Be aware of the evil traps surrounding your child! Some challenges faced by the youth and how mothers have to be aware to tackle and help children cope witht he challenges

1. BE A WELL AWARE MOM !
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2. Few gadgets which children demand
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3. Use of these Gadgets
 Used for communication eg: mobile
 Used to excess the internet eg: laptops
 Used for playing games eg: Play station
 Used to listen music eg: walkman
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4. But all this comes along with a
package
Mobile – Communication
With whom ? What? Where? For how long?
Laptop – Surfing
Surf what? Where? For how long?
Video Games – Play
Play what ? Where? For How long ?
Walkman – Listen
Listen what ? For How long?
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5. Handing over these media is as if you
have given the command of this tool in
their hand
They may use it as they feel !!! CORRECT?
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6. The Pros and cons of these
Gadgets
Know what have
you given your
child
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7. ?
 Do you believe your child knows more about
these gadgets?
 Do you believe they are more savvy and fast
in using these gadget then you are?
 Do you feel if you don’t provide them these
gadgets yet they have access to them from
any of their acquaintance?
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8. And Know what your child CAN KNOW
SO BE A WELL AWARE MOM
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9. Questions?
 How many of us use the internet?
 How many of us have an email ID?
 How many of us can define Internet?
 How many of us allow their children to access
the net?
 What are the reasons given by your child to
access the Internet?
 How many of us are able to supervise their
child 100% while browsing the internet?
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10. Most frequently used words by
the internet users
 Chatting
 Facebook
 Twitter
 Email
 Search
 Surfing
 Videogames
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11. Definition
 A means of connecting a computer to any
other computer anywhere in the
world via dedicated routers and servers.
When two computers are connected over the
Internet, they can send and receive all kinds
of information such as text, graphics,
voice, video, and computer programs.
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12. Merits of Internet and Islam
Easy Access to knowledge
• It is obligatory on every Muslim to seek knowledge
• Ask the people of knowledge if you do not know
 Easy access to knowledge
Shrinking the world
• Keep Family ties
• Know the state of the Muslim Ummah
Fast communication
• Email and business conference
• Dawah and Islah
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13. Analyse
Information
Fast
Communication
Entertainment
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14. Information on the internet
 Search engines
 Islamic Knowledge
 News
 Assistance in completing your homework
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15. Information on the Internet
 According to a study, 50% of people online lie
about their age, weight, job, marital status, or
gender. When online friends meet and the
real-life person fails to match the online
persona, it can create profound emotional
disappointment.
 The Anti-Islam Site under the garb of Islamic
web address
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16. Information on the Internet
 No risk of telling lies
 Ones uploaded –information can never be
erased – therefore people can post your
embarassing information
 Nasty remarks on forum without any identity
 So used to high speed information that they
cannot get hooked on to a good book or a
conversation with a friend
 Phishing
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17. Email ; Chat ; Facebook ; Twitter
FAST COMMUNICATION
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18. Email and chatting
Ones you open the
Web Page what do
you see?
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19. Yahoo Web Page 1
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20. Yahoo Web Page 2
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21. Yahoo Web Page 3
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22. Yahoo Web Page 4
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23. Yahoo Web Page 5
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24. Yahoo Web Page 6
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25. MSN Web Page 1
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26. MSN Web Page 2
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WHAT IS AFTER YOU ENTER
YOUR ACCCOUNT?

28. Inside the email account
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29. Chatting
Anyone in the
world
Innocent approach
(Asl)
Complete Privacy
In contact for long
So many
marriages and
divorces due to the
frequent chatting
online
[ watch the video]
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FACEBOOK

32. Facebook
 Easy access to your personal information
 Keep contacts even with those whom you
dislike
 20 % divorce petition in America consisted
reference to Facebook and Twitter
 Revenge by posting pictures and abuse
resulting in Suicide cases
 Hacked easily even Obama not spared
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33. Case Study (Facebook)
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34. Watch a Video
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35. Case Study ( Twitter )
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36. If your child is surfing surely he is exposed to Porn
PORNOGRAPHY
Pictures?
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37. Pornography
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38. Pornography
 The New York Times Magazine: It ran a cover story
on May 18 called "Naked Capitalists: There's No
Business Like Porn Business." Its thesis:
Pornography is big business--with $10 billion to
$14 billion in annual sales. The author, Frank
Rich, suggests that pornography is bigger than
any of the major league sports, perhaps bigger
than Hollywood. Porn is "no longer a sideshow to
the mainstream...it is the mainstream," he says.
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39. Pornography
 It’s big business. The pornography industry
has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google,
Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix
combined. 2006 Worldwide Pornography
Revenues ballooned to $97.06 billion. 2006 &
2005 U.S. Pornography Industry Revenue
Statistics, 2006 Top Adult Search Requests,
2006 Search Engine Request Trends are some
of the other statistics revealed here.
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40. Pornography
Pornography Time Statistics
Every second - $3,075.64 is being spent on
pornography.
Every second - 28,258 internet users are
viewing pornography.
Every second - 372 internet users are typing
adult search terms into search engines.
Every 39 minutes: a new pornographic
video is being created in the United States.
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41. VIDEO GAMES
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42. Video Games
Girls play for an average of about 5.5
hours/week and boys average 13 hours/week.
Playing games is not limited to adolescent
boys. Recently, the Wall Street Journal
reported that several companies are now
designing video game consoles for
preschoolers. Preschoolers aged two to five
play an average of 28 minutes/day.
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43. Video games
 I had a chance to observe the effects of video games first
hand on two boys, ages eight and ten, when I babysat them
earlier in the semester. They were playing the video game
"Mario Cart," which is really not a very violent game; the
object is to win a car race by coming in first while
maneuvering through different courses. When the younger
brother won, the older brother got up and started kicking
him and yelling insults! Later on that day, the younger
brother was playing another video game by himself and
when he could not beat the level, he threw down the
controller and screamed at the t.v. screen, "Why are you
doing this to me...?!" and burst into tears. I was very
shocked by this reaction and was not quite sure how to
handle the situation. This game had brought an eight year
old boy to tears, right in front of me
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44. Video Games
Teens who play violent video games for extended
periods of time:
 Tend to be more aggressive
 Are more prone to confrontation with their
teachers
 May engage in fights with their peers
 See a decline in school achievements. (Gentile et
al, 2004).
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46. Video Games
 Gentile & Anderson (2003) state that playing
video games may increase aggressive
behaviour because violent acts are
continually repeated throughout the video
game. This method of repetition has long
been considered an effective teaching
method in reinforcing learning patterns.
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47. Video Games
 64 percent of the characters in video games
are males. In addition to this blurred reality,
the women are portrayed with ultra-thin,
"ideal" bodies and men with over-the-top
defined muscles. These stereotypes can give
your child the wrong message about what the
rest of the world looks like.
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48. A Look at the online games
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53. Video Games
 Effect on Brain
 "Heart rate can be altered by electrical signals from
emotional centers in the brain or by signals from the
chemical messengers called epinephrine (adrenaline) and
norepinephrine. These hormones are released from the
adrenal glands in response to danger..." (7). Multiple studies
have reported that playing video games can significantly
increase heart rate, blood pressure, and oxygen
consumption. If studies show that heart rate is increased
when playing video games, then it seems that the brain is
responding to the video game as if the body is in real
danger. Does repeated exposure to this "false" sense of
danger have an effect on what the brain then perceives as
real danger?
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54. Video Games
Physical Harm
obesity, video-induced seizures, and postural,
muscular and skeletal disorders, such as
tendonitis, nerve compression, and carpal
tunnel syndrome.(Dr. Douglas Gentile Developmental Psychologist)
 Desensitizes
 Virtual Bad Street
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55. Video Games
 The Guy Game is a trivia game, with sex appeal. A video is shown
to the player where a host goes around asking various questions
to various girls on spring break, and you must guess not only the
correct answer but also what the girl will answer (or depending
on the round, simply whether or not she gets the question right).
Whenever the girls get a question wrong, they show their
breasts, and while they start out totally obscured by a "The Guy
Game" logo, as the player's score increases, it slowly reduces the
amount of censoring, moving on to pixelization, and eventually
become totally uncensored. The game became infamous when it
became banned in the United States after it was revealed that
one of the girls in the video was underage when it was filmed,
despite the legal waivers she had to sign stating otherwise.
Because she wasn't at least 18, technically The Guy Game is
classified as child pornography under American law.
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56. Video Games
 According to the RAND Corporation, teens
that see sex in the media are twice as likely
to engage in sexual acts themselves.
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57. Internet and Computer Addiction
 What is Internet addiction or computer
addiction?
 Internet Addiction, otherwise known as
computer addiction, online addiction, or internet
addiction disorder (IAD), covers a variety of
impulse-control problems, including:
 Cybersex Addiction – compulsive use of Internet
pornography, adult chat rooms, or adult fantasy
role-play sites impacting negatively on real-life
intimate relationships.
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58. Computer and Internet addiction?
 Cyber-Relationship Addiction
 Net Compulsions
 Information Overload
 Computer Addiction
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59. Helping a child or teen with an
Internet addiction
 It’s a fine line as a parent
 Encourage other interests and social
activities.
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60. Helping a child or teen with
an Internet addiction
 Monitor computer use and set clear limits.
 Talk to your child about underlying issues.
 Get help.
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61. Tips
 Do not put media in your children's
bedrooms.
 Obey the media rules in your house.
 Once your kids' media limit is up, have them
find something to do that is active or uses
their brain.
 Talk to your kids about the marketing
strategies so that they are aware.
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62. Tips
 Think if it is logically something that could
exist in real life. Talk about it with your kids.
 Be able to separate fiction and fantasy from
reality
 There are parental controls you can use.
 Set a good example for your children.
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May be or May be Not
WILL ALL THESE MEASURE
REALLY WORK?

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Taqwa
ONE THING WHICH WILL SURELY
WORK___________

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JAZAKALLAH U KHAIR

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