A Christian parenting seminar delivered at Saddleback Church, Irvine South Campus to help equip parents in raising Christian children

4. Our Children Are
• A sacred responsibility
• A divine gift
• An organic extension of us
• The primary source of our legacy
• The best part of ourselves
• Our gift to the world's next
generation
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5. Child-Rearing Responsibility
1. Primarily Parents (Christian/not)
2. Grandparents & Extended Family
3. Church Family Membership
4. Age-Group Ministry & Minister
5. Community at Large (school, etc.)
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7. At first glance, "fake faith" looks
similar to authentic faith
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8. Five Facts
About Counterfeit Christianity
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9. 1. "Fake Faith" implies kids
must earn God's favor

10. 2. "Fake Faith" makes kids'
good external behavior its goal

11. 3. "Fake Faith" enforces kids'
obedience using shame
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12. 4. "Fake Faith" worries more about
parental embarrassment than kids' faith
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13. 5. "Fake Faith" emphasizes
being 'real' over being 'holy'
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15. Authentic Faith (metamorphosis) begins
undetectably on the inside of a person before
it manifests on the outside (Rom 12:2)
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16. Indications of Authentic Faith
Matthew 22:37-39
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17. Knowing God | Rom 12:2
• Asking spiritual questions
• Openness to Christian teaching
• Accepting biblical truths or doctrine
• Coming to know Christ personally
• Rethinking assumptions and beliefs
• Showing a changed mindset
• Building a biblical worldview (lifeview)
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18. Loving God | Mt 22:37ff
• Changing negative attitudes
• Manifesting a sense of gratitude
• Maturing personal convictions
• Rebuilding their ethical system
• Developing strong biblical
convictions
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19. Living for God | Lk 6:46
• Greater control of tongue
• Noticeable change in actions
• Visible changes in devotional life
• Better ethical behaviors
• Consistent Christlike character
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20. Loving Others | Mt 22:37ff
• Greater compassion
• New choices of close friends
• Consistent church attendance
• Indications of sexual purity
• Harmonious relationships
• Serving other people
• Treating parents & siblings with
respect
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22. Mouthing (Not Modeling)
Parenting
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23. Expecting our Children to Follow
Our Advice, Not Our Example
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24. Passive Parenting

25. Allowing Passivity on Minor
Issues to Become Major Issues

26. Fatalistic Parenting
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27. Assuming, Anticipating, then
Excusing Our Child's Rebellion
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28. Your Child Doesn't Have To
• Rebel against your authority
• Use profanity
• Befriend bad kids
• Start smoking cigarettes
• Have their first joint
• Be sexually promiscuous or 'go gay'
• Walk away from God
• Fatalistic parenting is self-fulfilling
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29. Popularity Parenting

30. Allowing Personal Insecurity to Keep
You from Responsible Parenting

31. Innoculative Parenting
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32. Inoculate Our Kids Against Authentic Faith
With Inch-Deep Christianity at Home
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34. 1. Don't rush your kids into big spiritual
decisions, especially salvation and baptism

35. 2. Daily raise spiritual issues in
your conversations (Deut 6:4-6)

36. 3. Consistently have them in
church as Priority #1 (Heb 10:25)
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37. 4. Pray for and over them,
within earshot (Num 6:24-26)
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38. 5. Make consistent faith at home all
they can remember (2 Tim 1:5; 3:14)
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40. 1. Communicate a high standard and strongly
encourage their spiritual best but expect uneven
growth and occasional setbacks (1 Jn 2:1)
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41. 2. Eliminate exasperating your teen by
working not to annoy, irk, vex, provoke, or
enrage them (Eph 6:4; Col 3:21)

42. 3. Stay together as a family
(love one another) Eph 5:21-33
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43. 4. Increasingly tell them the honest, brutal
truth about life & faith (1 Chr 28:9)
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44. 5. Help them develop a healthy
'significant other' relationship

46. 1. Confess Parenting Mistakes to God and
Acknowledge Them to Adult Children
(Dismount the Dead Horse) (Phil 3:13)
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47. 2. Be ready to give godly wisdom in life's "teachable
moments" but remember "less is more" and avoid
snarky self-righteousness (Prov 25:11)

48. 3. Trust God to use a perfect combination of
natural law, divine law, civil law, and the law of
conscience to train adult children (Gal 6:7)
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49. 4. Let them know you'll never give up on them and will
never stop loving them unconditionally-- but will also
never violate your convictions (Rom 14:1-23)
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50. 5. Grandparenting is your best God-given
opportunity to indirectly re-parent a still-wayward
adult child and your own grandkid (2 Tim 1:5)
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Freddy Cardoza
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