Mel Robbins discusses how to overcome inertia and get what you want in life. She explains that a third of Americans feel dissatisfied, so over 100 million people want change. Getting what you want requires forcing yourself out of your comfort zone through activation and using the five second rule. Activation refers to the physical force needed to change routines - like getting out of a warm bed. The five second rule means taking action within five seconds of an impulse, like talking to someone interesting, otherwise the brain hits the "emergency brake". Robbins advocates experimenting with these techniques to achieve goals like losing weight or finding love by pushing past what the mind wants to avoid discomfort.

1. Talk by Mel Robbins
How to
stop
screwing
yourself
over

2. A third of
Americans feel
dissatisfie
d with their lives
right now?

3. That is a
100million
people!

4. How to
get what
you
want?

5. What do you want?
Do you want to lose weight?
Do you want to triple your income?
Do you want to start a non profit?
Do you want to find love?

6. Getting what you want is simple
It’s very simple

7. Activation
And
Five second
rule
simple practice

8. Activation
Energy
That’s what they call
the force required
to get you to
change from what
you’re doing on
autopilot to do
something new

9. 1. Tomorrow morning, set
your alarm for thirty
minutes earlier.
2. And then when it goes
off, take those sheets,
throw them off, and
stand up and start your
day.
3. No snooze, no delay
Try this.

10. Try this because
you will come face to face with the
physical, and I mean physical force
that’s required to change your
behaviour.

11. Do you think that
somebody who needs
to lose weight ever
feels like going on a
diet?
Of course not.

12. The activation energy required to get your ass away from
your computer and out the front door, to go on the walk,
you said that you were going to go on, is the exact same
amount of force that it takes you to push yourself out of
a warm bed and into a cold room

13. It’s very, very simple to get
what you want. But it’s not
easy. You have to
Force yourself

14. One side of your brain
act as autopilot
and the other side
as emergency brake.
That’s the only two
speeds you get: autopilot,
emergency brake. your
brain likes better:
autopilot.

15. If it is not your normal routine
So your mind goes: emergency brake!
And you go right into autopilot.

16. So, “force”,
anything that’s a break from your routine is going to require
force.

17. You do the same
kind of work
everyday
It’s the routine
that’s killing
you.

18. Do you remember Abraham Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”?
Well, your body is kind of cool. Because you have these basic needs.
And your body is wired to send you signals. If you need food, what do
you feel? If you need water, what do you feel?

19. I think when you feel stuck or
dissatisfied in your life, it’s a
signal. And it’s not a signal
that your life is broken.
It’s a signal that one of your
most basic needs are not
being met.

20. The only way
you’ll get it is by
forcing yourself to
be uncomfortable.
Forcing yourself to
get outside, out of
your head.

21. And if you listen to how you feel, when it comes to what you
want – you will not get it. Because you will never feel like it.
And you need to get outside your comfort zone.

22. It’s not about
taking risks, it’s
about getting
outside your
comfort zone.
Those first three
seconds when you
push yourself out
of bed, they blow.
But once you’re
up, it’s great.

23. Use
Five-Second-
Rule

24. And the problem with your mind is that anytime you do
anything that’s different from your normal routine, guess what
your brain does — emergency brake!

25. If you have the impulse to get up and come dance while the
band is playing, if you don’t stand up in five seconds,
you’re going to pull the emergency brake.

26. If you have an impulse about, you were inspired by somebody’s speech
today, and you don’t do something within five seconds – write a note,
send yourself a text – anything physical to marry it with the idea, you will
pull the emergency brake and kill the idea.

27. Your problem
isn’t ideas. Your
problem is you
don’t act on
them. You kill
them

28. practice the
five-second-
rule.

29. You see somebody and you think you have an impulse, they look
interesting? Walk over there!
You were inspired by somebody and you have a request? Make it!

30. Experiment
with it, you’ll
be shocked
about what
happens.

31. Getting what you want is simple.
 You have to force yourself
 Get out of your comfort zone
 Practice 5 second rule
RECAP

32. About
Author

33. Melanie "Mel" Robbins
is an American
host, life coach, author,
motivational speaker,
and host of the
syndicated radio
program The Mel
Robbins Show. Robbins
Robbins is best known
for her coverage of the
George Zimmerman
and host of A&E's
Monster In-Laws.

35. This presentation is a part of an assignment for a marketing
course - Personal Branding - taught by Prof. Sameer Mathur at
IIM Lucknow
Prof. Sameer Mathur Arpita Singh