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PMIN 702: Advanced Ministry Administration
Regent University
Fall 2018
Table of Contents
I.
Emotional Health Check-Up
II.
Genogram - Looking Back in order to go Forward
III.
APEST Assessment
IV.

Leading out of Marriage or Singleness
V.
Establishing a Rule of Life
VI.
Principles of Rest – Sabbath Keeping
VII.
Making Plans and Decisions God’s Way
VIII.
Working with Teams
IX.
Understanding Power and Establishing Boundaries
X.
Endings and New Beginnings
XI.
Final Observations about Emotional Health and Leadership
Section 1

Week #1
h- Emotional Health Check-Up
“The emotionally unhealthy leader is someone who operates in a
continuous state of emotional and spiritual deficit, lacking
emotional maturity” and often substituting their “doing for
God” in place of “being with God.” (Scazzero, EHL, 25) These
leaders minister from an empty cup, rather than from an
overflowing saucer.
1. Complete the assessment, “How Healthy Is Your
Leadership?”
Use the following scale:
5 = Always true of me
4 = Frequently true of me
3 = Occasionally true of me
2 = Rarely true of me
1 = Never true of me
__5___ 1. I take sufficient time to experience and process
difficult emotions such as anger, fear, and sadness.
_____ 2. I am able to identify how issues from my family of
origin impact my relationships and leadership—both

negatively and positively.
___5__ 3. (If married): The way I spend my time and energy
reflects the value that my marriage—not ministry—is my first
priority as a leader.
(If single): The way I spend my time and energy
reflects the value that living out a healthy singleness—not
ministry—is my first priority as a leader.
__5___ 4. (If married): I experience a direct connection
between my oneness with Jesus and oneness with my spouse.
(If single): I experience a direct connection between
my oneness with Jesus and closeness with my friends and
family.
___4__ 5. No matter how busy I am, I consistently practice
the spiritual disciplines of solitude and silence.
__4___ 6. I regularly read Scripture and pray in order to enjoy
communion with God and not just in service of ministry tasks.

___1__ 7. I practice Sabbath—a weekly twenty-four-hour
period in which I stop my work, rest, and delight in God’s
many gifts.
__1___ 8. I view Sabbath as a spiritual discipline that is
essential for both my personal life and my leadership.
___5__ 9. I take time to practice prayerful discernment when
making ministry plans and decisions.
___4__ 10. I measure the success of planning and decision-
making primarily in terms of discerning and doing God’s will
(rather than exclusively by measures such as attendance
growth, excellence in programming, or expanded impact in the
world).
___4__ 11. With those who report to me, I consistently devote
a portion of my supervision time to help them in their inner
life with God and to accomplish their ministry goals.
__5___ 12. I do not avoid difficult conversations with team
members about their performance or behavior.

___2__ 13. I feel comfortable talking about the use of power
in connection with my role and that of others.
___5__ 14. I have articulated and established healthy
boundaries in relationships that have overlapping roles (for
example, with friends and family who are also employees or
key volunteers, etc.).
___4__ 15. Instead of avoiding endings and losses, I embrace
them and see them as a fundamental part of the way God
works.
__3___ 16. I am able to prayerfully and thoughtfully let go of
initiatives, volunteers, or programs when they aren’t working
well, doing so with compassion and right motives.
Answer the following questions:
1.
What did you learn about yourself from the assessment?
I learned from this assessment that I am, to an extent, an
emotional healthy leader; I realized the I do exhibit emotional
maturity in some of the listing on the emotional health check-up
.
Which areas of
leadership require more focus and attention?
I do not view sabbath as a spiritual discipline that is essential

for both my personal life and my leadership
. What areas are you
comfortable with?
I am comfortable with taking sufficient time to experience
and process difficult emotions such as anger, fear, and
sadness.
2. Scazzero mentions four unhealthy commandments of church
leadership.
Which ones, if
any, have been difficult to overcome?
It’s not a success Unless It’s Bigger and Better.
What has been modeled for you? After Scazzero crucible
ministerial experience, he surface as an emotionally Healthy
Leader.
3. Prayerfully begin to consider how you can start the process
of changing those values that are not producing healthy
leadership qualities in your life and ministry. (See pages 44-45
on Learning and Changing)
Section 2
Week #2 – Genogram
“Your shadow is the accumulation of untamed emotions, less-
than-pure motives and thoughts that, while largely unconscious,
strongly influence and shape your behaviors. It is the damaged
but mostly hidden version of who you are.”
(Scazzero, EHL, 55)
In order to understand the shadows in your life, it is often very

helpful to create a genogram of your family. Using the
following worksheet, diagram your family. Also, see Appendix
3 on page 313 for a template.
Your genogram (completed diagram) and the answers to the
questions on the worksheet are to be included on this page.
Take a step back and consider your genogram. Answer the
following questions:
1. What might be one or two insights you are becoming aware
of in terms of how your family (or others) impacted who you are
today?
2. What are one or two specific ways this may be impacting
your leadership in ministry?
Section 3
APEST Assessment
Go To:
fivefoldsurvey.com
. to take the APEST survey
Record the results of the APEST Assessment in this section.
1. How do you see this ministry gift operating in your life?
2. How can you best steward the gift that God has given you?

Section 4
Week #3 –
Embracing and Understanding my Marriage/Singleness in
Ministry
The way we handle our relationships reveals a great deal about
our values. We can have really good values and still not have
great relationships, especially when we use our relationships to
fulfill our values. This week, we begin to look at marriage or
singleness as a vocation or calling and our leadership as a
reflection of that understanding.
1. If you are married, complete the assessment on page 88 of the
EML. If you are single, complete the assessment on page 89 of
the EML. What did you learn about yourself from your
responses?
2. After reading chapter 3, how has your view of ministry and
marriage or ministry and singleness expanded? What impact
will these insights have on your life?
3. Take some time to pray for your spouse if you are married
(see prayer on page 112) or to pray as a single person (see
prayer on page 113). May God increase our capacity to love –
ask Him to bring transformation to the areas of your life that are
lacking in the ability to reflect His love.
Section 5
Week #4 –
Establishing a Rule of Life
“It is possible to build a church, an organization, or a team by
relying only on our gifts and talents. We can serve Christ in our
own energy. We can expand a ministry without thing much of

Jesus or relying on Him in the process. We can preach truths we
don’t live. And if our efforts prove successful, few people will
notice or take issue with he gaps between who we are and what
we do.”
(Scazzero, EML, 117)
1. Complete the assessment, “How Healthy is Your Experience
of Loving Union with God?” Did you learn anything about
yourself that was surprising? What area(s) expose your greatest
challenges when it comes to loving God?
2. This chapter invites us to make a paradigm shift in the way
we typically think of leading. We are encouraged to lead out of
our being, rather than our doing. A way to do this is to create a
Rule of Life based on values that will cause us to acknowledge
God in everything we think, speak, and do. Complete the Rule
of Life Worksheet below to determine your own Rule of Life at
this time and place in your journey. Make sure your rule
includes some joy, play, and fun.
You may use this diagram, create one of your own, or simply
make lists for each section.
- Write down everything you currently do that nurtures your
spirit and fills you with delight. Don’t limit yourself to typical
spiritual activities.
- Write down the activities you need to avoid, that pull you
away from remaining anchored in Christ. What things impact
your spirit negatively?
- What are the “have to’s” in this season of your life that impact

your rhythms?
3. My Rule of Life in this season of my journey is . . .
Section 6
Week #5
– Sabbath Keeping
Sabbath keeping is not something we earn for having completed
our work. It is God’s invitation to step into His space where the
work is done and rest can begin. It is a reminder of the rhythm
of God’s grace in our lives. His grace always comes before our
work.
Too often ministry leaders allow work to run over every area of
life, which disrupts the rhythms of grace that God intended for
all creation.
1. Complete the assessment, “How Healthy is Your Practice of
Sabbath Delight?” on pages 149-150. What did you learn about
yourself through this exercise?
2. What makes it hard for you to rest – intentionally and
purposefully set aside time for Sabbath keeping?
3. Make a list of what you will and will not do as a part keeping
the Sabbath.
On Sabbath, I will . . .
On Sabbath, I will not . . .
4. During the remainder of this class, make an effort to set aside
time to participate in Sabbath keeping. Include those things that
bring you delight like enjoying people, places, and activities.

Make space for rest and contemplation as well. At the end of the
session, write about your experience in a paragraph.
Section 7
Week #6
– Making Plans and Decisions God’s Way (Chapter 6)
Christian leaders often make plans based on what they believe
is best and then proceed to ask God to bless their plans. We can
find the process of waiting on God not only for His will but also
for His perfect timing to be exhausting! . The reality is the only
way to know God’s plan is to listen to His voice and obey His
Word.
Planning and Decision Making?” on pages 179-180. What did
you learn about yourself through this assessment? What areas
need improvement?
2. Our goal, when planning and making decisions, is to remain
in a state of indifference – meaning we are completely open to
the will of God, having let go of our attachments to any
particular outcome. How do you think you could better prepare
your heart – both personally and as a team – to be more open to
the will of God?
3. How can you begin to see your limits as a gift from God that
He is using in your life?
4. As you look at the four characteristics of emotionally healthy
planning and decision-making, which do you think God is
inviting you to embrace more fully?
- To define success as radically doing God’s will

- To create a space for heart preparation
- To pray for prudence
- To look for God in our limits
Section 8
Week #6
- Working with Teams (Chapter 7)
“. . . I did something I never thought I’d do. I set aside all of
my ministry and church-growth goals and, for the next two and
half years, focused on molding a cohesive leadership team. I
made it my number one priority . . . It changed everything. So
much so that to this day I consider maintaining the unity of our
board and our staff as one of my most important leadership
priorities, far ahead of other worthy goals – including
evangelism, church growth, and community outreach – because
without unity, everything else falls apart.” (Larry Osborne,
Sticky Teams, 25)
Culture and Team Building” on pages 214-215. If you are
currently not leading a team, but serve on a team, answer the
questions as a team member. What did you learn about yourself
through this exercise?
2. What elements of team culture do you intentionally cultivate
with your team? Which elements do you need to develop further
and how do you plan to incorporate these elements? If you are
currently not leading a team, what elements need to be
cultivated in the team you are serving on in order to create a
healthy culture? What suggestions do you have for these
elements to become a part of the culture of your team?

3. Using the Ladder of Integrity below, choose an event from
your life that could have been improved if you had used this
tool. Take the time to write out your responses in conclusion to
each of the 10 statements. Can you see how using this tool
might be helpful in all of your relationships?
10. I hope and look forward to . . .
9. I think my honest sharing will benefit our relationship by . .
.
8. The most important thing I want you to know is . . .
7. One thing I could do to improve the situation is . . .
6. I am willing/not willing to . . .
5. This issue is important to me because I value . . . and I
violate that value when . . .
4. My feelings about this are . . . (What my reaction tells me
about me is . . .)
3. My need in this issue is . . .
2. My part in this is . . .
1. Right now this issue on my is . . . (I’m anxious in talking
about his because . . .)
Section 9
Week #7
– Understanding Power and Establishing Boundaries

“Few leaders have an awareness of, let alone reflect on, the
nature of their God-given power. Pastors, staff leaders, ministry
directors, board members, small group leaders, long-term
members, donors, parents, musicians in the worship band – we
all have power.
The problem is that we do not understand where that power
comes from, nor do we understand how to exercise it
responsibly.”
(Scazzero, EHL, 243)
1. Complete the assessment, “How Healthy is Your Use of
Power and Wise Boundaries?” on pages 247-248. What did you
learn about yourself through this exercise?
2. “A good test of a person’s character is how they deal with
adversity. But the best test of a leader’s character is how they
deal with power.” (Scazzero, EHL, 248) Using the following 6
categories, make an inventory of your power. Use the questions
by each category on page 249 to guide you as you work through
this inventory.
-
Positional Power
–
-
Personal Power
–
-
“God factor” Power
–
-
Projected Power

–
-
Relational Power
–
-
Cultural Power
–
3. Name one “dual relationship” that you have and one or two
ways you can build safeguards into that relationship.
4. Identify one past experience where you have failed to set a
wise boundary with another in your leadership. How might you
do it differently today in light of what you have learned from
this chapter?
Section 10
Week #8 – Endings and New Beginnings
“Embracing endings in order to receive new beginnings is one
of the fundamental tasks of the spiritual life – and this is
especially true for Christian leaders.”
(Scazzero, EHL, 270)
Understanding Endings and New Beginnings
Endings and transitions to new beginnings are poorly handled

in our ministries, organizations, and teams for at least four
reasons:
1. We accept the broader culture’s view of endings as failure
and try to avoid them at all cost.
2. We treat endings as signs of failure rather than
opportunities for something new.
3. We view endings as disconnected from our spiritual
formation in Jesus.
4. We disconnect endings from our family-of-origin issues.
In healthy endings and new beginnings, we move through
four phases:
1. We accept that endings are a death.
2. We recognize that endings and waiting in the “in-between”
will often take longer than we think.
3. We view endings and waiting as inextricably linked to our
personal maturing in Christ.
4. We affirm that endings and waiting are the gateway to new
beginnings.
Endings and New Beginnings?” on pages 273-274. What did you
learn about yourself through this exercise?
2. How has your family of origin, your life experience, and/or
your church background shaped your view of endings?
3. How have you been able to incorporate grieving into the

endings you have experienced?
4. What do you need to let go of in your personal life and/or
your leadership, and what new beginning might be standing
backstage waiting to make its entrance?
Section 11
Final Reflections
Observations about Emotional Health and Leadership

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