The document outlines a 6-phase system for getting an ex-girlfriend back. The phases include: 1) understanding the breakup, 2) ending contact until she reaches out, 3) eliminating neediness, 4) creating fear of loss in her, 5) meeting up, and 6) makeup sex. It provides tips for each phase, such as avoiding contact, working on confidence, dating others to make her jealous, and acting positively during any meeting. The overall goal is to shift relationship dynamics and get her to pursue the man again.

1. Ex²
Cheat Sheet
Print this document out, staple it and keep it close by.

2. The Ex2 System is broken down into 6 distinct phases:
1. Understanding why your ex dumped you.
2. Ending contact with your ex until she contacts you first.
3. Ridding yourself of neediness and insecurity.
4. Creating a “fear of loss” within your ex girlfriend.
5. The big meet up.
6. Makeup sex.
Female Attraction
• Women are attracted to the way a man behaves much more than physical
“looks”, money or fame. Of course those things will help, but behaving in an
attractive, masculine manner will be more than necessary.
• Insecurity and acting “needy” repel women like nothing else. These behaviors
are interpreted as weak and turn women off, sexually.
• Traits of a dominant, attractive man are:
o Leadership (always have a plan, know what you’re doing, where you’re
going, etc)
o Confidence (be secure in yourself, don’t be afraid to speak your mind,
do what makes you happy above everything else)
o Self-Assurance (Be sure of yourself, assertive, pursue that which makes
you happy as opposed to just making your girlfriend happy)
• Women do not want the “power” in a relationship. They are only attracted
to men who take charge and lead them. This does not mean to start being
controlling, it means to start leading more and being more dominant / less
submissive.
• He who cares least, controls the relationship. Whoever has the most feeling
and emotion invested in the relationship will subconsciously communicate that
and thus push their partner away. Typically men who care too much will begin

3. acting needy and insecure.
• Picture the man you were when you first started dating your girlfriend. Now,
picture the man you became. Did the “male/female” polarity shift and you
started to act more submissive while your girlfriend assuming a dominant
role?
No Contact
• Do not initiate contact with your ex girlfriend. Wait until she initiates contact
with you first.
• “No Contact” will instill a fear of loss within her, keep you from acting needy
and insecure and give you time to read over the material in the Ex2 System +
Train Your Girlfriend.
• Most women keep their ex boyfriends around as “friends” to help themselves
heal. While the ex boyfriend is around giving his ex girlfriend emotional
support, who is there to support the boyfriend?
• If she contacts you, make it appear as though you have already moved on with
your life. Appear as though you’re perfectly fine with the breakup. Generally
act happy and cheerful.
• Women experience massive loneliness after three to four weeks of No
Contact. She will be at her most vulnerable at this point. If you decide to
contact her at this point, she will be very receptive.
Push/Pull Theory
• A “pull” is when you demonstrate interest and show affection. A “push” as the
opposite; it is when you demonstrate disinterest and lack affection.
• We pursue that which retreats from us. If you “pull” too much, your ex
girlfriend will retreat from you and generally have her guard up. If you push
(just a bit), your ex will feel a fear of loss (she can’t have you) and pursue you
instead.

4. Riding Yourself of Neediness & Insecurity
• Delete your ex girlfriends number from your phone.
• Remove all pictures of her from your house.
• Get rid of anything at all that reminds you of her.
• Build confidence by working out, buying new cloths for yourself, surrounding
yourself with happy, positive people.
• Never view her online profile. MySpace, Facebook, MSN, etc. Resist the urge
and NEVER VIEW HER PROFILE.
• Concentrate only on the negative aspects of your girlfriend.
• Visualize yourself with other women. Do not fantasize about your ex girlfriend
under any circumstances.
Creating A “Fear Of Loss” Within Your Ex
• Start dating other women. Word gets around and your ex is sure to hear about
it. Clearly this will make her jealous.
• Make your nickname on any instant messaging system “on a date, back later”.
This will ensure your ex finds out.
• Flirt with other women on social networking sites like MySpace and
Facebook. She’ll see that you’re not dwelling on her and want you back.
• Take pictures of yourself with other women and post them online.
• Generally appear as though you have moved on with your life and you no
longer need your ex girlfriend.
Meeting Up With Your Ex
• Have a plan of action. Be the guy in commend. Know where you’re going,
demonstrate leadership, lead the way.
• Remember the three C’s. Conversation, Convenient, Cheap.

5. • Shopping, watching a movie at your place, going out for coffee are all great
“meet up” locations.
• Do not bring up or mention any type of past relationship problems.
• Do not ask if she’s dating or sleeping with another guy.
• Generally be happy, positive and cheerful. This will keep you from appearing
needy or insecure.