1) The document describes the author's experiences with two abusive relationships in her teens and early twenties. She lost friends and her sense of identity in her first relationship from 16-17 years old where she was manipulated and controlled.
2) Her second relationship from age 21 lasted only 3 months but caused significant emotional damage. She was constantly put down, criticized about her appearance and weight, and made to feel like a "bad girlfriend."
3) The author hopes that by sharing her story, others who have experienced abusive relationships will feel less alone. She encourages people to trust their instincts if a relationship feels wrong and to prioritize their own well-being and happiness.
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Apologizing is so important to healthy relationships. I can't say it enough. If you are not able to say you are sorry for a wrong doing or for a mistake that you made then your relationships will suffer and die. People need to know that you are sorry and they need to know that you mean it. If you don't take the time to say you are sorry for something you may have done to hurt another person then you have a lot of work to do on yourself before you get involved in any way with anyone else. If we tell our children to say they are sorry for hurting a friend and we can't do it as adults something is very wrong with that picture. Find out how important it is to apologize for any wrong you have inflicted on anyone you are in relationship with and feel better about yourself, and strengthen your bonds.
We can all see some aspects in others that are indicative of who they are likely to become in the future. There are few surprises that we are likely to witness in the lives of others, because we can often clearly see where people are going, even before they can.
Here, know how to remove attachment in your love life
Learn how to love your beloved unconditionally
Know the basic steps to make your love life count
know how to prove your unconditional love life
Ed Snook with the US Observer threatens to put a Deborah Swan in prison becau...Deborah Swan
Ed Snook with the US Observer has threatened to put Deborah Swan in prison because Deborah filed a consumer complaint against when Ed Snook after he dropped her from the contract she signed with him. the ocClay Douglas who is the owner of Revolution Radio had Ed Snook as his guest. Ed Snook is owner of the US Observer. This 2 hour show was all about Deborah Swan. Ed Snook has committed a serious crime of , Extortion. defamation, fraud, and malicious persacution without any concerns of what the laws say! Ed Snook has been accusing Swan of crimes she has never committed. Snook slanders Deborah Swan the entire 2 hours. Edward Snook also actually admits he is working to get "Deborah Swan put in prison because she is a dangerous lunatic."
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We would like to thank you for checking us out. We are starting from ground zero on this endeavor. This program that we are starting is unique in content. Though, there are many programs that serve our Veterans it has come to our attention that there are not many programs that help our children who have been abused. The Veterans will help these children who have lost all faith in adults and learn to trust them once again. This is where it helps our Veterans as well. Many Veterans come back from serving our country only to find out that what they once knew is no longer there. They lose their sense of self and many times their families. This is an unfortunate truth for our Veterans. The Veterans will 'adopt' these children as if they were their own. This is the benefit of our program. All who are involved gain something in the end. We have always been passionate about children and our military forces who have served our country. We feel it is now our time to give back to our community and hopefully help the ones who feel lost and alone. This all can be done with your contributions. Please do not forget to share this page with your friends. Also, please stop by Under the Rainbow's fan page and give it a like so that you may follow our progress of making all this a reality. Again, thank you for your support and I hope to be able to invite you to see what your contributions have done very soon.
Our Humble Regards,
Under the Rainbow Ranch
Unconditional love knows no boundaries, no limitations and no
conditions. When you love someone unconditionally, you are just
there to support, love, protect and care for them without asking for
anything in return.
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Communication Journal
How you Take it
Sometimes people say things that others take the wrong way. My chapter advisor for my sorority shut down our house for three weeks. To find a way to hang out with each other the girls decided that it would be a fun idea to pitch a tent in front of the fraternity houses. While making the Phi Mu Mansion, some one posted on facebook “were just stickin it to the man.” This was not suppose to be a strike or a defiance towards our chapter advisor, but she took it that way. She asked us if we did not want her to be our advisor because if we do things behind her back then it’s pointless for her to be here for us. Some things that are said can hurt even though they were not meant to.
Why are You Mad
Sometimes text messaging can cause fights because someone can not see the emotion of the person on the other side. The other day I was texting my boyfriend about him moving to Lafayette. My texts were short and did not say much because I was not happy about him moving. He asked my a few times what was wrong but I just veered the conversation in another direction. Then he asked if I was mad at him for moving, and I told him that I was not mad just upset that he was leaving. Watching what you say while texting is a good idea because anyone can take it in the wrong way.
Ooooops!!!!
Sometimes people have slips of the tongue that can lead to further arguments. One night me and my boyfriend were laying in bed having a minor argument and I said something that he followed up with “why are you always on my back Lindsey (one of his exs).” I asked him what he just said with a chuckle and then he started saying im so sorry I did not mean to it was an accident. I just blew off the fact that he called me her name but I asked him why he said it. He said that she always was on his back and never gave way for anything and I was acting like her. Thank God I just forgave him because I did the same thing the next week. Some times people say things that they just don’t mean too.
Words Hurt…
Sometimes things are said that really hurt a person. One day I was in a meeting for my sorority and someone told me that I was a disgrace for the chapter. She did not mean for it to sound bad but it did. I took this to heart and it did not feel all that great to be called a disgrace. People really need to be mindful of what they tell others it can really damage someone.
Taking it Out
People in certain circumstances may take their frustration out on the wrong people. The other day I was frustrated and tired. Instead of just going and taking a nap I decided to stay and talk with my family. As I got more tired I became fussy and snapped at my mom. It was not really towards her I just did not feel all that great. I guess that I need to watch who I take my frustration out on.
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Unwarranted criticism is a result of people’s own fears and insecurities than anything concrete. It is more a reflection of their own jealousies and feelings of being threatened.
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SOCIOLOGICAL AUTOBIOGRAPHY
Sociological Autobiography
SOC&101
Green River College
Winter 2019
Minjung Kim
I have bled many times in my life. Sometimes I bled from accidents just like others, but many times, the bleeding was intended. For several years, I hurt myself intentionally. I was suicidal on some occasions. I cannot remember when I first started self-harming because living a life distressed me since I was very young. I was born in South Korea, and I grew up there until I was 13 years old. Even though I was Korean myself and spent my childhood there, I did not like living in Korea. When I think about Korea, the first thing that pops up in my head is an anguished memory of me getting bullied.
My experience of getting bullied started when I was in 2nd grade in Elementary school. There was only one sole reason why the students bullied me: I was fat. To make this clear, I was not fat, but I was a little bit chubbier than others. However, the standard of beauty is extremely high in Korea, and I did not belong to the standard of desirable body shape. Therefore, nobody wanted me to be with them, and they either bullied me or avoided me. Having a fat body was a mark of disgrace for me. I was stigmatized in a way because of my “obesity”; people perceived me as devalued and discounted (Connor, 2014). The social institution, the school, which is supposed to help the students to get an education and to socialize, did not help me out of this disaster, but instead, the teachers neglected the fact and pretended they did not know. The intensity of bullying varied. They started out as calling my name incorrectly because they said calling my name would defile their tongues. They did not want to have any form of contact or touch with me, and if part of me touched part of them by accident, they would curse and yell at me because they would have a bad day; I became an expert in avoiding physical contact even in a little space. If they were playing games and they had to do a dare, then they would come up to me and punch me or make uncomfortable sexual jokes. They pretended I was not there when I was right in front of them and talking to them, they ripped my textbooks and notes when I went to the bathroom, they made a group chat that most students in the school were added just to send me a bunch of curse words and offending sexual texts, etc. I used to love running, but I do not run anymore because they would make fun of me when I run. In fact, I hate running now. I hate to show someone of me running.
Bullying never stopped even I became a middle schooler. What hurt me the most was not all these actions from the ones who I did not even know. It was the fact that friends I trusted the most turned their backs on me. This bullying all started with my ex-best friend who was popular, and those few people who became my friends all left me and joined the others. They hurt me or ignored me just like the other on.
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1. In two months, I will be turning twenty-two. To me, that’s super old. I’m almost in my
mid-twenties! But, to most people, I’m still incredibly young. You could even say I have my
whole life ahead of me. At the age of twenty-two, I will become a university graduate and I will
be prepared to face the world on my own. At the age of twenty-two, I will have had so many
amazing experiences and have met so many wonderful people. At the tender age of twenty-two, I
will have participated in two abusive relationships. Most women wouldn't classify this as a
normal relationship once they reach the age of twenty-two. By the age of twenty-two, I will have
finally learned the signs of this calculated offense.
I should clarify the word “abusive”, because there are probably a lot of people who still
only associate the word with physical violence. When I use the term “abusive”, I’m talking
mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. I don’t believe one is worse than the other, and in no
way do I think physical abuse should be discredited. I am simply writing this on emotional abuse
because that is what I have experienced, twice. The first relationship took place while I was
sixteen and seventeen, and the second, which I’ve only been out of for less than a month,
happened at the age of twenty-one.
I believe that if this has happened to me twice within the small number of years which are
considered “acceptable” to start dating within our society, that it has most definitely happened to
other women, and still currently happening. If at any point you are reading this article, whatever
gender you may be, if you can relate to what I am saying, my heart is with you. You will never
be alone. And if you are reading this article, and can identify with the things being said to your
current relationship, stop making excuses for them. Do yourself a favour, and leave. You will
never be alone.
When I was sixteen, I finally got my first boyfriend. I started dating this guy who I was
talking to on and off for a year, and who I had a crush on since I was in grade nine. There were a
few friends of mine who warned me not to be with him, but I had seriously been crushing on this
guy since I was thirteen., I didn’t want to listen to anything negative anyone had to say about
him. This was my first experience in love, and, painfully, my first experience with abuse. We
were together for a year and a half, or somewhere in and around there, and it took me the next
entire year afterwards to realize I had been in an abusive relationship. Within that year and a
half, I had lost all of my friends. If he wasn’t at school, I would sit alone at lunch. We would
spend most weekends together and even some weekdays after school. I didn’t go out with my
friends anymore, I never saw them or spoke to them, and that’s why I lost them. I was
manipulated into thinking that if I decided to hangout with my friends and not him, that I was
being a bad girlfriend. He would ALWAYS come first, and if I wanted to hangout with a
friend(s), I had to ask. I had to ask before making decisions, as if they were no longer my own.
And forget even the idea of going to a party, because that would not happen in a thousand years
unless I wanted to get into a huge fight with him. But for some reason, it was totally okay for
him to go to parties, because I had no reason not to trust him. I had no reason to be mad at him
for going out. What about me, then? Why couldn’t he trust me enough to go out? It’s not like I
ever gave him a reason not to trust me. One time, he read a text conversation I had with my guy
friend. It was about a girl in one of our mutual classes and he wanted to ask her out. I didn’t talk
to that guy friend again until after we had broke up.
2. I have always loved makeup and all things beauty. Even now, I’ll do my makeup when I
know I’m not doing anything, just because it’s fun to me. I remember one day I was getting
ready for work, and he asked why I was putting makeup on. “Who do you need to impress? You
have me,” these are some of the words that actually came out of his mouth. At this point, it
seemed totally rational for him to say those things. A bunch of boys did just start at work, but I
didn’t want to impress them. Immediately I took off my makeup, and for the remainder of our
relationship I wore a lot less of it.
Let’s fast forward to nearly four years after we broke up. After almost four years, I finally
believed I was ready to be in another relationship. It took me four years to work on myself after
being controlled and manipulated during some of the most vulnerable years of my life. It took
me four years to love myself, and I figured if I could love myself, then I could love somebody
else, too. And so I got into another relationship. He was one of my guy friends who had been
trying to ask me out for nearly three years. This relationship was a lot shorter than the last, only
three months. Don’t be fooled by the amount of time, though. Sometimes all they need is three
months to cause enough damage to last.
This one was very rushed. He told me he loved me a week after our first date. I was told
all these lovely things for about the first month, or until the end of June. Then things inside him
flipped, almost instantaneously. I was constantly being put down, and when I would get upset by
it, he would reply with “I just want the best for you”. Some examples of these things were “if
you order something bad for you, I’m going to break up with you”, “I want you to look good for
me”, “go to the gym”, “I’m not happy with your body”, and, he even used the word “fat”. Over
three months I heard the words “beautiful” and “pretty” a conjoined, maybe three times. He
created so much anxiety in me that, in mid-July, I admitted myself into the hospital because I
couldn’t cope with it anymore. I have dealt with anxiety my entire life, and have never ever
come to the point where I didn’t know how to cope with it. That’s when my friends and family
knew something was wrong. But, I believed I was in love, and I truly believed he did want the
best for me, so like before, I mistakenly ignored every word they said.
The comments about my weight and my body weren’t the only things he used to make
me feel bad about myself. When I would bring up the fact that we only see each other once a
week despite living 15 minutes away from each other, I would get told that “you’re lucky to even
see me that much” and to “appreciate it”. The same went with texting. I like to text, and I like to
text funny stories that happen to me throughout the day. After a month, he decided he didn’t like
to text a lot. He claimed I was being super “clingy” and “needy”, when in reality, I wasn’t either
one. He only wanted a girlfriend when it was convenient to him, and not convenient for me.
Whenever I brought these things up, it was always my fault, and I was always in the wrong. I
always felt like a bad girlfriend.
Both of these experiences I’ve described are examples of abusive behaviour. After going
through them, here are some things I want to say to you. Whether or not you've experienced
abuse within a romantic relationship: the things that make you, you, are incredibly important and
special. Never let anyone make you feel like those things are wrong, or weird, or not supposed to
be there. Because they were there before that person came into your life, and they will be there
long after they leave. All of those little things make you whole and make you unique. Don’t let
3. someone belittle you, for any reason. Don’t let anyone control you and the things you do to the
point where you have no one but them… to the point where you don’t even have yourself. If they
don’t understand you and they don’t try to, they’re not meant to be in your life. If they really
loved you and cared about you, they won’t dismiss any of your emotions. You are not always in
the wrong, and if you are to someone, then something isn’t right. Because everything you feel is
real, and everything you feel is valid. If it feels wrong, it is wrong, it is so important to trust your
gut when it’s trying to tell you something. Try not to let people bring you down, because when it
comes down to it, all you really have is yourself. You are the most important person in your life,
please look after and take care of yourself. You shouldn’t hate yourself, and you should
especially not let anyone else’s words make you hate yourself. You are unique, you are
intelligent, and you bring so much more to this world then you probably think. Don’t let any guy,
or girl, significant other, friend, family member, etc. take any of that away from you.
In my short twenty-two years, I have met some amazing individuals and I have met some
who were terrible. When I got dumped three weeks ago, I had so many people message me, text
me, inbox me, just to to see if I was okay. They all told me they was there if I needed them…
half of these people, might I add, I didn’t even know very well. Those are the people you want to
hold onto. The people who are there for you during your worst, accept you for who you are, and
who want to see you succeed and be happy. These are the kinds of individuals to keep in your
life. You don’t have time for anything less.