The Missing Feeling Technique is a method to help identify and strengthen feelings that have been blocked or "missing" through practicing daily expressions of emotion for 5 days with a partner. It involves labeling the missing feeling, strengthening memory systems related to emotional expression, and doing 10 daily exercises with a partner to rewire brain circuits blocking feelings. It can also use "Hostility Buddies" where partners help each other practice expressing anger in a safe way to strengthen circuits related to that feeling. The technique aims to unlock emotional fluidity through strengthening implicit and explicit memory of feelings.

1. The Missing Feeling Technique

2. Unlock the circuit
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3. Cycle Tool

4. Natural Flow of Feelings

5. Any “missing feeling” derails
the technique

6. The orphan feeling technique.
• Identify the missing feeling.
• Strengthen implicit memory systems of
emotional expression and feeling the feeling.
• Strengthen explicit memory systems of affect
labeling.
• Includes practicing 10 – 20 expressions daily for
5 days with an EBT Connection Buddy.
• 10 X 10 to rewire allostatic circuits that blocked
emotional expression and feeling the feeling.

7. “Hostility Buddies”
Provider demonstration: A+ Anger (primitive, subcortical, body activation, effective) vs. C- anger
(non-primitive, neocortical, no body activation,
ineffective).
Voluntary. Hostility Buddy. Instruct to stop if not
safe. After 1 – 2 weeks, continue with 10 X 10 on
circuits that blocked anger expression.
Model humor, delight, warmth and gritty joy!