This guide by Arjun & Arya outlines key strategies to boost self-confidence, defining it as trust in oneself and others. It emphasizes focusing on strengths, expressing oneself assertively, setting realistic goals, facing fears, and continuously learning to build expertise. The document concludes that self-worth should be intrinsic and highlights the importance of body language and assertiveness in projecting confidence.

1. How to gain more
confidence
A guide by Arjun & Arya

2. Intro
Confidence is one of the secrets of every successful person.
What is confidence? We have heard many definitions, but to me, it is nothing but
trust, be it on yourself or others. Measuring confidence is very difficult as it is a
product of accomplishments, choices, attitudes, situations, and so forth. If you
learn how to gain more confidence, then you will possess one of the greatest
treasures in life.
As per a recent study at the University of Melbourne, confident people went on
to earn higher wages and gets promoted quickly

3. Following are some cues on how to gain more
confidence
Confidence is one of the secrets of every successful person.
What is confidence? We have heard many definitions, but to me, it is
nothing but trust, be it on yourself or others. Measuring confidence is
very difficult as it is a product of accomplishments, choices, attitudes,
situations, and so forth. If you learn how to gain more confidence,
then you will possess one of the greatest treasures in life.
As per a recent study at the University of Melbourne, confident people
went on to earn higher wages and gets promoted quickly

4. ● Sharpen your Strength
While it is true that you shouldn’t have any breaking weakness, the age-old
concept of working on weakness is downright wrong. Even if you work hard on
your flaws at best, you will become average while your strength remains
underutilized. Successful people are aware of their weaknesses, but they work
on their strengths and capitalize on it.
Confidence can be built only on our strength.
● Express Yourself
Confident people never hesitate to express themselves or put across their ideas.
They are not afraid to be wrong and learn from others.
When you put across your point, speak with certainty, avoid phrases like I am
not sure, I hope so, etc. People will not believe you if you are not expressing with
conviction. Confident people never blabber, and their tone of voice will be
precise.

5. ● Set Realistic Short term goals
Confidence comes from success; by setting realistic short term goals,
chances of succeeding will be higher. Series of success triggers dopamine the
achievement hormone that helps to you gain more confidence and prepare
you to take on more challenges.
● Conquer your Fears:
Fear is the main setback for self-confidence. Beat that fear by preparing
yourself as hard as you can and then facing it.
If you can face your fear at least once, you will understand all that worrying
was for nothing, and thus you will conquer your fear forever.
Challenge Yourself, Prepare well, and conquer your fears.

6. ● Be Expert in your Domain
Learn and gain expertise in your field; be an ever-learning student, and
upgrade yourself to the changing environment. Never get stuck on
constrains; if you decide to learn, nothing should stop you.
Competence is power.
● Feel your self-worth
Don’t depend on others to measure your worth. You can get your feedback
from well-wishers or mentors, not from everyone, because some feedbacks
could pull you back. Concentrate on your goals and remove yourself from
distractions. Confident people never wait for other’s approval or praise; they
feel their self-worth from inside.

7. Positive affirmations and thoughts are the powerful weapons to hold your
self-worth high.
● Body Language
As you know, body language speaks louder than words. How you carry and
express yourselves project your confidence. Confident people have control
over their emotions and will not get offended easily.
Open body posture is an aspect of confidence.
● Be Assertive
Never try to do anything to please others, be clear on what you want. Your
time is limited, prioritize your needs, learn to say NO, and be assertive. There is
a fine line between assertiveness and aggression; being aggressive makes
you unapproachable.

8. Final Thought-
Confidence decides your destiny so gear
up 👍
Thank You!!
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