The document summarizes interviews conducted with couples who identify as "equallyokedtarians". Key findings include: 1) Equallyokedtarian couples have varying understandings of what it means to be equallyoked, with some sharing the same or similar civil identities while others have differing interpretations. 2) Couples communicate and socialize in different ways, with some regularly interacting with other equallyokedtarian couples through family connections, texting, or attending shared events. 3) One couple expressed a desire to change from a non-equallyoked relationship to an equallyoked one, indicating differing levels of identification or importance placed on being equallyoked among couples. The interviews suggest there is diversity in

1. Interviews withInterviews with
EquallyokedtariansEquallyokedtarians
Implications for the social
sciences concerning
“Equallyokedtarianism”
Social Psychology 700-B
2000 - 2007
April 7th
, 2007

2. DisclaimerDisclaimer
• Note – This survey report concerns the matter of
‘equallyokedtarianism’ only. All interviews
conducted that were included in this survey listed
herewithin are about ‘equallyokedtarianism’
exclusively and NOT about any ONE SINGULAR
feature or trait of an equallyoked couple. Those
have not been included, in fact omitted. There
were such couples who were singularly focused.
…However, couples who were focused singularly
on any ONE component of the interview while
identified as being ‘equallyoked’ were NOT
reported in this itemized survey summary.
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3. Key Interview Topics - 1Key Interview Topics - 1
• Traditions – as a family heritage
• Values – a recognized social mores
• Beliefs – and insights about being ‘equallyoked’
• Assumptions – that are held about theirselves
• Norms – couples who were normally animate in
expression about not being uequallyoked
• Standards – of family subculture as an
understanding of equallyokedtarianism
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4. Key Interview Topics - 2Key Interview Topics - 2
• Methods of – communication and socializing
• Membership – among other couples of the
same civil identity or diverse civil identities
• Identifying with one another– with other couples
of the same civil identity
• Change – one individual outside of an
equallyoked relationship desires to be in an
equallyoked relationship
• Status – as an equallyoked couple – as
equallyokedtarians
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5. Traditions – as a family heritageTraditions – as a family heritage
• “We both were taught in our families of origin
‘who’ we were – …our ‘civil identity’ – and what
it means to be equallyoked” (note: NOT the
concept of equallyokedtarianism as a societal
membership).
• Comment: Differentiating between
equallyokedtarian couples who were
indoctrinated by family tradition rather than those
who paid for or used a family heritage DNA
testing service was significant but it was not
cited herewithin nor pursued.

6. Beliefs – insights couples haveBeliefs – insights couples have
about being ‘equallyoked’about being ‘equallyoked’
• “Do we believe that we are equallyoked? Yes,
we believe we are equallyoked. We both
believe the same. So, we trust that it’s the right
thing to do.”
• Note: This equallyoked couple were forthright
about their beliefs and shared tht fact that they
both hold the belief in being, “…not unequally
yoked.”

7. Assumptions – that areAssumptions – that are
held about their selvesheld about their selves
• “We assume that we are. …well, I as we see it,
anyway. …at least we are close enough to being
equallyoked.”
• Comment: From my point-of-view, without a
formal psychosocial assessment I really could
see that this couple was indeed ‘close enough’
(as they put it) to being ‘equallyoked’ truly.

8. Values – a recognizedValues – a recognized
formal social moresformal social mores
• “We maybe we aren’t members of high society.
…we believe we are equallyoked, …so we aren’t
out and about in society.”
• Comment: this couple was animate about being
equallyoked without sharing a clear
understanding of what it means to them to be
‘equallyoked’.

9. Norms – were animate in expressionNorms – were animate in expression
about not being unequally yokedabout not being unequally yoked
• “Hell, we aren’t unequallyoked.” Just because
we don’t have a good income and college
education and members of high society. …we do
have each other. Yeah, we’re equallyoked”
• Comment: This couple did believe they were
equallyoked. Making it clear by their attitude
that they were not abnormal - they were animate
about not being unequallyoked.

10. Standards – of equallyokedStandards – of equallyoked
couples as a subculturecouples as a subculture
• “We don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t litter … so
many of our ‘couple’ friends are unequallyoked.
…and we do have some friends who are
equallyoked and they all seem to know it. ...
upholding the same standard as we have.”
• Comment: Within the circle of friendships of this
couple they do have sets of couples/friends who
hold a different set of standards and those who
did and were - equallyoked.

11. Methods of – communicationMethods of – communication
stylesstyles andand publically socializingpublically socializing
• “We (call) talk a lot with some of our family
members who are also in equallyoked
relationships.” … “We do have friends, couples,
who are equallyoked and we text them about
going out with them – dating as two couples.”
• Comment: There was not any communication
nor an explicit understanding about whether
these couples who dated as ‘couples’ (and who
were equallyoked) were attending specifically
equallyokedtarian activities.

12. Membership –Membership – among others of the sameamong others of the same
civil identity or diverse civil identitiescivil identity or diverse civil identities
• “We are equallyoked. Our family were members
of an international dance club ..we eat… drink..
dance …(smiling) we faithfully attend an
important annual society dance.”
• Comment: This couple, who were openly
‘equallyokedtarian’ represented too by their
attire and accented their membership in a
society organization implying that their dance
club was an (equallyokedtarian) societial affair.

13. Identifying with one another– with otherIdentifying with one another– with other
couples of the same civil identitycouples of the same civil identity
• “ Yes we are equallyoked. Hay, we all speak
the same second language (laughing)..yes, we
are equallyokedtarians (with a smile). (They
walked away holding hands talking in another
distinct foreign language to one another).
• Comment: This couple seemingly had their own
definition of equallyokedtarian with a rather
good sense of humor. It is noteworthy here to
report that they were of course very obviously
equallyoked (by civil identity), however.

14. Change – outside or inside – oneChange – outside or inside – one
desires to be equallyokeddesires to be equallyoked
• “Since we are not equallyoked, I would like to
get out of this relationship into an equallyoked
one.”
• Comment: I was very influenced by the attitude
of the interviewees. I felt I was in the midst of a
crisis decision on the part of the couple. Whether
by annulment or divorce, the change would have
to be brought about by one or both expressing
the fact that they were not equallyoked and
would like to be.

15. Summary of InterviewsSummary of Interviews
• A couple who ‘believe’ they are equallyoked share
sometimes the very same civil identity, sometimes
share similar civil identities, and there are those who
only ‘belief’ they are equallyoked by their own vague
understanding. Equallyokedtarians are couples
identified within a multicultural society sometimes are
indeed aware that they share in the ‘same’ civil identity,
some are aware they are very similar civil identities and
there are some couples whose civil identities are
skewed afar off from each individual in that dyad yet
somehow ‘belief’ they are equallyoked. Some couples
have strong influence within their own group concerning
their civil identity. Sometimes an equallyoked couple
possess no insight about being equallyoked, yet they
are indeed equallyoked, yet being so, is outside their
own awareness themselves. Some are equallyoked
unstated.

16. A “Reference Couple”A “Reference Couple”
• An ‘equallyoked’ couple as a ‘reference
couple’ for research in the social sciences?
• It is plausible that the ‘equallyoked’ dyad is as
diverse as there are people yet they all are
valuable research indices for conducting studies.
• Double blind controlled clinical trials with certain
identified equallyoked couples, providing they
are not globalist manipulated,and without any
local or state police, nor governmental
intelligence meddling/interference could be
considered authenicated as - truly fair – for a
proven social scientific outcome.

17. College Level Studies
Some Suggested Schools:
Sociology
Oakwood University, Grinnell College, Occidental College, Shaw
University, Gallaudet University, Central State University,
Social Psychology
Kentucky State University, Livingstone College, Claremont McKenna
College, Reed College, Swarthmore College, Cheyney University of
Pennsylvania,
Civil Rights and/or Community Health
East Texas Baptist University, Presbyterian College, Franklin College,
Sewanee-University of the South, Inter American University of Puerto
Rico-Barranquit, Benedict College,
Marriage Family and Child Psychology
Hampshire College, Pomona College, Hiram College, Oregon Health &
Science University, Wilmington College, Saint Augustine’s University,
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