How do we learn about our various group identities like female, African American, Buddhist, homosexual, middle class, etc.? From whom do we learn the meaning of these terms? What messages have we internalized about ourselves and others? What are the differences that result in one person having a healthy self identity and another person experiencing own-group shame and hatred? Learn how we can instill positive self identity in our children and coach them to be positive influences on others' identities. Together, we can co-create inclusive communities that work toward success for all.
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I Learned Who I Was When…
Parenting with Identity Development in Mind
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3. Agenda
Identity Development
How We Learn Who We Are
Parenting with Identity in Mind
Questions and Answers
Resources
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5. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
This model of identifiers and culture was created by Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman for NAIS Summer Diversity Institute,
adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe (SHRM 2003).
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The Jones Model of Cultural Competence
Cultural Self-
Awareness
Cultural
Intelligence
Cross-Cultural
Effectiveness
Skills
Countering
Oppression
through
Inclusion
7. Identity Frames
Intractability
Positive and Negative Encounters
Identity Socialization
Co-Authorship of Identity
Identity and Cultural Inclusion
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8. Innocence and Self Esteem
Encounter and Self Doubt
Assimilation to the Majority
Immersion into Identity
Emersion
Integration
Identity Development:
Marginalized Identities
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9. Innocence and Self Esteem
Encounter and Confusion
Attempt to Reintegrate
Re-Encounter and Guilt
Acceptance and Action
Immersion and Emersion
Integration
Identity Development:
Privileged Identities
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10. Your Own Identity Journey
How have you come to
understand some of your
marginalized identities? How
about the privileged ones?
What experiences moved you
into new ways of thinking
about who you are?
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11. How Do You Support the
Identity Development Journey?
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12. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease
13. When They’re Little
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Theme: Trying to Understand the World
Curiosity based questions about difference
Find out what they’re actually asking
Find out why they’re asking
Answer their questions straightforwardly
Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
Be mindful of children’s media – it’s not
always good for kids
14. In the Middle Years
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Theme: Who Am I? How Do I Have Power?
“Friendship Extinction Event”
Identity search through grouping
Good and bad cliques
Open their horizons about identity
Be steady through their rollercoaster
Coach more, teach less
15. In the Later Years
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Theme: My Future Place in the World
Gender and sexuality stereotypes
Power play through social status
The role of inclusivity in their college,
professional, and personal lives
Charging them to “practice for the real thing”
Define values and boundaries, then accept
that they will push
Be their consultant
16. Talking With Your Kids
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Be explicit about your values
Be open about your own
struggles
Don’t stay silent
100 1-Minute Conversations
Relationship Based
Interruption
17. Assisting the Identity Search
When It’s With You
Provide environments
Be accepting of identity plays
Get to know their interests
Encourage identity pride
Aid healthy self esteem
Verbalize your values
Encourage growth mindset
Ask questions
Tell your story
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18. Assisting the Identity Search
When It’s With Others
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Encourage resources for identity
development (affinity or support
groups, cultural clubs, language
classes, etc.)
Get to know their peers
Engage with their music, shows,
online activities, and movies
Teach them about the “real world”
– for real
Give them access to different
kinds of people
19. Taking it Home
What did you learn today
that was new, helpful, or
thought provoking?
What are some goals or
strategies you would like to
apply with your children?
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21. Presenter Information
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Professional Outreach
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2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
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22. Identity Resources
• Carlos H. Arce, “A Reconsideration of Chicano Culture
and Identity”
• Atkinson, Morten, & Sue, “Racial/Cultural Identity
Development Model (R/CID)”
• Mindy Bingham and Sandy Stryker, “Socioemotional
Development for Girls”
• Vivienne Cass, “Homosexual identity formation: Testing
a theoretical model”
• William Cross, Shades of Black: Diversity in African
American Identity”
• Anthony D’Augelli, “ Identity development and sexual
orientation: Toward a model of lesbian, gay, and
bisexual development”
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23. Identity Resources
• Erik Erikson, “Eight Stages of Man”
• J. E. Helms, Various Publications on Racial and Ethnic
Identity Development
• Jean Kim, “Processes of Asian American Identity
Development”
• James Maricia, “Four Ego and Identity Statuses”
• Suzanne Kobasa Ouellette, “The Three C’s of
Hardiness”
• Jean S. Phinney, “Ethnic Identity in Adolescents and
Adults: Review of the Research”
• Ponterotto & Pederso, Preventing Prejudice
• Maria P. P. Root, Various Works on Multiracial Identity
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24. Identity Resources
• Patricia Romney, Karlene Ferron, and Jennifer Hill,
“Measuring the Success of Diversity Directors in
Independent Schools”
• Pedro Ruiz, “Latino/a Identity Development Model”
• Chalmer E. Thompson and Robert T. Carter, Racial
Identity Theory
• Alex Wilson, “How We Find Ourselves: Identity
Development and Two Spirit People”
• Christine J. Yeh, “The Collectivistic Nature of Identity
Development Among Asian-American College
Students”
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25. Miscellaneous Resources
• Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman, “Privilege and
Power,” Summer Diversity Institute, National Association
of Independent Schools, 2009
• Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Nurture Shock
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education
Network) www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference
• John Medina, Brain Rules, Brain Rules for Babies
• Johnnie McKinley, “Leveling the Playing Field and Raising
African American Students’ Achievement in Twenty-nine
Urban Classrooms,” New Horizons for Learning,
http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/differentiated/
mckinley.htm
• Michael J Nakkula and Eric Toshalis, Understanding Youth.
• Claude Steele, Whistling Vivaldi.
• Shankar Vandatham, The Hidden Brain.
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