2. Say -
“The transition from school to work for someone with
a disability involves a lot more than just finding a
program. The guardianship issues, school
issues, healthcare, transportation and a one-to-one
mentor are all problems.”
3. Say-
“(My son) works 2 days a week for a small amount of
money; mostly for self esteem.”
“The plan is for him to keep this job but his helper just
quit, so I have to find someone else to take him as I
think we have some time apart.”
“Finding someone I can trust to take him is a major
problem.”
“I feel my biggest challenge is all the paperwork!”
4. Say -
“I am a micromanager – I call, ask if they have my
documents, wait a few days and call again.”
“How angry can you get with (social services) when
you know the person on the other end of the line is
overwhelmed?”
“The cumulative affect of all the forms wear you out.
It’s like having a government job.”
“(My son) loves the work and doesn’t even want to take
a break.”
5. Say -
“(This work) is the only activity he participates in
willingly that isn’t sedentary.”
“If we can convince him to take a lunch or a break he
could work more hours.”
“Maybe working on a different station would allow him
to sit to work.”
“Graduation took a huge weight off as constant school
meetings and paperwork let up.”
6. Say -
“A lot of people can’t handle the challenge of a disabled
child. Getting the best response from him (in a work
situation) as he is non-verbal involves a lot of
guesswork. It is very frustrating when he can’t
communicate and we can’t understand what he wants
to say.”
7. Do -
She didn’t send her son to the work training program
offered by his school at the time as it didn’t have any
benefit for disabled children.
Instead she pursued a separate program found by
visiting adult disabled services in another county.
She tracked down former mentors/coordinators
familiar with the program and convinced her son’s
school to send him and other disabled high-school
students.
8. Do -
She prepares weekly, monthly, and yearly paperwork
for various agencies to track her son’s
health/welfare/work.
She is his legal guardian (by court order) which also
requires a documented yearly follow-up.
Keeps a daily diary (filed every two weeks online) as
her son’s ‘residential habilitation provider’.
9. Think -
There are not enough options for severely disabled
adults and the options available are hard to find.
There is a lack of reliable help – it is a low wage, low
skill position to be one-to-one helper.
There is too much paperwork for too many groups.
There is no guide, no roadmap for the severely
disabled child aging out of the school system.
10. Feel -
Frustration: everything for her son (and herself on his
behalf) is a struggle.
Anger: the available help is swamped and
underfunded.
Self-empowered: to make anything happen you have to
advocate for your child yourself.
Exhaustion: It rarely gets easier.