Families can live above normal when each member first submits to Christ, when each member accepts and lives out their unique calling from God, and when each member agrees to step out of the Crazy Cycle. Someone must make the first move. Will you?

1. Oregon City Evangelical Church
Application November 22, 2009
Sermon Notes
Pastor Tom
12. How does a modern day view of marriage compare to this
passage?
Ephesians 5:21-6:9
I. Families can live above normal when each member first submits to
Christ.
13. What can parents do in order to bring their children up in
the training and instruction of the Lord?
II. Families can live above normal when each member accepts and lives
out their unique calling from God.
Wives: Eph. 5:22-24
14. What steps will you take this week to apply what you have
learned from this passage as a
Husband
Wife
Parent
Child
Husbands- vs. 5:25-33
Prayer Corner:
Pray for a family you know that needs to be
encouraged. Also, ask God how He might use you Sons/Daughters and Fathers/Mothers
to bring that encouragement.
Pray for your family. If married, pray God’s blessing
on your spouse. All of us are children, pray for your
parents if they are still living. If you are a parent
then pray the grace of God over your children.
III. Families can live above normal when each member agrees to step out
Prayer Tip: of the Crazy Cycle.
A great promise to remember when praying is found
in James 4:7. Keep this in mind as you pray. Come
near to God and He will come near to you.
Someone must make the first move. Will You?

2. Growth Group Study Guide 6 continued. Paul uses the illustration of the church’s submission
to the Lord as a picture of a wife’s submission to her
Week of November 22, 2009 husband. What principles can guide your understanding of
submission from this illustration?
Getting Started
1. Which TV family would you use to best describe the (The following question is for men only.)
dynamics of your family when you were a kid? 7. What implications do the “husbands love your wife” verses
found in Eph. 5:25-33 and Colossians 3:19 have for
husbands?
2. Who in your family tried to keep the peace? Who was the
disciplinarian? Who had the best sense of humor? Who was
the most generous?
How does Christ’s love for the church relate to the church’s
willingness to submit to His leadership?
3. When an argument broke out in your childhood household,
how was it usually resolved? How are they handled in your The word love in vs. 25 & 28 translates a form of the Greek
home today? word agapao which means totally unselfish, sacrificial love.
How does a husband love his wife in that way?
Into the Word
4. What do the following verses teach about the concept of
submission? (The remainder of the study is for all to discuss.)
a. James 4:7-8 8. Why do you think Paul calls on wives to respect their
husband but husbands to love their wife?
b. Romans 8:6-9
c. Ephesians 5:21 9. Why do you think only fathers are warned to not cause their
children to become angry? (6:4-5) How do parents today do
5. How do you react to the idea that you are to submit to
this? What positives are parents suppose to do?
someone else?
(The following question is for women only.)
6. What do you learn about the role of a wife in relationship to 10. What does God expect of children and what promise do
their husband in the following verses? they receive? Vs. 6:1-3 and Colossians 3:20
a. Genesis 3:16
b. Ephesians 5:22-24, 33 11. How does the teaching found in vs. 21 provide the
motivation to fulfill the exhortations in 5:22-6:4?
c. I Peter 3:1, 5-6
(Question 6 for women is continued on next page)