Walls of Protection in Your Marriage

WALLS OF PROTECTION
IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Your marriage is always under threat. It is the
responsibility of both spouses to take upon
themselves to ensure their marriage thrives.
There are many factors that are contributing to
marital failure but though they are many, we can
still protect and enjoy our marriages.
Kigume KaruriFriday, September 28, 2018 1

• Anything of value deserves to be protected
and your marriage is definitely valuable! Even
when things are good in your relationship
with your spouse, it’s wise to keep your eyes
open, communicate well, and put some
“guard rails” in place to keep things on track
and safe.
Friday, September 28, 2018 Kigume Karuri 2

• Philippians 4:8 English Standard Version (ESV)
• 8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever
is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is
commendable, if there is any excellence, if
there is anything worthy of praise, think
about these things.

• The above verse is a nice one for marriage
protection. If you are to think of the
goodness of our spouses, we would love,
commend and praise them.
• Each spouse must appreciate that:
• a. Your marriage is a strategic target for
destruction.
• b. You surrender and show yourself to the
designer of marriage.
• c. Prayer is the most powerful weapon.

• A. Your marriage is a strategic target
• The union of marriage is God’s design. It’s an
illustration of His commitment to love you and
me forever. As you and your spouse love,
honor, and cherish each other, the world
around you sees a reflection of God loving
them. But if your commitment to each other is
destroyed, what will the world know of God
and His enduring, merciful love?

• B. You surrender and show yourself to the
designer of marriage.
• A good soldier trusts the commander and obeys
the orders. Our marriage commander has
provided the armor and the training we need.
It’s our job to fall in line and salute Him.
Obedience to God’s Word is very important.
When you have faced the enemy and seen
yourself as a grasshopper, obeying God becomes
your lifeline.

• C. Prayer is the most powerful weapon.
• Prayer is one of the most significant ways
God has shepherded us in our marriage. It is
an effective offense and defense in the
spiritual battle.

BUILDING WALLS OF PROTECTION
IN YOUR MARRIAGE
• Just as we build walls to protect ourselves
from intruders in our homes, we need to
build walls of protection in our marriages.
• 1. PUT A VISUAL WALL
• The first vulnerable point that must be
protected with a wall is the eyes. The mind is
led by the eyes. What the eye sees, ends up
in the mind.

• You can see, but don’t let it disturb your mind
to the extend that you want to see it again.
The seeing it again will cause the problem.
• “One evening David got up from his bed and
walked around on the roof of the palace.
From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The
woman was very beautiful…” (2 Samuel
11:2).

• The importance of guarding the visual wall
cannot be overstated. Jesus put it this way: “I
say to you that everyone who looks at a
woman with lust for her has already
committed adultery with her in his heart”
(Matthew 5:28). There may be times when
you can’t avoid looking at a woman. But you
can avoid looking at her with lust.

• Be on your guard when you find yourself
looking. And looking. And looking. That long
protracted looking with lust can lead to a
violation of the next wall.

• 2. TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL &
EMOTIONAL WALL
• Once the eyes have allowed a wall violation,
it’s not long before curiosity kicks in. After his
unhealthy gaze upon Bathsheba, “David sent
someone to find out about her” (2 Sam.
11:3). The mind soon becomes engulfed with
what the eyes persist in feeding it.

• A violation of the visual wall will require the
enforcement of the mental and emotional
wall.
• Alarms will sound when this protective wall
is violated. You find yourself thinking about
this person more often than before.

• Chances are that you will progress from
dwelling eyes to a dwelling mind. When the
mind becomes engaged, you are proceeding
further into dangerous territory. It is at this
point that David’s son Solomon gave us great
wisdom: “Above all else, guard your heart”
(Prov. 4:23a).

• The reason we are to guard our hearts so
much is because “everything you do flows
from it” (Proverbs 4:23b). If they remain
unchecked, the mental and emotional
violations will soon flow into the physical.

• 3. PHYSICAL WALL IS EASILY VIOLATED
• It wasn’t long before David went from
thinking about it to acting on it. “Then David
sent messengers to get her. She came to him”
(2 Sam. 11:4).
• Emotional proximity leads to the desire for
physical proximity. How can you tell if you’re
setting off this wall violation alarm?

• Each wall violation brings you physically
closer to this newfound adventurous
romance. And it brings you closer to the
destruction of your marriage.

• 4. SEXUAL WALL IS THEN BROKEN
• It started with a gaze over the balcony. That
led to the stirring of thoughts in the mind.
The emotional focus brought them closer. A
trajectory had been set in motion and it
could only lead to one thing.
• “And he slept with her” (2 Sam. 11:4).

• In the heat of passion, it is not impossible for
you to retreat from violating the final sexual
perimeter. But it’s highly unlikely. After all
the walls were violated, “the woman
conceived and sent word to David, saying, ‘I
am pregnant’” (2 Sam. 11:5).

VALUE OF PROTECTION IN YOUR
MARRIAGE
• God tells us that “a wife of noble character is
her husband’s crown” (Prov. 12:4). You are
responsible for protecting your relationship
with the precious jewel that is your wife. As
with most valuables, an effective protection
system can help guard that asset.

• 1. First, guard your eyes – “the eye is the
lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy,
your whole body will be full of light” (Matt.
6:22).
• 2. Second, “guard your heart” (Prov. 4:23).
• 3. Third, set up a physical buffer zone and do
not “stray into her paths” (Prov. 7:25).

• 4. Fourthly, do not violate the wall of sexual
infidelity; for “whoever does so destroys
himself” (Prov. 6:32).
• 5. Lastly you must be accountable to each
other. Accountability is invaluable.
Accountability may be the key issue that
makes or breaks our faithfulness to God and
to our spouse.

• In marriage, we’re supposed to act like
partners TOGETHER to fight against any
storm that comes our way. Let’s face it; if we
use our strength in fighting with each other,
then how much energy do we have left to
fight against the various types of storms that
WILL come upon us?

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