This document provides an overview of the first class in a self-coaching course. It includes the agenda for the introductory class which involves warm-up exercises, an introduction to conceptual frameworks and coaching tools, and partner conversations. The instructor emphasizes that the classes are meant to build on each other and provide a foundation in topics like beginnings, change, attention, emotion, happiness, resilience and more. Participants are asked to commit to active participation, challenge themselves, and provide feedback to help improve the course.
6. Let’s get real
Not what you expected to be doing 3 weeks ago
My job: Help leaders face difficult challenges
This course isn’t a solution (but it can help)
8. Let’s get ready
The world has gone from peacetime to wartime
We need people who are prepared to step up
This course isn’t a solution (but it can help)
31. What to expect
Classes build on each other, laying a foundation
1.BEGINNINGS
2.CHANGE
3.ATTENTION
32. What to expect
Classes build on each other, laying a foundation
1.BEGINNINGS 4.EMOTION
2.CHANGE 5.HAPPINESS
3.ATTENTION 6.RESILIENCE+
VULNERABILITY
33. What to expect
Classes build on each other, laying a foundation
1.BEGINNINGS 4.EMOTION 7.UNHAPPINESS
2.CHANGE 5.HAPPINESS 8.SUCCESS
3.ATTENTION 6.RESILIENCE+ 9.ENDINGS
VULNERABILITY
34. What to expect
Classes build on each other, laying a foundation
Short lectures highlighting key points
Partner conversations every class
53. Write down 3 statements about yourself
Write LARGE & legibly
This will be SHARED
You have 1 minute
Getting to know
you
I am ___________
I am ___________
I am ___________
54. Discuss your sheets, 2 minutes per person
I’ll announce when it’s halfway (switch)
Use the onscreen timer to keep track
Then I’ll see you back here
Instructions
56. Consider all the choices you’ve been making
What did you write down? What did you say?
What did you think about writing down?
What did you think about saying?
Now reflect
58. Discuss your sheets, again
2 minutes per person, again
How might you be more candid?
One more time
59. Discuss your sheets, 2 minutes per person
I’ll announce when it’s halfway (switch)
Use the onscreen timer to keep track
Then I’ll see you back here
Instructions
71. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
Open-ended
Avoid presumptive questions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
72. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
Where shall we start?
What’s on your mind? What else?
Andy Grove on 1:1s:
The subordinate should set the agenda.
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
73. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
Focus & redirect
Provoke analysis
Emotions, motives, actions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
74. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
How do you feel about that?
What do you want to accomplish?
What’s your plan? What might happen?
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
75. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
3. Confrontational inquiry
NOT a “confrontation”
Challenging their narrative
Introducing new ideas & hypotheses
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
76. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
3. Confrontational inquiry
What other options do you have?
What other explanations might there be?
Have you considered…? (Watch the advice.)
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
77. Modes of inquiry
1. Humble inquiry
2. Diagnostic inquiry
3. Confrontational inquiry
We tend to move too quickly
Critical to check our assumptions
Adapted from Edgar Schein [link]
98. Back to pen & paper…
Why am I taking this class?
What concerns or interests motivate me?
What are my goals? What do I hope to accomplish?
Partners
99. Discuss your sheets, 10 minutes per person
Make this your first coaching conversation
I’ll announce when it’s halfway (switch)
Use the timer onscreen to keep track
Instructions
104. Photo by Glyn Lowe [link]
Course logistics
All readings & exercises are on my site
Along with main instructions for each class
I’ll email a new Zoom webinar link every week
105. Course logistics
Problems and feedback:
selfcoachingcourse@gmail.com
I’ll read everything—I may not be able to respond