This document discusses how to find self-acceptance through asking 5 questions when automatic reactions or "parts" of oneself take over in situations. It uses the example of a woman named Mary who feels only worthwhile when helping others. Mary is asked to look after a friend's cat but is allergic; asking the 5 questions helps her see alternatives and say no in a balanced way. The questions are: what are the facts, how am I interpreting it, what supports/contradicts this, is there another view, and making better choices leads to peace and self-acceptance.