This document provides guidelines for choosing a spouse and dating as a Christian. It recommends looking for someone who loves Jesus first and dating only with the intent of marriage. Specific guidelines are given for both boys and girls, such as making sure the potential spouse respects their parents, avoids compromising behaviors, and is a faithful Christian. The document advises that if the current relationship does not meet these guidelines, one should either study the Bible together to improve or end the relationship. It also recommends finding Christian prospects through Christian schools or events if none currently exist.

1. !oosing
aSpouse

2. Whatareyoulookingfor?
Look for someone who loves Jesus first.
Luke 14:26
Parameters — Whom will you date?
Purpose — Why are you dating?

3. "Dating without the intent of getting
married is like going to the grocery
store with no money. You either leave
unsatisfied or you take something that
isn't yours."

4. Whatareyoulookingfor?
Specific Guidelines for Girls:
1. Does he speak respectfully to and about his parents?
2. Does he pray in the restaurant?
3. Is he careful in his entertainment choices?
4. Does he avoid physical compromises in our relationship?
5. Does he like to talk about the Scriptures?
6. Is there someone he is trying to convert to Christ?
* Source: Glenn & Cindy Colley

5. Whatareyoulookingfor?
7. Does he sing out in worship?
8. Does he take notes during the sermon?
9. Does he like to sit toward the front in worship?
10. Does he avoid alcoholic beverages?
11. Does he control his anger and avoid profanity?
12. Is he a faithful Christian?
Specific Guidelines for Girls:
* Source: Glenn & Cindy Colley

6. Whatareyoulookingfor?
1. Can she be happy when she’s not the center of attention?
2. Does she speak respectfully to and about her parents?
3. Is she careful in her entertainment choices?
4. Does she avoid physical compromises in our relationship?
5. Does she like talking about the Scriptures?
6. Is there someone she is trying to convert to Christ?
Specific Guidelines for Boys:
* Source: Glenn & Cindy Colley

7. Whatareyoulookingfor?
7. Does she sing out in worship?
8. Does she take notes during the sermon?
9. Does she like to sit toward the front in worship?
10. Does she avoid alcoholic beverages?
11. Does she dress modestly?
12. Is she discreet about sexual matters?
13. Is she a faithful Christian?
Specific Guidelines for Boys:
* Source: Glenn & Cindy Colley

8. Whatif…
What if my relationship isn’t like this?
What if I’m trying to study with him or her?
Two options – Study with him or her.
Get out of that relationship.
1. Talk about it every time you are together.
2. Measure their progress.
3. Be the leader.
4. Be ready to pull the plug.

9. Whatif…
What if there are no Christian prospects?
Find some!
Christian schools, Camp, PTP, Youth Events
Convert someone to Jesus!

10. 1. Be a steward of this time in your life.
2. Listen to outside opinions.
3. Work together.
4. Pray together.
5. Be honest and transparent.
6. Invest in her or her family.
7. Practice selfless and sacrificial love.
8. Flee sexual immorality.
9. Never rely on any person to give what only God provides.
10.Ask God for wisdom, then study His word.

11. !oosing
aSpouse