Assertive skills

1. ASSERTIVENESS
● WHAT IS IT?
● HOW CAN IT HELP ME?
● WHAT DO I NEED TO DO ?

2. ASSERTIVENESS
Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your needs, feelings,
opinions, and beliefs in an open and honest manner without violating
the rights of others

3. ASSERTIVENESS
❖ IS NOT THE SAME AS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR.
❖ AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR ENHANCES SELF AT THE EXPENSE OF
OTHERS.
❖ ASSERTIVENESS PRODUCES POSITIVE OUTCOMES FOR ALL;
AGGRESSIVE ACTS RESULT IN NEGATIVE OUTCOMES.

4. ASSERTIVENESS
❖ HELPS YOU BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT
❖ INCREASES SELF-ESTEEM
❖ GAIN RESPECT OF OTHERS
❖ IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS
❖ IMPROVE DECISION-MAKING ABILITY

5. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
❖ BE HONEST AND DIRECT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS, NEEDS, BELIEFS.
❖ EXPRESS YOURSELF FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY TO SPECIFIC
INDIVIDUALS.
❖ BE REASONABLE IN YOUR REQUESTS

6. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
❖ STATE YOUR VIEWPOINT WITHOUT BEING HESITANT OR
APOLOGETIC.
❖ BE HONEST WHEN GIVING OR RECEIVING FEEDBACK.
❖ LEARN TO SAY “NO” TO UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS.
❖ PARAPHRASE WHAT OTHERS HAVE STATED TO YOU.

7. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
❖ RECOGNIZE AND RESPECT THE RIGHTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU.
❖ USE APPROPRIATE TONE OF VOICE.
❖ BE AWARE OF BODY POSTURE/LANGUAGE
❖ MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT.
❖ USE “I” STATEMENTS TO EXPRESS SELF

8. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
❖ DON’T LET OTHERS IMPOSE THEIR VALUES/IDEAS ON YOU
❖ ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO BE CLEAR AND DIRECT
❖ TAKE OWNERSHIP

9. AND MY RIGHTS ARE…
❖ The right to respect myself because of who I am.
❖ How to lead my life…pursuing goals, dreams, etc.
❖ Have my own values, beliefs, etc.
❖ To tell others how I wish to be treated.
❖ To change my mind and make mistakes without being ridiculed.
❖ TO HAVE POSITIVE, HEALTHY, SATISFYING RELATIONSHIPS IN
WHICH I AM SAFE AND RESPECTED.
❖ TO CHANGE AND DEVELOP MY LIFE HOW I DETERMINE.
❖ TO BE HAPPY AND AT PEACE.

10. ASSERTIVENESS
❖ DOESN’T JUST HAPPEN.
❖ DOES NOT GUARANTEE YOU HAPPINESS OR FAIR TREATMENT.
❖ WILL NOT SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS
❖ DOES NOT GUARANTEE YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT.