This document discusses applying the transtheoretical model of behavior change to improve the author and their sister's well-being. The author plans to enhance their spiritual wellness by increasing involvement, while helping their sister reduce procrastination. Each will go through the five stages of change: precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. For themselves, the author has moved from precontemplation to contemplation by recognizing a problem and planning a solution. They will build confidence through social support to reach preparation and commitment. For their sister, positive reinforcement has helped shift from precontemplation to contemplation, and the author proposes accountability activities like shared study sessions to guide their sister through the remaining stages.
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All my life I have had the desire to help young man I grew up in a family where everyman have been to jail and I had many friends going to jail as well. I was the only one who hadnt experienced and the only one to become successful. I knew there had to be a way to help these men see life in a different way. this situation is important to me because this was all I knew growing up and if I could overcome the negativity I knew my positive would shine so that they could see there was another way and doing things another way of life. I behaved two different ways to the situation. the first way in which I behave was trying to fit in and be like which I grew up and was hanging with. since this was all I knew I wanted to fit it and to be liked, but after a while I started to realize that this isnt what life was about. my other behavioral response to the situation was knowing that life had more to offer than what I was getting. things didn't seem to be right when I was trying to do it that way when I realize that I could work a job and get an education to make a decent salary and prepare myself for a higher success, that's when things started to change within myself and people surrounding me. during the situation I was so confused on what was going on. A question that I asked myself over and over was why am I allowing myself to become a product of my environment. I had to think over and over on why it took much time for me to receive this answer during my thinking process I evaluated my pros and cons of the situation and realize my pros of being successful and A man out weighed my cons of taking chances of becoming some trouble adult t bound for Jail. Another formulated question was: how did I get myself in the situation? the answer was confirmed immediately, peer pressure was a big reason to how I got myself in this as stated before I long to fit in or be accepted by people who I didn't realize at the time meant me no good. of the nine strategies remaining the sixth strategy reshapping your character helped me in my decision-making because I realize what the problem was and what it was doing to me and my surroundings. it took maturity and hard experiences . another strategy is handling a problem a day at a time. this help me in the situation I was in because of the answers I was trying to figure it all out at once time which made it harder but once I applied the strategy , handling a problem one day at a time it made it easier and less stressful. Another situation that was emotionally significant to me was the death of my mother the death of my mother was important to me because she is my mother, my best friend it surprise me because it was a sudden-death it really came from nowhere she had been sick the month before but her pass it really threw me a curve ball. my behavior with her passing was very common like I said before she was my best friend she was all I had because my dad left when I was eight years old. so I watch my mom work hard r a.
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1. What is on your mind? And what else?
As my wife and I have kind of put on hold things till after the summer, I feel like it a really good choice. We did not put coaching on hold, nor has she stopped looking for a job, but rather she is looking for a GS job that could take months to get due to the background checks and application process. We have come to the realization that we will have to commute as we were trying to avoid that, but reality has it that if we want the jobs, we want then we are going to have to.
2. What is the real challenge for you now that we have gone through this process?
It was a real challenge to understand her side, and just when I thought I had it I would be back at square one. For instance, I knew she wanted a job from seven to three in the afternoon and I know my daughter has therapy but for some reason in my brain I was just not thinking about that, but I was thinking about money, job, and her working. Our last conversation helped me to hear this instead of just listening to her.
3. What is the desired goal? (You can have them do an exercise for you where they draw {pictures} their goal and where they see themselves)
That is a very interesting concept, I asked my wife about this and she said that it would be a picture of her behind a desk, in work clothes, and having some responsibility. I asked about a list she would make also. Other then her main goal of working her big concerns are her working and able to support our family at least for a little bit when I retire so that I do not have to rush into the work force, and I can take some time.
4. What else can I do to support you? Who else can help? Do they know?
I can honestly only be there for her right now. I offered to go to a hiring event with her, she is nervous about going and she asked if I could come and support her. I am helping her get a resume together as well as work on her cover letter to hand out at this event. I think just being there for her and helping her with the transition is what is going to help her most. She is independent and can mange by herself but does better support. She leans on her friends for support, she also reaches out to a Facebook group that helps spouses find jobs as well as post job events, she also has made appointments with the people that help write resumes on post to get incite and have professional help with it.
5. If you say yes to this, dedicate your time to this, what are you saying no to? This is key, make a commitment.
She has my full support; I offer any help that I can as well as any leads that I can with the help of people that I have met in my line of work. We are both fully committed, and I think that is what is making this process go further beucase we have the same goals as well as wants for the outcome we are going for.
6. What has been most useful to you?
Mapping out what she wants the outcome to be. It had changed and she is still back and forth between working GS or USAA but in the end .
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These paragraphs are posted from some of my classmates and I need to answer them. Please do not copy the same words that they have written in these paragraphs use your own words. Thanks!
1- I agree with you in regards to how we feel can ultimately impact the day in either A positive or negative way . Most often times we hear about people who have bad mornings, and swear that the rest of the day is going to be bad. This is not a fact, it is a perception based on how we feel about the day that can change the outcome of the day. I find myself having to check my emotions and reassess my thoughts. I try to control my reaction to situations, and not let that carry on for the full day. I have seen employees who have bad coaching and immediately the deemener changes. It is so important to be aware of our reactions to things. Sometimes leadership does things simply to see how we react almost as a way of determining our ability to cope with difficult situations.
2- Hello Class,
I have to agree with all of you guys. In my past younger years, I have been all of the above, came in already having a bad day and let it be the tone for the rest of the day. I have also been the person who came in having a great day and have the one person who just knows how to ruin everyone's day, steal my joy and turn my perfectly great day into a horrible day. Something I learned from experience and training, is to take the emotion out of it. No matter what message you have to deliver when dealing with employees, you don't get excited, they should not see or feel any attitude or emotions.
3- Job satisfaction to me means I am doing something I enjoy and am happy doing it. If I wake up every morning hating what I am doing and hating having to get up and go into work I will not do a very good job at best I will go through the motions doing just enough to not get fired. I know that is probably pretty low for myself but I can no force myself to enjoy what I do just because I am getting a pay check. I took a good $100 week pay cut giving up the factory job I worked to go into training people in strength and fitness.
4-I believe you answered a lot of your own questions and doubts when you said you got the promotion for a reason. Obviously someone has the belief in you and your abilities or you would not have gotten it. That in it should fill you with confidence going forward and to question these things I think is a natural response that most all of us share. With all that being said as long as your ideas are well thought out and planned you should never be afraid to share them. Good luck in your new job
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This document discusses my own personal goals and self analysis concerning health and wellness. It was a project that really forced me to look at where I ws and where I wanted to go.
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· Journal A:
Actually, my feeling for this class is not clear yet, because it is my first time to attend this kind of classes, which I was told that I have to take this class due to my low GPA. Honestly, I was not happy to know that I have to take this kind of classes because my grade, because I thought this class will be a time wasting for me. Also I do not like to be forced to do something that I do not like to do. However, from what we have discussed on the first class I am pretty sure that it is going to be a good experience for me in several ways such as writing journals, how to organize my schedule, and the most important thing is that how to succeed in college. Also, since I am an international student, I need to learn many skills, which this class will do it. For example, self-reflection is very important skill in this class, and it is a new skill that I need to improve myself on it by writing down my own ideas and thoughts to make a good piece of writing.
· Reflection:
As I have said on the first journal, my feeling was not that much good for this class because I thought it is going to be a time wasting, but through the semester I found out that it is really helpful and useful class, which has improved my skills and I have met many good friends and I was really glad to work with. I am sure that the time I have spent in this class was worth it.
· Journal B
Everyone has a blind spot in their personality that they don’t know about it. According to Lynn Little blind spot is “the grid that represents information that is known-by-others but not known-by-self”. There are some steps to find the blind spots in my personality that would do such as quick thinking, analysis my feelings, and ask others. First of all is quick thinking, which means to think about what I do not know about myself and others might know about me from my behavior. Second, by analyzing my feelings there is a big chance to find out some new things about my personality that I have never thought or felt about it before, which could make a huge difference. Third step is asking other people for a feedback about myself, and what they see on me According to my behavior. So, if I do like what I have found about myself by the previous steps, I would keep doing them and try to improve and develop these behaviors on my personality to get the best in myself. On the other hand, if I do not like what I have discovered about my blind spots, or myself, I will stop it immediately to avoid it or try to fix what it could be fixed by getting more knowledge about it. I believe that knowing my blind spots will support to change the way I think, behave and feel. Also, it will help me to reach more prospects for success in my college life and after college life.
· Reflection:
Since I have thought about my blind spot in my personality, I have discovered many things that if I changed them, I can improve my personality, which will help me to understand other people. Also, it can help me to impro.
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4/1/15
Dimensions of Well-being
Changing Behavior
In this paper I will go through and explain how I will change one of my behaviors as well
as changing one of my sisters’ behaviors. Though we both have several flaws it is important to
only change one behavior at a time for the transtheoretical model to efficiently work. I need to
enhance my spiritual wellness and she needs to learn not to procrastinate for her to have a more
balanced life. The model consists of five steps to take to achieve the desired behavior change.
They are precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action and maintenance. I will take you
through each step and describe the plan of action for each, for my behavior change and my
sisters.
Let’s briefly look at the key areas of each of the five steps. One of the main ideas of step
one, precontemplation, is the person has no desire to change. This could be because of lack of
motivation. They may not even realize the problem exist. This is common in people with bad
driving habits. Though their driving may be reckless because they have not gotten into an actual
accident they do recognize a problem. The next step is contemplation. This is where a person
does see a problem and plans to make a change. A key thing to understand here is that it is easy
to get stuck in this stage. In order to move out of here the person needs confidence and
motivation.
The next stage is preparation. In this stage the key difference is that person is ready to
change not just thinking about it. They are taking steps to seek information and are committed to
2. that action in 30 days. The action stage is closely tied to this. You go from the small steps to
actually being completely involved in said behavior change. This can be tricky though.
Maintenance the last stage is critical to keeping up the desired behavior change. It is important to
know your weaknesses and what may prevent you from continuing. All of these five stages are
all tied together by motivation and confidence. If you don’t have these it will make completing
the task a lot harder and moving forward seem impossible. To maintain these qualities you
should use self-reward/ positive reinforcement.
Before this paper I had no intention of changing my behavior of not being spiritually
involved. I hadn’t even though about it as a problem. I was in the precontemplation stage. But
this paper was a positive reinforcement, making me look at my life and having me choose an
area to work on. It makes it in a way seem like it’s my idea.
This paper has pushed me into making a plan to change. According to the theory would
plan on doing this in the next six months. I defiantly don’t plan on doing it tomorrow. All I
know is that I don’t feel involved in anything greater than myself. I do not really feel like I am
apart of anything and some days that can be really depressing. So I know I want to change and
am making a plan to do so and that puts me in the contemplation stage.
In order to move out of that stage and proceed into the preparation stage I need to find
ways to increase my confidence. Which is hard to do because part of the reason I want to do this
is to increase self-esteem. But I think that talking to others on their experience in different
programs or clubs, even here on campus, would raise that confidence. I would need to be on the
lookout for things that would spike my interest. I could take time to read the posters people put
up in the buildings and outside on the campus walk ways. After I find something that I think
3. would be a good fit I would need to take action and join in 30 days. If I don’t it would be likely
that I would have a possible lapse and be set back to previous steps.
From here I would move into action because I would start attending the club of my
choice. Now that I have actually changed my behavior it is important to maintain that behavior.
It is very common to relapse here for the simple fact that old habits die hard. For example I know
that if I go back to my dorm and watch Netflix I would probably skip out on the meeting. To
make sure I continue with the desired behavior I would need to provide maintenance. This would
look like me going back to my dorm and doing homework instead of watching Netflix and then
allowing myself to watch it later after the meeting. Or not going back to my dorm at all and
hanging out with friends instead. They could even be friends I’ve made in the club. If I hung out
with them before the scheduled meeting time there would be no way I would skip out. Also just
having friends there would be motivation to go. The deeper I get involved in the club and the
more connections I make the harder it would be to get out or even want to.
As for my sister she is in the contemplation stage. She was in the precontemplation stage
for a long time but with a lot of motivation from our parents and me she has taken a step in the
right direction. She has tried to not procrastinate in the past but has always relapsed. So it has
been really hard of her to take that next step of even just considering to try again. For a long time
my parents would just rag on her about not doing her stuff and would take away her computer as
punishment. She watches a lot of Anime on her computer instead of doing her homework. But
after learning through this course that that is not an effective way to go about it, they stopped.
They now give positive reinforcement. Even though she is still procrastinating they give positive
verbal queues when she gets stuff in on time.
4. Through this she has moved in to contemplation stage. I know this because I recently
talked to her about it and she told me she wanted to change. I tried the strategy we learned in
class about talking about how you made a change and how it helped you so it seems like it is
their idea. The minute you try to force anything on her she shuts down. It seemed to have
worked. I also think another thing I could do is show her all the positives of her keeping her
grade up. She’s had a 3.8 average her whole high school career. But since it is slipping she may
not even get the rewards of all the previously hard worked years. Though instead of focusing on
the negative things like what she would be missing out on I could say things like these are the
things you would gain, this is the money you would be saving.
To get her to the preperation stage I could suggest that we do homework together. If she
accepts then she would be ready to move on to the next stage because she would be committing
to an action. To get her out of the preparation stage I could set up times that we could do
homework together and actively seek to do them with her. This would also benefit her by
motivation her to do the things required of her. I know that when I work on homework with
others it seems like less of a chore. Setting up specific times to do things also helps with
eliminating procreation. If you don’t set up a time it is easy to say you’ll do it later. In order to
skip out on it she would have to make an excuse to me and not just herself which is also harder.
If this does not work because I would only be able to make it back on weekend due to of the two
hour drive then she could plan dates to do homework with her friends on the week days. Or plan
on getting in to a study group at school. I believe these are all reasonable goals. She wouldn’t
need to do all of them or even do homework every day, for her that would be unreasonable. This
would be and affective strategy. But taking a small step in one of those directions is the right
5. course of action. For the specific strategy we would make an action plan for two weeks and then
gradually extend it and modify it for her schedule.
Once she was fully committed to meeting this and actively doing it she would to be in the
action staged. As stated earlier this is the trickiest part. Maintaining this is hard. In order to this
she would need additional outside support. It is said that doing the same thing can lead to
problems. I feel for her though it would be beneficial to keep the same schedule. She’s really into
routines. She is not good with things she doesn’t expect. So in order to maintain this I think we
would need to keep the routine. But make sure it doesn’t get boring we could incorporate other
things into it. For example we could watch TV at the same time.
Through these five steps it seem anything is possible. I can become more spiritually
involved and she can learn not to procrastinate. All these things have one thing in common in
order for them to work, confidence that you can do it. Keep yourself motivated and all will be
well.