This document provides advice from the Friendship Facilitators on living with roommates. It discusses choosing roommates, being a good roommate, dealing with conflicts, and living with friends. Tips include establishing rules, compromising, communicating, cleaning up after yourself, and not avoiding conflicts. Living with friends has advantages like knowing them well but risks changing the friendship. The facilitators encourage setting ground rules, managing stress, and fighting fair when conflicts happen.

1. FRIENDSHIP
FACILITATORS
“LIVING and LOVING in tight
spaces”

2. We’re the
“FRIENDSHIP
FACILITATORS”
We’re here to help you learn how to
get along with your roommates!

3.  Living with roommates is NEVER easy!
 Roommate Conflict? (1:55 – 3:20)
FACILITATING FRIENDSHIPS:
AN INTRODUCTION

4.  But with a little help from your Friendship
Facilitators, you can learn how to live in peace and
get along with your roommates!
 How NOT to deal with conflict! (5:11 – 6:47)
FACILITATING FRIENDSHIPS:
AN INTRODUCTION

5. PREVIEW
 Audra Van Winkle – Choosing Roommates
 Kaelee Abbey – How To Be a Good Roommate
 Melissa Edmonston – Conflict Resolution
 Bethany Harbour – Living With Friends

6. Dear Friendship Facilitators,
If I decide to go potluck, how will a
roommate be selected for me?
Sincerely, Jessica

7.  Bulletin Boards
 Newspaper/
Internet
 Ask around
 Church/School/W
ork
Finding a Roommate

8. Questions I Should
Ask…
 Male/Female
 Smoking/Non-
Smoking
 Pets/ No Pets
 Morning Person/
Night Person
 “Neat
Freak”/Comfortable
Living

9. How Are Boundaries
Set?
 Be honest
 Be respectful
 Talk!
 Be upfront
 Be able to
compromise

10. Dear Friendship Facilitators,
What are some general tips to being a
good roommate?
Sincerely, Anna

11. How To Be a Good
Roommate
 Building a good roommate relationship has as
much to do with the way you conduct yourself as it
does with the other person.
 You have to be
willing to:
• Compromise
• Communicate

12. Tips For Being a
Good Roommate!
 Remember The Golden Rule
 Establish Rules From The Beginning
 Set A Schedule
 Clean Up After Yourself
 Washing Dishes
 Picking Up Laundry
 Throw Away Your Trash

13. More Tips!
 Ask Permission
 Offer Alone Time
 Don’t Be Afraid To
Discuss Problems
 Own Your Own
 Find Ways To
Appreciate Your
Roommate

14. Dear Friendship Facilitators,
How do I deal when there is conflict
between me and my roommate?
Thanks, Meagan

15. Conflict Resolution
 Disagreement over
options for solving
problems, making
decisions, or achieving
goals; also,
disagreement caused
by seemingly
incompatible goals of
group members and
their perception of
interface from other in
the achievement of
those goals.

16.  Conflict Management
Styles
Nonconfrontational Style
Controlling Style
Cooperative Style
 Groupthink
Conflict avoidance
 Consensus
Reaching agreement
through communication
Conflict Resolution

17. Dear Friendship Facilitators,
Is it wise to move in with my best
friend? What are some advantages and
disadvantages?
Yours Truly, Rachel

18. Living With Friends
PRO’S:
 Know if they are
reliable or not
 Have a pretty good
idea if you can trust
them
 More likely to have
common interests
and friends

19. Living With Friends
CON’S:
 Higher Expectations
 Annoying
 Stop spending time
together outside of
your living space
 Risk losing the
friendship
 TMI!
 “Choosing sides” –
hassle among other
friends

20. Helpful Tips
Expect things to
change
Set ground
rules
Prepare for
stress
Fight fair

21. Other Ideas
 Have monthly
meetings
 Cook dinner together
 Decorate together
 Spend time together
OUTSIDE of your living
environment! Remind
yourselves why you
were friends in the first
place!
 Laugh it off!

22. “LIVING AND LOVING IN
TIGHT SPACES”
“Do unto others as you would have
them do unto you…” Luke 6:31

23. GOOD LUCK!!
Love,
The Friendship Facilitators

24. Questions