1. Healthy Relationships
Start With Yourself
When you are happy with yourself and
confident, others will be drawn to you
We all have talents, strengths and parts of our
personality that are great
We all have things we want to work on – no one
is perfect
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2. Healthy Relationships
Start With Yourself
It’s good to see yourself in a positive way
Thinking negatively about yourself can make
you feel upset.
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3. Why is it important to have a good
self-concept, and how is it achieved?
When your self-concept improves, your
personality and performance improves.
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4. Self-concept
Self-concept is the act of respecting yourself.
You must be aware of both your strengths and
your weaknesses.
You must believe in yourself and accept yourself.
As your self-concept increases, there will be less
and less that you have to prove to yourself.
A person with a positive self-concept is pleasant,
secure, and content.
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5. Positive Self-Concept
Having a positive self-concept is the most
important factor toward success.
By believing in yourself, you will gain the respect of
your peers.
As a leader, to gain the respect of others, you must
first be able to prove worthiness to yourself.
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6. A positive self-concept has rewards.
More confidence
Trust in ideas, skills, knowledge
The ability to capitalize on opportunities
Using mistakes as a learning experience
Being a more dynamic and interesting
person
Becoming more focused on bigger goals
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7. A positive self-concept has rewards.
Being more emotionally secure
The ability to control your personal
future--creating circumstances instead
of following circumstances
The ability to cope with success
A positive feeling for others
Being able to handle challenges
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8. Ingredients of a positive self-concept
Self-confidence is being secure with your
abilities and the opportunity to face new
challenges.
Self-determination involves motivation
from within.
Motivation is the energy that allows you to
meet new challenges. To be self-determined
is to be in charge of your fate.
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9. Ingredients of a positive self-concept
Self-responsibility is the ability to accept
consequences for any effort, good, bad, or other.
To be self-responsible, you must be
resilient, or have the ability to
bounce back.
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10. External factors that affect self-concept
Family
Relationships
School
Work
Social activities
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11. Relationships and Self-Concept
Contacts outside of family provide a network
of past, present, and future relationships.
Relationships exert certain influences on self-
concept, either consciously or unconsciously.
The friends you choose reflect your level of
self-concept.
Friendships sometimes mirror yourself in
feelings, thoughts, likes, or dislikes.
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12. Work and Self-Concept
The world of work provides you with the opportunity
to display self-concept.
Companies desire people with a high self-concept
because they possess more tools.
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13. Internal factors that affect self-concept
Fear is one of the basic emotions.
It is caused by an overwhelming
anticipation or awareness of danger.
Doubt is the state of questioning your
ability to learn, think creatively,
accomplish, and succeed.
Anxiety is having an uncomfortable
feeling or uneasiness about a solution
or event. “butterflies”
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14. How to develop a positive self-concept?
Accept yourself as you are - restore and
nurture a healthy self-concept.
Have a genuine desire to change.
Create the proper environment to allow
for the desire to grow.
Establish goals – there is a direct
relationship between goals and self-
concept.
Take action.
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15. Accept yourself as you are – you can only
control the future not the past
Practices in developing a healthy self-concept
accepting limitations
making a list of talents
making decisions for
yourself
not procrastinating
finding a mentor
dressing successfully and
using positive language
always learning and
accepting new challenges
choosing friends and
associates carefully
learning from successful
failures
going the extra mile
finishing every job that is
started
believing in yourself and
doing good for others
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16. Create the proper environment to
allow for the desire to grow
Attitude is a state of mind with respect to
feelings, beliefs, or outlook (positive or
negative) on an event.
As the attitude stays positive, desire can be
maintained.
Be aware of attitudes of those with whom you
associate.
You determine your own attitude.
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17. Establish Goals
A person must develop a purpose or direction through
the establishment of goals.
Goals are usually categorized into short, medium, and
long term.
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18. Establish Goals
Setting goals includes these steps:
Define the goal.
Establish a time frame - short, medium, or long term.
Make an agenda. List the steps involved in reaching the
goal and test the possible obstacles.
Be realistic in goal setting.
Evaluate to check progress.
Adjust and be flexible after evaluation.
Reward when the goal is reached.
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19. Take ActionWithout action, all you have are good
intentions.
Action is sometimes the hardest step to
achieve because it requires both
physical and mental energy.
When you take action you become
vulnerable to both external and
internal factors that affect self-concept.
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20. Six primary characteristics of people
with a positive self-concept.
They have a positive orientation – “Falling down
doesn’t mean failure, staying down does”
They are able to cope with life’s problems
They are able to deal with emotions.
They are able to help others and accept help
themselves.
They are able to accept people as individuals
They are able to exhibit a variety of self-confident
behaviors.
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