I read somewhere the other day that there’s 45% chance of first marriages breaking up and a 60% chance of second marriages collapsing. It’s probably an American statistic. I’ve no doubt, however, that South Africa would probably mimic it quite closely. I reckon that both you and I know of someone who has got divorced recently. And, there’s a good chance, that if you’re reading this that you’ve probably been divorced or have come from a single parent home. I think my family certainly did its fair share to add to the statistics. My father was divorced four times, my mother twice, my elder brother thrice and my younger brother once. That’s 10 divorces! I think that my family gives credence to the saying that the biggest cause of divorce is marriage. You’re probably wondering about me. No, I’ve never been married. Of course, at 52 this raises the question of whether or not I have commitment issues. Duh! Like me, you’ve probably heard one of your friends at one time or another, say something to this effect: “I have problems in my marriage.” When we make a statement like this, I think they’ve got it backwards. I think that our problems cause our marriages. Why do most of us get into relationships and/or marriages? We kid ourselves when we say it’s because of “love”. The real reason, in my opinion, is that we’re getting into relationships to sort out our problems or to fill a void. We think that by having a partner we’re going to fill the void of loneliness, the feeling that we’re being “left on the shelf” or that the other will “complete” us and make us happy. It’s a myth. We need to face the fact that a marriage can never fix what’s “wrong” inside of us. Only we can do that. The other can never fix that void that sits in us. So, if you’re still married, don’t look for the problems in your relationships, look for the problems in yourself and get to work, otherwise you’ll just become another statistic. And, if you’re thinking about getting married, pause. Just make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons and not because you think it’s going to solve your problems. You’re smart and you know this to be true: Nobody else can make you happy. Only you can make you happy.

1. Volksrust Recorder - Column/Rubrieke10 Recorder 5 February 2016
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I read somewhere the other day that there’s
45% chance of first marriages breaking up
and a 60% chance of second marriages
collapsing. It’s probably an American
statistic. I’ve no doubt, however, that South
Africa would probably mimic it quite closely.
I reckon that both you and I know of
someone who has got divorced recently.
And, there’s a good chance, that if you’re
reading this that you’ve probably been
divorced or have come from a divorced
home. I think my family certainly did its fair
share to add to the statistics. My father was
divorced four times, my mother twice, my
elder brother thrice and my younger brother
once. That’s 10 divorces! I think that my
family gives credence to the saying that the
biggest cause of divorce is marriage. You’re
probably wondering about me. No, I’ve
never been married. Of course, at 52 this
raises the question of whether or not I have
commitment issues. Duh! Like me, you’ve
probably heard one of your friends at one
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problems in your
relationships, look for
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Cause Marriage
time or another, say something to this effect:
“I have problems in my marriage.” When we
make a statement like this, I think they’ve
got it backwards. I think that our problems
cause our marriages. Why do most of us get
into relationships and/or marriages? We kid
ourselves when we say it’s because of “love”.
The real reason, in my opinion, is that we’re
getting into relationships to sort out our
problems or to fill a void. We think that by
having a partner we’re going to fill the void
of loneliness, the feeling that we’re being
“left on the shelf” or that the other will
“complete” us. It’s a myth. We need to face
the fact that a marriage can never fix what’s
“wrong” inside of us. Only we can do that.
The other can never fix that void that sits in
us. So, if you’re still married, don’t look for
the problems in your relationships, look for
the problems in yourself and get to work,
otherwise you’ll just become another
statistic.And, if you’re thinking about getting
married, pause. Just make sure that you’re
doing it for the right reasons and not because
you think it’s going to solve your problems.
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