt out of the tree.
What kind of parenting is this?

5. TYPES OF PARENTING:
• AUTHORITARIAN:
– External Control
– Punishment
– Order without freedom
Creates rebellion
or submission/dependence

6. 3 R’s of punishment:
1. RESENTMENT
2. REVENGE
3. RETREAT
1. Low self esteem
2. Sneaky

7. Where did we ever get the crazy idea that
in order to make a child do better, first we
have to make them feel worse.

8. Children do better when they
feel better!

9. TYPES OF PARENTING:
• PERMISSIVE:
– Freedom without
order
– No restriction, rules,
– No consequences
Creates a manipulative
personality, aggression,
and independence.

10. TYPES OF PARENTING:
• AUTHORITATIVE (Democratic):
– Mutual Respect
– Cooperation
– Freedom with Order
Creates a self disciplined
child who is responsible
for own actions.

11. WHY DO CHILDREN
MISBEHAVE?
• A misbehaving child is a
discouraged child. Why?

12. MISBEHAVIOR:
• Is based on a child’s mistaken
interpretation of how to find
BELONGING &
SIGNIFICANCE!

13. 4 GOALS OF MISTAKEN
BEHAVIOR:
1. Attention
2. Power
3. Revenge
4. Give-up

14. Most common reason for
misbehavior:
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ATTENTION
OTHER BEHAVIORS

15. Solution to All Misbehavior:
Spend special time
With the child each
Day!
How much?

16. Solution to Attention Problems:
• Ignore if possible
• Give attention when good
• Redirect
• Logical consequences
• Choices

17. Solution to Power Problems:
• Withdraw
• Cool off,
• Problem solve together
• Win cooperation
• Act

18. 4 Steps for Winning Cooperation:
1. Get into child’s world
• Check it out
2. Show understanding
3. Share your feelings
4. Find a solution together

19. Solution to Revenge Problems:
• Withdraw from revenge cycle
• Win child over
• Solve the problem
• Take away items they could destroy
• Apologize if needed

20. Solution to Inadequacy
Problems:
• Avoid pity
• Encourage & train
• Create small successes
• Don’t give up

21. Believe that children are
basically GOOD!
• What do you see below?
FLY

22. Make sure the message of LOVE
always gets through:

23. TIMING:
•It is impossible to
solve problems at
the time of
CONFLICT!

24. LISTEN FIRST:
• Children will listen to you after
they feel listed to.

25. NATURAL & LOGICAL
CONSEQUENCES:
• NATURAL: Simply happen naturally
– No coat = cold
• LOGICAL: Are decided upon and imposed
by parents or teachers

26. LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
• One needs to be:
– Firm
– Calm
– Positive toward child

27. 3 R’S OF LOGICAL
CONSEQUENCES:
1. RELATED
2. RESPECTFUL
3. RESONABLE

28. TIME OUT: An alternative to
spanking.
1. Gives child time to calm down & time to
think about the correct way to act.
2. Child is moved away from others – an
effective consequence.
Only use if child is out of control,
hurting others or destroying things.

29. TIME OUT GUIDELINES:
• Choose a location that is dull and away from
others.
• Use time out immediately after misbehavior
occurs.
• Length of time = 1 minute for each year of age.
• Don’t’ talk to child until afterwards (Make sure
they understand the “WHY”).
• Reward good behavior after time out, as soon as
they do something positive.

30. DISCIPLINE STEPS:
1. Redirect
2. Check it out
3. Speak to the child about the problem
4. Give choices
5. Use logical or natural consequences
6. Use time out if still out of control

31. CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE:
• Have rules and remind them
often
Read:
“Children want fences

32. KEEP RULES SHORT & SIMPLE
1. Be nice to teacher and
classmates
2. Raise hand to speak
3. Walk in halls

33. CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE
cont’d
• Be silent or whisper
• Resist giving attention to the disruptor
– “Someone is disturbing the class”
• Move closer, place hand on shoulder
• Involve them
• Talk privately
– “What can I do to get your help?”

34. FORBIDDEN DISCIPLINE
ACTIONS:
• SPANKING
• SLAPPING
• HITTING
• SHAKING
• PULLING
• PINCHING
• NO TEASING
• NO HUMILIATION
• NO INSULTS
• NO THREATENING
• NO FRIGHTENING
• NO LAUGHING AT
Confirmed incidents will be grounds for immediate
dismissal from a childcare job.

35. ALWAYS REMEMBER:
• MISTAKES R WUNDERFULL
OPPERTUNITEEZ 2 LERN!
–Recognize your mistake
–Reconcile “I’m sorry”
–Resolve: Focus on solutions rather
than blame.

36. YOU TEACH WHAT YOU
ARE:
•WHAT ARE YOU?