This document provides secrets for effective goal setting. It discusses neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and SMART-ER goals. For NLP, it outlines presuppositions like "the map is not the territory" and that there are no failures, only outcomes. For SMART-ER goals, it recommends making goals specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timebound. It also suggests considering your environment and regularly reviewing goals. Key coaching questions are provided to help determine if a goal is truly wanted and if a person believes they can achieve it.
7. Presuppositions #1
The map is not the territory.
Presuppositions #2
We cannot NOT communicate.
Presuppositions # 3
We have all the resources we need.
Presuppositions #4
All behaviour has a positive intention.
Presuppositions #5
The meaning of my communication is the response I get.
Presuppositions #6
There are no failures, only outcomes.
11. NLP: Filters
TOWARDS: Gain
Good at setting goals to
achieve things.
Risk takers
AWAY: Loss
Better at setting goals to
avoid situations.
Risk adverse
13. Examples: verb, quantity & qualify
• Purchase
• 3 bedroom newly built
home in my local
postcode for £400k
• by my 40th birthday
• Reduce
• Errors in the monthly MI
Sales Report by 90%
• by the end of Q1
15. Specific: Pro Tip
The more specific you make the
goal, the more you can visual it.
If you can’t see it, it can be hard to
achieve it.
16. Measurable: Pro Tip
You will be ‘off course’ more than ‘on
course’.
Setting up useful ’milestones’ can
help you find new opportunities to
help you figure out ‘the how’!
17. Achieve: Pro Tip
Ask ourselves to be mindful of our
true nature.
What if I assume success?
18. Realistic: Pro Qs
We limit our reality due to our inherit
conservative nature.
Has this been someone else’s reality?
How did they achieve it (modelling)?
19. Timebound: Pro Tip
Make the dates meaningful and specific.
To increase motivation, shorten the time
frame.
Challenge people to think: What can I do
today to bring this goal even closer?
20. Environment: Pro Qs
What are your constraints at present?
What opportunities and people are
available to you to help you achieve your
goals?
What might often hinder you, can also help
you.
21. Review: Pro Tip
By setting goals, we can open up limitless
possibilities.
It is okay for people to change their wants
and needs as they take action to achieve
their objectives.
People may come up with a new goal or a
better way to improve their approach to
problem solving.
Presupposition one – the map is not the territory is all about those internal maps we form from our unique experiences in life. That is why your map may not necessarily match my map. Getting into your client’s head and taking steps to understand how they internally organise their life can help you create a therapeutic outcome that is positive and hopeful.
The second presupposition, one cannot NOT communicate, means that even when your client is not speaking, they are still communicating through their non-verbal command structure. Working to understand your client’s non-verbal cues can help you establish rapport much easier.
The third presupposition is that each of us has all of the resources we need to develop the resilience we need to adapt to change. This is in contrast to the way Sigmund Freud viewed the world – in that he emphasised the brokenness of human beings in the fact that each of us is wounded in some way.
Presupposition four assumes all our behaviour has a positive intention and this is a very important one. When you can help your clients understand that even poor behaviours have a positive intention, you can help them understand why they do some of the things they do. It may seem unlikely that something like overeating or smoking has a positive intention, but digging a little deeper, you might discover that someone eats in order to feel comfort or smokes in order to calm their nerves.
Presupposition five, the meaning of my communication is the response I get, puts the responsibility of the communication on the therapist in terms of being exible and client- centred. This reects Erickson’s desire for utilisation.
The last presupposition, there are no failures, only outcomes, is a very powerful one. When we seek to focus on outcomes rather than failures, we can make adjustments along the way that brings us closer to our desired outcome.
Presupposition one – the map is not the territory is all about those internal maps we form from our unique experiences in life. That is why your map may not necessarily match my map. Getting into your client’s head and taking steps to understand how they internally organise their life can help you create a therapeutic outcome that is positive and hopeful.
Feedback and changing the measurements
The reticular activating system (RAS) denotes that part of the brainstem reticular formation which performs a crucial role in maintaining behavioral arousal, consciousness, and motivation.