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Don't expect appreciation and you wont be disappointed


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If you're always expect appreciation for the things you do for others, you're going to deplete your motivation pretty quickly.

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Don't expect appreciation and you wont be disappointed

  1. 1. Volksrust Recorder - Column / Rubrieke Dink anders en Leef anders Salomo laat ons aan ‘n baie groot wysheid kou; “Net soos die mens in sy hart dink, net so sal hy wees” Spreuke 23:7. Dit is my vertaling maar tog so waar. Die meeste mense loop rond met negatiewe gedagtes oor hulle self, hulle omstandighede en ander mense. Hierdie gedagtes het ‘n defnitiewe uitwerking op ons perspektief, optrede en ons gesondheid. Waaroor loop ons en tob? Wel die waarheid is dat ek en jy dit in elke geval nie kan verander nie, maar die ander realiteit is dat dit ons hele wese verander. Jy hoef jou nie meer so self te bejammer of te kasty nie. Jy kan in vrede met ander mense leef. Jy kan gesond word. Ja, ons gedagtes beïnvloed ook ons liggaam. Ons is angstig, vreesagtig en bekommerd oor die dinge van more. Hierdie lewensingesteldheid maak ons siek. Jesus het gekom om ons lewe in oorvloed te gee. Joh. 10:10b. Wat moet gebeur voordat ons kan verander. Onderwerp jou hele lewe aan die Here. Joh. 3:16. Onderwerp jou gedagtes aan God se Woord. Want God se Woord is kos vir jou siel. 2 Tim. 3:16-17 “Die hele skrif is deur God gegee en is nuttig tot lering, tot weerlegging, tot teregwysing, tot onderwysing in die geregtigheid, sodat die mens van God volkome kan wees, vir elke goeie werk volkome toegerus. Spreuke 18:21 Dood en lewe is in die mag van die tong; en elkeen wat dit graag gebruik, sal die vrug daarvan eet. Ek wil byvoeg - dood en lewe is in die mag van jou en my denke. Die wat altyd negatief dink sal negatief leef. Verandering begin in ons harte. God se Gees moet eers die hart (innerlik mens) of die gedagtes van die hart penetreer en restoureer. Ek noem dit geestelike genesing of sommer wedergeboorte. Wanneer ons harte verander, kan ons denkpatrone ook verander. Ons denkpatrone beheer die manier hoe ons praat en leef. As jou gees siek is sal jou gedagtes ook siek wees en dit sal jou 95% van die tyd ook liggaamlik siek los. Dit is soos ‘n brak fontein. Ons kan die grond behandel of vervang, ons kan nuwe plantjies plant, maar die fontein of oog van die fontein is brak. Die water vloei weer na bo en besmet alles. Die Heilige Gees moet eers jou en my hart kom verander. Dan kan ons anders begin dink en leef. Dit is egter ‘n worstelstryd tussen die vlees mens en die gees mens. Ek en jy as kinders van die Here moet elke negatiewe gedagte gevange neem en bestraf. Die Here het ons die vermoë gegee om die kan kies. 2Kor 10:3-6, “ Want hoewel ons in die vlees wandel, voer ons die stryd nie volgens die vlees nie; want die wapens van ons stryd is nie vleeslik nie, maar kragtig deur God om vestings neer te werp, terwyl ons planne verbreek en elke skans wat opgewerp word teen die kennis van God, en elke gedagte gevange neem tot die gehoorsaamheid aan Christus, en ons gereed hou om elke ongehoorsaamheid te straf wanneer julle gehoorsaamheid volkome geword het.” Jy kan kies om te skyn vir satan of jy kan kies om te skyn vir God se Woord. Ek en jy moet ons denke laat vernuwe.Anders begin dink. Rom 12:2 En word nie aan hierdie wêreld gelykvormig nie, maar word verander deur die vernuwing van julle gemoed, sodat julle kan beproef wat die goeie en welgevallige en volmaakte wil van God is. Wat moet ons doen? Bedink die dinge van God se Woord. Laat toe dat God se Gees jou negatiewe denkpatrone verander. Fill. 4:8 Verder, broeders, alles wat waar is, alles wat eerbaar is, alles wat regverdig is, alles wat rein is, alles wat lieflik is, alles wat loflik is—watter deug en watter lof daar ook mag wees, bedink dit. Net wat ons dink en toelaat in ons harte is dit wie of wat ons sal word. Mag jy deur die Heilige Gees genesing ontvang vir jou emosionele maar oor liggaamlike siekte. Jy sal verbaas wees hoeveel siektes gekonnekteer is aan die manier hoe ons dink. Laat jou dink nê? Vrede Pastoor Johan Venter Change Your Story With Jacques de Villiers Forfurtherinformation: Jacques de Villiers 082 906 3693 When you’re in the traffic have you ever slowed down and given someone a gap so that they can cut in front of you? And, after this courtesy, have you expected a gesture of appreciation … a raised hand or a quick flick of the hazard lights? Have you been surprised (and angry) that the driver takes the gap without even so much as a nod in your direction? I would imagine that we have all experienced this. And, we have probably all been angry when someone doesn’t recognise us and appreciate our kind gesture. I know I’ve felt short-changed when I haven’t had appreciation. I think that we all crave recognition and appreciation for the things we do. Research indicates that one of the biggest motivators for employees is recognition and appreciation … strangely enough, more so than money. I have another take on this. If you really want to be happy, don’t expect appreciation. I used to expect a thank you or some gesture of appreciation every time I did something nice for someone. And, when I didn’t get it my nose was put out of joint and I got on my high horse. Short version … I got angry. I figured out quite quickly that I had two choices. Don’t do anything nice for anyone or don’t let lack of appreciation rattle me. The second option, patently, was the smarter one. Now, I don’t (ok, seldom) expect appreciation for anything I do for others and it has been a liberating experience. I wish I could say that I’m never disappointed when someone doesn’t show me appreciation. Unfortunately, I do from time-to-time get disappointed. I suppose it is my human condition that expects some kind of validation. But, I’m certainly less hung up about appreciation than I used to be. When I do get the rare person that shows me appreciation it is an absolute gift that makes my day. Of course, not getting appreciation doesn’t mean that you don’t have to give appreciation. You and I should be finding every opportunity to appreciate others. When last have you appreciated someone for an act of kindness? There are so many opportunities to show appreciation. Off the top of my head … when your wife cooks you a meal (whether it is amazing or not), when your husband goes to the garage and makes sure the oil is topped up, when your work colleague offers to make you a cup of coffee and when your employee does good work. Just a pat on the back, a squeeze of the shoulder and the words, “Thank you, I appreciate what you’ve done for me”, will do wonders for your relationship with those around you. We are more inclined to do the things that are appreciated over and over again. So, if you want to be happy, don’t expect appreciation and if you want to make others happy, give lots of appreciation. Thestrangesecrettohapiness- don'texpectappreciation Volksrust Seme Business Column Socialnetworkingethics! Willem Hüsselmann - 082 415 7725 Freddie Kapp - 017 735 4444 Johan Botha - 082 335 7274 Ashraf Moola - 082 558 5515 Ahmed Chotia - 082 554 4886 10 Recorder 14 August 2015 More and more companies are scouring your social network profiles to determine who you are – and they catch things you wouldn’t find on a traditional CV. Your current manager also keeps a keen eye on your profile. There are more people reading what you are posting, that what you think. It’d be best for you to avoid these social networking mistakes. Avoidswearing. To put this very plainly, swearing is unprofessional. If you’re able to do it in a public space, what’s stopping you from losing your cool and doing it in an office environment too? This may sound a little outdated, but keeping your social media updates clean does count in your favour. "If u ryt lyk dis", say goodbye to new job opportunities. Recruiters and hiring managers will scan your social media pages to see whether or not you pay attention to the little things. If your spelling and grammar is bad on a public forum, where everyone can see what you’re doing, you probably either have poor writing skills or you simply don’t care what others think. Keep those drinking photos somewhere private. Your potential employer or recruiter does not need to know that you had a crazy wild bash on Saturday night. Seeing pictures of you partying and drinking like there’s no tomorrow won’t do your reputation and image any good. Drugs are a no go zone. If it’s illegal, stay away from it. Joking about drugs or taking photos of you with a joint will only do you harm. Don’tbeinappropriate. Think about your reputation. Think about the message you’re sending to recruiters. Think about everything you say and post – if the roles were reversed, would you, as a boss, want a vulgar, inappropriate employee handling your company’s assets? No, right? If you wouldn’t show your mom a picture, don’t post it on social networks. Be discreet. If you’re job hunting and you’re currently employed, don’t advertise how unhappy you are in your current position. It’s never a good idea to talk badly about your current employer on a public forum or while talking to a recruiter. Avoid sharing personal problems. Personal problems should remain personal. Employers want to hire hard workers who will focus on their work and not get distracted by outside factors. If you’re comfortable with sharing your problems on social media, you might find a “venting buddy” and offload your issues at work, which could potentially decrease productivity. Recruiters are ultimately looking for the best people for their company – and your social media profiles allow them to see if it could be you or not. Volksrust Seme Business Chamber is planning its first AGM on 8 September, so please keep your diaries open, we will communicate further details next week. 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