The document contains quotes from various authors on the topics of identity, personality, self-image, family, and relationships. It discusses how identity comes from our past experiences and upbringing, and is shaped throughout life. Personal relationships, especially with family, play a key role in developing identity and self-confidence. Maintaining individuality within relationships also supports personal growth and a healthy sense of self.

1. Understanding Myself
"You have your identity when
you find out, not what you can
keep your mind on, but what
you can't keep your mind off."
- A. R. Ammons
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

2. Understanding Myself
"You don't choose your family.
They are God's gift to you, as
you are to them."
- Desmond Tutu
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

3. Understanding Myself
"We continue to shape our
personality all our life. If we
knew ourselves perfectly, we
should die."
- Albert Camus
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

4. Understanding Myself
"We all need a past - that's
where our sense of identity
comes from."
- Penelope Lively
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

5. Understanding Myself
"We all need a firm sense of
identity."
- Christopher Eccleston
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

6. Understanding Myself
"Too many women throw
themselves into romance
because they're afraid of being
single, then start making
compromises and losing their
identity. I won't do that."
- Julie Delpy
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

7. Understanding Myself
"To love is to be vulnerable. "
- Philip Yancey
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

8. Understanding Myself
"The 'self-image' is the key to
human personality and human
behavior. Change the self
image and you change the
personality and the behavior."
- Maxwell Maltz
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

9. Understanding Myself
"Somewhere around the fifth or
seventh grade I figured out that
I could ingratiate myself to
people by making them laugh.
Essentially, I was just trying to
make them like me. But after a
while it became part of my
identity."
- Tina Fey
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

10. Understanding Myself
"Self-love is the source of all
our other loves."
- Pierre Corneille
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

11. Understanding Myself
"Personality has power to
uplift, power to depress, power
to curse, and power to bless."
- Paul Harris
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

12. Understanding Myself
"Our partner is essential to the
discovery of our own
calling, and in a curious way
shows us what we want, or
more exactly, shows us what is
wanted of us from within
ourselves and our world. "
- Thomas Moore
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

13. Understanding Myself
"My mother's love has always
been a sustaining force for our
family, and one of my greatest
joys is seeing her integrity, her
compassion, her intelligence
reflected in my daughters."
- Michelle Obama
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

14. Understanding Myself
"My heritage has been my
grounding, and it has brought
me peace."
- Maureen O'Hara
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

15. Understanding Myself
"If you ever start feeling like
you have the goofiest, craziest,
most dysfunctional family in
the world, all you have to do is
go to a state fair. Because five
minutes at the fair, you'll be
going, 'you know, we're alright.
We are dang near royalty.'"
- Jeff Foxworthy
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

16. Understanding Myself
"If we divine a discrepancy
between a man's words and his
character, the whole impression
of him becomes broken and
painful; he revolts the
imagination by his lack of
unity, and even the good in him
is hardly accepted."
- Charles Horton Cooley
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

17. Understanding Myself
"I was very, very shy as a
younger girl, just petrified of
people. Tennis helped give me
an identity and made me feel
like somebody."
- Chris Evert
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

18. Understanding Myself
"I had chosen to use my work as
a reflection of my values."
- Sidney Poitier
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

19. Understanding Myself
"I didn't come from a
background where I saw a lot of
loving couples. All my aunts
and uncles were either split up
or fighting all the time. The
only healthy relationships I saw
were on TV."
- George Lopez
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

20. Understanding Myself
"I could tell that my parents
hated me. My bath toys were a
toaster and a radio."
- Rodney Dangerfield
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

21. Understanding Myself
"I cannot remember a moment
in my life when I have not felt
the love of my family. We were
a family that would have killed
for each other - and we still
are."
- Richard Branson
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

22. Understanding Myself
"Human identity is the most
fragile thing that we have, and
it's often only found in
moments of truth."
- Alan Rudolph
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

23. Understanding Myself
"Had we not loved ourselves at
all, we could never have been
obliged to love anything. So
that self-love is the basis of all
love."
- Thomas Traherne
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

24. Understanding Myself
"Giving people self-confidence
is by far the most important
thing that I can do. Because
then they will act."
- Jack Welch
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

25. Understanding Myself
"Feelings of worth can flourish
only in an atmosphere where
individual differences are
appreciated, mistakes are
tolerated, communication is
open, and rules are flexible -
the kind of atmosphere that is
found in a nurturing family."
- Virginia Satir
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

26. Understanding Myself
"At the heart of personality is
the need to feel a sense of being
lovable without having to
qualify for that acceptance."
- Paul Tournier
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

27. Understanding Myself
"As a child my family's menu
consisted of two choices: take it
or leave it."
- Buddy Hackett
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

28. Understanding Myself
"An identity would seem to be
arrived at by the way in which
the person faces and uses his
experience."
- James Baldwin
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

29. Understanding Myself
"Always be yourself, express
yourself, have faith in
yourself, do not go out and look
for a successful personality and
duplicate it."
- Bruce Lee
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

30. Understanding Myself
"A happy marriage is based on
discovery. For each delights in
the differences in the other-and
goes on learning all life long."
- Pam Brown
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

31. Understanding Myself
"A good marriage is one which
allows for change and growth
in the individuals."
- Pearl Buck
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime

32. Understanding Myself
" Love is, above all, the gift of
oneself."
- Jean Anouilh
A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime