The document discusses verbal communication tactics and their appropriate and inappropriate uses. It notes that while verbal communication can be useful in professional settings to convey information and build relationships, misusing tactics can hurt others. It then provides examples of common but hurtful verbal tactics used in Filipino culture, such as negative comparisons between family members. One tactic, judgmental "you" statements, is identified as particularly offensive to college students because it can undermine their self-confidence and mental health. The major takeaway emphasized is that language should bring people together through understanding and compassion, rather than divide them or inflict harm. People must be aware of how certain verbal tactics, though sometimes habitual, can hurt others if left unchecked.

1. by: Group 1

2. definition
Whether at work or in your personal life, verbal
communication tactics are techniques you can build to
assist you in conveying information to others.
Particularly in an office setting where you operate as
a team, verbal communication can be crucial for
developing relationships and friendships. Yet when
misuse, it will lead to several pain you can inflict to
others.

3. Agcopra, Rafael Kent
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Aventurado, Alexis Lyn
Apayor, Dale Jerich
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Baguio, Loucille Kate
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Bahian, Sonsy Jane
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Belandres, Mary Claire
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Members
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4. Questions
A
Which among those
verbal tactics (based
on the 6 that I
presented) is the
most common in Filipino
Culture? Why?
B
Which among those
verbal tactics (based
on the 6 that I
presented) is the
most offensive to a
college student? Why?
C
What is your major
take-away from the
lesson today?

5. Based on what we have observed, the negative comparison is one of the most
common in Filipino culture because it is now rampant in a Filipino community's social media
pool or even in real-life situations where they do continuous jokes and frequently share
memes that revolve around comparative or stereotypical tita / cousins and their love of
gossip like "What did happen to your face? You have a lot of acne; why don't you go to a
dermatologist to get your skin smoother like your older sister?" or "Your sister had
graduated from a nursing school, right?" Why don't you also take the nursing course?”
Nearly all Filipino households have developed this practice, but why does it happen? Because
they are relying on us to live and conduct by their standards. They believe that if they go
their way, their child, niece, and grandchildren will enjoy happy lives, but this is not the
case. They do this expecting that comparing their child will motivate them to do their best.
By comparing their kids, they made the younger one feel insecure or, worse, depressed.
Elders should know that every person is diverse and gifted with a variety of talents.
A. Which among those verbal tactics (based on the 6 that I presented)
is the most common in Filipino Culture? Why?

6. Kids develop their interests and talents at different paces by rushing them
will lead to pressure and show that you are unhappy with their improvement
and the child might lose his self-esteem. As a parent you should learn to
appreciate the efforts and every achievement your child has, this will lead to
a great and balanced life for the children. In some ways, these sayings have
become cultural markers, resonating deeply with many people in the community.
However, what appears to be a playful jibe on the surface might be seen as a
coping technique for Filipinos caught in the loop of the bitter and toxic
comparison culture that our elders frequently subject us to. In truth, despite
their sarcastic nature, these memes depict the degrading culture of the
Filipino family at the sacrifice of the youth. What hurts the most is realizing
that such hurtful comments come from the people that we are closest to such
as our friends, random people, and even from our family or relatives.
A. Which among those verbal tactics (based on the 6 that I presented)
is the most common in Filipino Culture? Why?

7. 2. Which among those verbal tactics (based on the 6 that I
presented) is the most offensive to a college student? Why?
Offensive remarks are considered the most avoided verbal tactics in
communication, as these would adversely affect one’s self-esteem, lead to feelings of
separation, and exacerbate the conflict to a greater extent. This essay will explain why the
Judgmental “You” is an offensive verbal tactic to a college student.
Judgmental “You” is offensive to a college student because it not only pinpoints
one’s flaws and shortcomings but also generalizes that having imperfections could result in
misfortune to oneself and others. For instance, the act of limiting a college student’s
capability in terms of the intellectual aspect – the judgmental person might resort to
statements such as, “You won’t graduate because you have failed your major subjects,” or
“You won’t attain a fruitful career because you have difficulty processing and remembering
information,” or “You’re not smart enough, you won’t attain excellence.” Not only does the
judgmental person contribute to the college student’s feelings of anger, aggression, and
resentment, but such cases of perceived generalized judgments help instill negative emotions,
which upsurges reactive violence.
When provoked with such a harmful verbal tactic, a college student inept in
managing his emotions may quickly resort to violence, creating an uninviting, toxic
atmosphere wherein the tension between the two could easily erupt into emotional backlash
or, worse, physical conflict.

8. 2. Which among those verbal tactics (based on the 6 that I
presented) is the most offensive to a college student? Why?
On the other side of the Judgmental “You’s” extremities, the college student, after
he receives such remarks, may internalize these toxic messages – slowly transcribed in his
subconscious – which can become a part of his self-belief when repeated. And as a result of his
newfound limiting self-belief, he loses confidence in his capability to overcome the problems he
has encountered or will encounter as a college student. Nonetheless, he may lose interest in
his hobbies and other activities he typically loves, neglects to comply with academic
requirements, reverts to social isolation to evade such judgments, or wallows in self-pity:
blaming the world for its cruelty.
Furthermore, when such possibilities attributed to Judgmental “You” arise and are
left mismanaged, the college student may become susceptible to depression, affecting his self-
confidence and performance in both personal and academic life. Indeed, Judgmental “You” is a
negative way of perceiving someone, and it is an insulting and offensive preconceived
impression without considering their behavior, qualities, and values in the first place. Yet,
instead of anticipating the college student’s triumph, a judgmental person wishes them
misfortune by flaunting their imperfections and using those to limit the potential of another
human being.

9. 2. Which among those verbal tactics (based on the 6 that I
presented) is the most offensive to a college student? Why?
In light of this, language should be used to create meaningful
dialogue, for it is a powerful weapon capable of breaking or making a
person – and a helpful weapon used to reveal the identity of the person
who uses it. Therefore, we should use language to understand one another
and foster compassion so we can coexist despite our distinct
imperfections and differences.

10. 3. What is your major take-away from the lesson today?
There are a lot of situations in life that happen rarely and
frequently and among them might lead to a chain reaction that leads into a
series of events, each caused by the previous one; it can be arguments and
misunderstandings. One thing in common is that each of those situations has
verbal tactics present in those situations. In the lesson, it enlightens people
to understand the presence of verbal tactics. Some verbal tactics are being
used to be advantageous in a certain conversation but most of it are being
used for the cause of underhanded strategies such as to win an argument or
tight guilty situations. People are fond of using verbal tactics both
intentionally and unintentionally. Most of the time it is being used in every
situation regardless of it being a negative or positive conversation. Similarly
people where lying becomes habitable and sooner or later it becomes a part of
their lives where lying becomes a natural choice for them. Although with that,
the lesson teaches us to be aware of these verbal tactics not as a natural
tactic in everyday life and communication.

11. 3. What is your major take-away from the lesson today?
It is to note us that not just it is underhanded but also
offensive as well that might really hurt the feelings of the
listener. We are reminded to watch our words and to control our
anger. Keeping those in check will avoid arguments since having a
clean conversation makes the communication more effective and
fun. Verbal tactics can be used and advantageous to some point
but learn to restrain yourself from being a smooth talker into a
foul mouthed person. We use verbal communication to define
everything from ideas, emotions, experiences, and to define
reality not just to hurt others through verbally insulting and
offensive words that may hurt others.

12. Any Questions ?