INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE




Marriage is not a man-made
 arrangement. It is God‟s
 design.(Gen. 1:26-2:25)
TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE


    Crisis in Marriage is an
opportunity to depend on Christ
   and allow us to grow as
          his children.
“The secret to making a
marriage work is TO WORK AT
YOUR MARRIAGE. Marriage is
hard work and too many people
are not willing to put in the
time and effort.”
i. understanding
    iNTIMACY
I. DEFINITION

From the Dictionary
A close, familiar and usually
 affectionate or loving personal
 relationship with another person
From the Bible- (Gen 1:26-2:25)
Biblical principle of „oneness‟

“…and the two shall become one” (Gen.
2:24)
Hebrew term for intimacy is Yahdah which
 describes sexual relationship.



It has different uses such as:
to know, learn to
know, perceive, discriminate, know by
experience, recognize, admit, consider and
sexual union.
In short it is…
    "In-to-me-see.
ANSWER BRIEFLY

 How do male(if you‟re male) female (if you are female)
  describe intimacy, what must be there for you to be called
  intimate with your partner ?




 What are the benefits of having intimacy in marriage?
COMPONENTS OF GROWING AND
     INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP


Personal sharing
Mutual Understanding
Deepening commitment
Caring
II. WHAT IS THE ROLE OF INTIMACY IN
              MARRIAGE?

Let‟s discuss it among ourselves

It   develops one another in love
It   bonds relationship
It   gives satisfaction to the relationship
It   deepens relationship
III. WHAT THE BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT
          MARRIAGE INTIMACY

The Book of Song of songs pictures
 the intimate relationship between
 lovers.
“My beloved is mine, and I am his. ..”
Song of Songs 2:16
THE CONTEXT OF SONG OF SONGS

The book can be divided into three:
the courtship (1:1 - 3:5);
 the wedding (3:6 - 5:1);
 and the maturing marriage (5:2 - 8:14).
DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGS

Knowledge of each other should be
 developed (even their vulnerability) 1:2-6
The role of communication in building
 up intimacy is important 2:1-7
    Kind words, words that build and
words that focus on strength
 oFor the king 5:10-16
 oFor the wife 7 :1-9
DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGS

Separation is unhelpful to intimacy 3:1-4

Sex was created by God as sacred for
 marriage 4:6-7 and keeps the marriage
 more intimate

They enjoyed each other‟s company
Practical Perspectives of Marriage

1) Possession
“Butbecause of immoralities, let each man
have his own wife, and let each woman
have her own husband. “
(1 Corinthians 7:2)
2) Obligation
“Let the husband fulfill his duty to his
wife, and likewise also the wife to her
husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3)
3) Control over
“The wife does not have authority over her
own body, but the husband does; and
likewise also the husband does not have
authority over his own body, but the wife
does.” (1 Corinthians 7:4)
4) Devoted
“But one who is married is concerned about
the things of the world, how he may please his
wife, …but one who is married is concerned
about the things of the world, how she may
please her husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:33-34)

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PRACTICAL APPLICATION

1) Give your spouse the attention he or
she needs. Take the time to truly know
your spouse.
2) Encouragement and praise, not
criticism, are vital to a successful
relationship.
3) Enjoy each other. Plan some getaways.
Be creative, even playful, with each other.
Delight in God‟s gift of married love.
PRACTICAL APPLICATION

4) Do whatever is necessary to
 reassure your commitment to your
 spouse. Renew your vows; work
 through problems and do not
 consider divorce as a solution. God
 intends for you both to live in a
 deeply peaceful, secure love.
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRY

Answer these questions:
1. When you and your spouse were
   dating, what did you do to make
   him or her feel special?

2. What are you currently doing to
make your mate feel special?
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRY

3. What was the last fun activity you
and your spouse did together?
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRY

 I feel loved and cared about when…..
(list three things )
1.
2.
3

Intimacy in marriage

  • 1.
  • 2.
    TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE Marriageis not a man-made arrangement. It is God‟s design.(Gen. 1:26-2:25)
  • 3.
    TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE Crisis in Marriage is an opportunity to depend on Christ and allow us to grow as his children.
  • 4.
    “The secret tomaking a marriage work is TO WORK AT YOUR MARRIAGE. Marriage is hard work and too many people are not willing to put in the time and effort.”
  • 5.
  • 6.
    I. DEFINITION From theDictionary A close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person
  • 7.
    From the Bible-(Gen 1:26-2:25) Biblical principle of „oneness‟ “…and the two shall become one” (Gen. 2:24)
  • 8.
    Hebrew term forintimacy is Yahdah which describes sexual relationship. It has different uses such as: to know, learn to know, perceive, discriminate, know by experience, recognize, admit, consider and sexual union.
  • 9.
    In short itis… "In-to-me-see.
  • 10.
    ANSWER BRIEFLY  Howdo male(if you‟re male) female (if you are female) describe intimacy, what must be there for you to be called intimate with your partner ?  What are the benefits of having intimacy in marriage?
  • 11.
    COMPONENTS OF GROWINGAND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP Personal sharing Mutual Understanding Deepening commitment Caring
  • 12.
    II. WHAT ISTHE ROLE OF INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE? Let‟s discuss it among ourselves It develops one another in love It bonds relationship It gives satisfaction to the relationship It deepens relationship
  • 13.
    III. WHAT THEBIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT MARRIAGE INTIMACY The Book of Song of songs pictures the intimate relationship between lovers. “My beloved is mine, and I am his. ..” Song of Songs 2:16
  • 14.
    THE CONTEXT OFSONG OF SONGS The book can be divided into three: the courtship (1:1 - 3:5);  the wedding (3:6 - 5:1);  and the maturing marriage (5:2 - 8:14).
  • 15.
    DISCOVERY FROM THESONG OF SONGS Knowledge of each other should be developed (even their vulnerability) 1:2-6 The role of communication in building up intimacy is important 2:1-7 Kind words, words that build and words that focus on strength oFor the king 5:10-16 oFor the wife 7 :1-9
  • 16.
    DISCOVERY FROM THESONG OF SONGS Separation is unhelpful to intimacy 3:1-4 Sex was created by God as sacred for marriage 4:6-7 and keeps the marriage more intimate They enjoyed each other‟s company
  • 17.
    Practical Perspectives ofMarriage 1) Possession “Butbecause of immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. “ (1 Corinthians 7:2)
  • 18.
    2) Obligation “Let thehusband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3)
  • 19.
    3) Control over “Thewife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” (1 Corinthians 7:4)
  • 20.
    4) Devoted “But onewho is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, …but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:33-34) T
  • 21.
    PRACTICAL APPLICATION 1) Giveyour spouse the attention he or she needs. Take the time to truly know your spouse. 2) Encouragement and praise, not criticism, are vital to a successful relationship. 3) Enjoy each other. Plan some getaways. Be creative, even playful, with each other. Delight in God‟s gift of married love.
  • 22.
    PRACTICAL APPLICATION 4) Dowhatever is necessary to reassure your commitment to your spouse. Renew your vows; work through problems and do not consider divorce as a solution. God intends for you both to live in a deeply peaceful, secure love.
  • 23.
    LET‟S GIVE ITA TRY Answer these questions: 1. When you and your spouse were dating, what did you do to make him or her feel special? 2. What are you currently doing to make your mate feel special?
  • 24.
    LET‟S GIVE ITA TRY 3. What was the last fun activity you and your spouse did together?
  • 25.
    LET‟S GIVE ITA TRY  I feel loved and cared about when….. (list three things ) 1. 2. 3

Editor's Notes

  • #7 Intimacy is seeing into each other's life. It's knowing each other's strengths and weaknesses. It's being aware of each others fears, hopes, and dreams."
  • #8 ) The concept of marital intimacy is derived from the Biblical principle of “oneness”
  • #12  A growing and intimate marriage is evidence in three components:Personal sharingIt is constant communication to our partner. Conversations that is Honest, true and other-centeredSummary:Conversing with our spouse is the most basic step that enables us to know how he or she thinks about or perceives different issues. We are beginning to know how our spouse is motivated. We gain insight into his or her struggles and temptations. As we gain more knowledge about them, then we can better serve and care for them, and gain support from them.[3] Personal sharing leads us to mutual understanding.Mutual Understanding – It is knowing, accepting and trusting our partner in a deeper level. There is an interdependence in relationship and itt sees relationship as one.Deepening commitment –This deeper commitment is in essence love. Love is the expression of unconditional, genuine concern for the other. Love is not merely a theory but is practical, kind and forgiving. Love is the underlying devotion toward each other that generates a host of kind words, generous actions and special favors. Caring – It is showing our affections and concern that is specially for our partner.