AS FATHERS, LET US INVEST IN OUR CHILDREN, IN OUR YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN AND LET US LEAVE A LASTING IMPACT IN THEIR LIVES. Let us be the fathers they deserve to have. Take all the time to be the FATHER.

1. Qualities of a Good Father
Children, young men and women are yearning for good fathers and are wondering and
asking; ‘what happened to our fathers?’ They are not looking for your wealth but they
are looking for your presence. Fathers are important in the lives of children. As fathers,
we have the responsibility to raise our children in the Lord. Show your children that they
can always count on you and that you are there when they need help.
Eph. 6:4 Message
‘Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take
them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.’
A good father:
1. Loves unconditionally: For many fathers, everyone wants something from
them. The relationships are conditional. There is great comfort and safety in a
loving home where the father loves unconditionally. When you love
unconditionally, you will impart good values to the children and you can build
better relationships with them. Don’t place conditions for loving them.
2. Makes good decisions: Any decision that the father makes affects the family in
one way or the other. A good father makes decisions that add value to his family
and especially the children. Children learn from their parents and as head of the
home, his decision has far reaching effect on the family. Take time to make good
decisions. Each and every day we have a choice. We got a choice to love that
person in front of us or not.
3. Motivates his family: If a father is not motivated in life, he will not be a position
to motivate his family and vice versa. As head of the family, children look to him
to encourage, guide, support, stand with them, meet their needs and also
motivate them. They need to hear that they can make it too in life. The father is
the one they can trust most.
4. Loves his children’s mother: By loving his wife and standing with her in all that
she is in the family, this then is the most effective modelling that he is showing
his children. You become the best in the lives of your children and when they
mature and have families, they would desire to follow your example.
5. Celebrates his children: Children love to be recognized and love to celebrate
their achievements. Join your children during their birthdays, anniversaries,
school visits, success and failures in life. Give them total commitment and set
these days for them.
6. Leaves a Godly legacy: There are many competing voices in a father’s life. “It’s
the relationships you build over the years that is the most important thing in life.”
What will you be remembered for by your children. This is a question every father
must have in mind?

2. 7. Pays the price of being a father. In my last article entitled “BEING A FATHER
IS GOING TO COST YOU”, I stated that a father must be prepared to carry the
entire cross all the way. Once you are a father, you must adjust your life and
know that you are no longer alone but you have people dependent on you.
8. Brings upchildren in the discipline andinstruction of the Lord: Eph. 6:1-4.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and
mother" (this is the first commandment with a promise), "that it may go well with
you and that you may live long in the land." Fathers, do not provoke your children
to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
A father must soberly obey Jesus Christ’s command to treat their children wisely.
In conclusion: Fathers are leaders who serve from the front. They are pitiful and
show much mercy. Though tough, they need to have godliness. They must be
gentle and tender as they deal with their children. Being knowledgeable is a great
quality. You can’t lead without wisdom and knowledge.
They are kind, loving and are wise. They are visionary and think of the future and
are willing to guide and train their children to greater heights than themselves.
A child success is the joy of his/her parents. AS FATHERS, LET US INVEST IN
OUR CHILDREN, IN OUR YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN AND LET US LEAVE A
LASTING IMPACT IN THEIR LIVES. Let us be the fathers they deserve to have.
Take all the time to be the FATHER.