FFMV Newsletter June 2014

2. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter June 2014
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*Palm Desert Library
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim
Services/Victim Advocates
* Dola Wiedemann – Mother of Lisel - Memory Cards
*Family of Kris Flores
*Janet Garcia & Barbara Christian
facebook administrators
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
*The Community Foundation –
YGC – Charity of Choice – Briana Palencia –
In Memory of Vanessa Martinez
* San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office for
sponsoring newsletter for 2014*
.
Inmate Locator, Department of
Corrections is now making it easier
for people to locate prison inmates;
it’s a free online search and is open
to the general public.
http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) Rialto CA
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Dawn Hall – Parent (951) 757-4419 –
Murrieta CA
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Emergency
Consult for Suicidal or
Homicidal Participants
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-662-4373 –
High Dessert
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Redlands CA
* Delores Maloy- Parent – High Desert
Contact – 760-530-7027
* Shayla Adams – 760-475-3774
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2293-
Upland CA
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
in newsletter. They are also made by caring
professionals, organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
and operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222
Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
Thank-you
Janet Garcia
Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Barbara Christian
Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
4/10/63 – 1/8/8

3. FFMV - Riverside Chapter
Meets on the 3rd
Wednesday of every
month at 7pm
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419
For directions ask for PJ at-
951-696-1600 x2177 –
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch)
FFMV - Colton Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA
92313
Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm
Contact person for directions or
information Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV -Coachella Valley Chapter
Suspended until new leader is replaced
Oakland Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069
Sandra – 510-691-7089
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
need to talk to someone, we are here to listen
and share emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we
can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd
Wednesday of the
month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San
Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
FFMV
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets every 2nd
Thursday of every month
at 7:00pm-8:30pm
St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Conference Room
2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA
91786
Participants have the option of the
English & Spanish Meeting
Local Grupo Bilingue
Los participantes pueden escoger en
Inglés o en Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes
a las 7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063
rittaatffmv@aol.com
Contact Rita on by Wednesday May 8th
to
confirm you will be attending
FFMV – SGV Chapter
Meetings are currently held on the 2nd
Tuesday of each month in a classroom at the
First United Methodist Church of La Puente,
located at. 15701 Hill Street, La Puente, CA
91744. Contact information:
* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403
*Tracy Ponce (626) 533-3121
FFMV – SFV Chapter satellite
chapter of FFMV SGV
Meets every 1st
Thursday of every
month 6:00pm-8:00pm at
United Methodist Church in the
Fireside Room
15435 Rayen St.
Sepulveda, CA 91343
Contact information
* Luisa (818) 445-2077

4. FFMV Fundraisers
Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot
which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207,
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
for all three. We get reward points that help
defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
office supplies.
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or
take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
Depot and give them 909-798-4803
It’s an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
FFMV SGV Chapter News
Announcements
Luz shared that she would like to sell
bracelets as a fundraiser for our
chapter. These bracelets would be
personalized with our loved one’s names on
it and Luz Ruiz will make them
herself. Each bracelet will cost $15. She
will be posting pictures of the bracelets on
her Facebook Page soon. She is taking
orders now.
FATHER’S DAY
Warm and sunny day in June,
Father’s Day,
Children, small and grown,
Give gifts to father
Say thanks to father,
Say I love you.
But there are fathers
whose children are not here
to give gifts and say thanks
And I love you.
Remember the fathers
whose children are gone,
because they will always be
Fathers at heart.
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 387-6540
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web
site
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss –
818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com
* Crime Victims United of California –
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800)
VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
* Greater Orange County POMC –
Marie – 714-999-7132 – 562-508-2397
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings
held in Orange County
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com
* MADD – (909) 888-6233
www.maddsanbernardino.org
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457-
0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* www.psychic4themissing.com
* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter –
Alhambra Police Dept.RM# EDC 2nd
Floor 211 South First
Street, Alhambra, CA., 91801) 3rd Wednesday of the Month
Time: 6:30PM - 8:30PM Tina-626-298-9054 -
tinayyama@att.net

5. JUNE 2014 BIRTHDAYS
Adam Brodsky Adam John Rivera
Beatrice Hatfield Bill Ickes
Bobby D. Stutson Chris Walsh
Gina Louise Perez Henry Vellore Lozano
Herbert E. Seymour Jr. Jamal Mboya Johnson
Jesse Garcia Jerry Angelo Sandoval
Jillian Michele White Joseph Threadgill
Kelly Bullwinkle Larry Sorrough
Linda Hesse Lori Renee Gonzalez
Lorrain Lopez Mateo Villapando
Maureen “Marsy” Ramirez Melissa Sandor
Officer David Ruiz Richard Lopez Ronnie Stephen Mena
June 2014 Memories
Adam Brodsky Alfred Cabrera
Alicia Chagolla Ashley Nicole Rivas
Bill Ickes Carlos Mendoza
Chad Jeffrey Norris Charlie Martinez
Daniel Perez Jr. Doctor Fernandez
Edward A. Ortiz Elzie Elijah Winston
Jerry Angelo Sandoval Jesse Garcia
Jose Villalobos Josslyn Dinoso-Brooks
Katie Brennar Lacey Wheeler
Larry Sorrough Michael Lundin
Michael Ribaudo Orlando Hurley
Ross Elvey Russell Travis Dorff
Sean Gardhouse Somer Clugston
Steven Grant Steven Paul Medrano
Teresa Soto Del Rio Terese R. Stewart Yvonne Guiterrez
Goodbyes are not forever….Goodbyes are not the end
They simply mean I’ll miss you…Until we meet again

6. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Jesse Garcia Adam Rivera Raul “Ralphie” Payan
6/10/82 – 6/27/94 6/1/82 – 1/1/08 2/14/75 – 1/16/05
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
--------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file___________

7. In 2007, Congress designated September 25
as the "National Day of Remembrance for
Murder Victims." This special day gives us
the chance to honor our nation’s murder
victims and pray for surviving family
members whose lives were forever changed
by an act of violence. While our actions
today cannot change the horrific past, it is
my hope that our shared efforts will, at the
very least, seek to remind us of the common
bond we share as Americans. Their loss is
our loss, and their pain is our pain. We must
never forget.
San Bernardino County District Attorneys’
Office online memorial boards is to do just
that—honor the memories of those who lost
their lives to a senseless act of violence in
San Bernardino County.
If you would like to have your loved one's
photo placed on our online memorial board,
please send us one digital image along with
the name of your loved one, date of birth
and date of passing to clee@sbcda.org. Our
memorial only dates back to 2011 when the
District Attorney's website was revamped;
however, if your loved one's date of passing
is prior to 2011, you are also invited to
submit your photos and be included in the
memorial. The image must be at least 230
pixels wide and 290 pixels high (230x290).
We will update this page once a year on
September 25.
"DETOUR" - a documentary
Multilevel Entertainment is passionate about producing a documentary entitled "DETOUR" to benefit Families & Friends of Murder
Victims, Inc., a 501(c)3 non-profit organization since 1995, dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who
have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder. This documentary collaborates with real people and
stories from the survivors: the families and friends of the murder victim. Their journeys from loss to beginning a new life is also told by
law makers and enforcers, medical professionals, and clergy.
Our goal is to create a poignant documentary that highlights the effects of homicide on society and the necessary coping skills for those
who are surviving the loss and grief of their loved one ... now, called the victim. By raising public awareness, we hope that Families &
Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. will receive the financial support they need to continue their work with survivors throughout Southern
California in Los Angeles, San Bernardino, and Riverside Counties, and become an international model program. For more information,
visit igg.me/at/ffmvfilm – Update….funding is still in process.
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau of
Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide
and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House
in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn and
understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been
expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for
teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be
a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma
Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their
time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities,
presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073

8. Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group
announced that he would to publish pictures and information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the
newspaper website. Many families that I know personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD
cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank will get it
published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The paper also has
the project listed on Facebook …
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested can
contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91106, 626-578-6300 ext.4478 frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name,
address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your
relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short
bio on how your loved one was murdered
We invite you to Attend
“A Day of Healing
for Survivors of a Violent Death”
Join others who share a similar loss due to violence and find support in the beautiful and peaceful
El Carmelo Retreat House
When: Saturday, June 14, 2014
Where: El Carmelo Retreat House
926 E. Highland Avenue, Redlands, CA
Registration: 8:30am – 9:00am
Reflection Day: 9:00am – 5:00pm
Cost: $5.00 if paid by Wednesday, June 11th;
$10.00 after June 11th or at the door
(Includes continental breakfast and lunch)
*Bring photo and/or memento of your loved one*
This reflection day will be in English.
For more information please contact:
Antonio Luevano
909.475.5472 or aluevano@sbdiocese.org
Registration Form for “Day of Healing” Retreat
Name: ____________________________________________________________
Mailing Address: _____________________________________________________
Email Address: ______________________________________________________
Home Phone: _______________________________________________________
Cell Phone: ________________________________________________________
Parish: ___________________________________________________________
Checks can be made out to “Diocese of San Bernardino.” Please mail registration form and payment to:
Office of Restorative Justice, 1201 E. Highland Avenue, San Bernardino, CA 92404

9. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
People don’t always see the tears a dad cries, his heart is broken too when his child dies. He tries to hold it
together and be strong even though his world’s has gone wrong, he holds his wife as her tears fall, comforts her
through it all he goes through his day doing what he is supposed to do. But a piece of his heart has been ripped
away too. So when he’s is alone he lets out his pain and his tears come falling like rain His world has crashed in
around him And a world that was once bright has gone dim. He has to be strong for others. But Dad’s hurt to, not
just the Mother’s. He searches for answers, but none are to be found. He hides behind a mask when he is falling
down He smiles through his tears. He struggles and holds in his fears. But what you see on the outside is not
always real. Men don’t show how they really feel. A dad hurts too!
Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads in Heaven!
Website - http://families-friends-murdervictims.simplesite.com/
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
Send me your outcome of your court process or status of your case and I will post on our newsletter.
Grief is not healed in a certain time frame, the heart does not work that way...
I continue to pray for the families of the victims and surviving victims for
PEACE, HOPE and JUSTICE!
Peace
It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work.
It means to be in the midst of those things and still
Be calm in your heart
(Unknown)
Thoughtfully,
Rose
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer
grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions
regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to
mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas
Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact
FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

10. 2014 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code _______________________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ a donation for 2014
Thank-you… if you have already sent a donation

11. FORMA DE PERMISO
2014 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de
diapositivas de fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima: ____________________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing para
recibir el boletín mensual, información de eventos
Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV a
utilizar y publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica.
Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su / nombre y
para cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como la publicidad, la
ilustración, el contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ______________________________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo o e-mail participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222 ~
He incluido una foto () Sí () No utilizar el que está en el archivo
He incluido una donación de $ _________ para 2014
Thank-you ... si ya ha enviado su donación 2014