If you're always expect appreciation for the things you do for others, you're going to deplete your motivation pretty quickly.

1. Volksrust Recorder - Column / Rubrieke
Dink anders
en Leef
anders
Salomo laat ons aan ‘n baie groot wysheid
kou; “Net soos die mens in sy hart dink, net
so sal hy wees” Spreuke 23:7. Dit is my
vertaling maar tog so waar. Die meeste mense
loop rond met negatiewe gedagtes oor hulle
self, hulle omstandighede en ander mense.
Hierdie gedagtes het ‘n defnitiewe
uitwerking op ons perspektief, optrede en
ons gesondheid. Waaroor loop ons en tob?
Wel die waarheid is dat ek en jy dit in elke
geval nie kan verander nie, maar die ander
realiteit is dat dit ons hele wese verander. Jy
hoef jou nie meer so self te bejammer of te
kasty nie. Jy kan in vrede met ander mense
leef. Jy kan gesond word. Ja, ons gedagtes
beïnvloed ook ons liggaam. Ons is angstig,
vreesagtig en bekommerd oor die dinge van
more. Hierdie lewensingesteldheid maak ons
siek. Jesus het gekom om ons lewe in
oorvloed te gee. Joh. 10:10b. Wat moet
gebeur voordat ons kan verander.
Onderwerp jou hele lewe aan die Here. Joh.
3:16. Onderwerp jou gedagtes aan God se
Woord. Want God se Woord is kos vir jou
siel. 2 Tim. 3:16-17 “Die hele skrif is deur
God gegee en is nuttig tot lering, tot
weerlegging, tot teregwysing, tot
onderwysing in die geregtigheid, sodat die
mens van God volkome kan wees, vir elke
goeie werk volkome toegerus. Spreuke
18:21 Dood en lewe is in die mag van die
tong; en elkeen wat dit graag gebruik, sal
die vrug daarvan eet. Ek wil byvoeg - dood
en lewe is in die mag van jou en my denke.
Die wat altyd negatief dink sal negatief leef.
Verandering begin in ons harte. God se Gees
moet eers die hart (innerlik mens) of die
gedagtes van die hart penetreer en
restoureer. Ek noem dit geestelike genesing
of sommer wedergeboorte. Wanneer ons
harte verander, kan ons denkpatrone ook
verander. Ons denkpatrone beheer die
manier hoe ons praat en leef. As jou gees
siek is sal jou gedagtes ook siek wees en dit
sal jou 95% van die tyd ook liggaamlik siek
los. Dit is soos ‘n brak fontein. Ons kan die
grond behandel of vervang, ons kan nuwe
plantjies plant, maar die fontein of oog van
die fontein is brak. Die water vloei weer na
bo en besmet alles. Die Heilige Gees moet
eers jou en my hart kom verander. Dan kan
ons anders begin dink en leef. Dit is egter ‘n
worstelstryd tussen die vlees mens en die
gees mens. Ek en jy as kinders van die Here
moet elke negatiewe gedagte gevange neem
en bestraf. Die Here het ons die vermoë
gegee om die kan kies. 2Kor 10:3-6, “ Want
hoewel ons in die vlees wandel, voer ons
die stryd nie volgens die vlees nie; want die
wapens van ons stryd is nie vleeslik nie, maar
kragtig deur God om vestings neer te werp,
terwyl ons planne verbreek en elke skans
wat opgewerp word teen die kennis van God,
en elke gedagte gevange neem tot die
gehoorsaamheid aan Christus, en ons
gereed hou om elke ongehoorsaamheid te
straf wanneer julle gehoorsaamheid volkome
geword het.” Jy kan kies om te skyn vir
satan of jy kan kies om te skyn vir God se
Woord. Ek en jy moet ons denke laat
vernuwe.Anders begin dink. Rom 12:2 En
word nie aan hierdie wêreld gelykvormig nie,
maar word verander deur die vernuwing van
julle gemoed, sodat julle kan beproef wat die
goeie en welgevallige en volmaakte wil van
God is. Wat moet ons doen? Bedink die
dinge van God se Woord. Laat toe dat God
se Gees jou negatiewe denkpatrone
verander.
Fill. 4:8 Verder, broeders, alles wat waar is,
alles wat eerbaar is, alles wat regverdig is,
alles wat rein is, alles wat lieflik is, alles wat
loflik is—watter deug en watter lof daar ook
mag wees, bedink dit.
Net wat ons dink en toelaat in ons harte is
dit wie of wat ons sal word. Mag jy deur die
Heilige Gees genesing ontvang vir jou
emosionele maar oor liggaamlike siekte. Jy
sal verbaas wees hoeveel siektes
gekonnekteer is aan die manier hoe ons dink.
Laat jou dink nê?
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When you’re in the traffic have you ever
slowed down and given someone a gap so
that they can cut in front of you?
And, after this courtesy, have you expected
a gesture of appreciation … a raised hand
or a quick flick of the hazard lights?
Have you been surprised (and angry) that
the driver takes the gap without even so
much as a nod in your direction?
I would imagine that we have all experienced
this. And, we have probably all been angry
when someone doesn’t recognise us and
appreciate our kind gesture.
I know I’ve felt short-changed when I
haven’t had appreciation.
I think that we all crave recognition and
appreciation for the things we do.
Research indicates that one of the biggest
motivators for employees is recognition and
appreciation … strangely enough, more so
than money.
I have another take on this. If you really
want to be happy, don’t expect appreciation.
I used to expect a thank you or some gesture
of appreciation every time I did something
nice for someone. And, when I didn’t get it
my nose was put out of joint and I got on
my high horse. Short version … I got angry.
I figured out quite quickly that I had two
choices. Don’t do anything nice for anyone
or don’t let lack of appreciation rattle me.
The second option, patently, was the
smarter one. Now, I don’t (ok, seldom) expect
appreciation for anything I do for others and
it has been a liberating experience.
I wish I could say that I’m never
disappointed when someone doesn’t show
me appreciation. Unfortunately, I do from
time-to-time get disappointed. I suppose it
is my human condition that expects some
kind of validation. But, I’m certainly less
hung up about appreciation than I used to
be. When I do get the rare person that shows
me appreciation it is an absolute gift that
makes my day.
Of course, not getting appreciation doesn’t
mean that you don’t have to give
appreciation. You and I should be finding
every opportunity to appreciate others.
When last have you appreciated someone
for an act of kindness?
There are so many opportunities to show
appreciation. Off the top of my head … when
your wife cooks you a meal (whether it is
amazing or not), when your husband goes
to the garage and makes sure the oil is
topped up, when your work colleague offers
to make you a cup of coffee and when your
employee does good work.
Just a pat on the back, a squeeze of the
shoulder and the words, “Thank you, I
appreciate what you’ve done for me”, will
do wonders for your relationship with those
around you.
We are more inclined to do the things that
are appreciated over and over again.
So, if you want to be happy, don’t expect
appreciation and if you want to make others
happy, give lots of appreciation.
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10 Recorder 14 August 2015
More and more companies are scouring your
social network profiles to determine who you
are – and they catch things you wouldn’t
find on a traditional CV. Your current
manager also keeps a keen eye on your
profile. There are more people reading what
you are posting, that what you think.
It’d be best for you to avoid these social
networking mistakes.
Avoidswearing.
To put this very plainly, swearing is
unprofessional. If you’re able to do it in a
public space, what’s stopping you from
losing your cool and doing it in an office
environment too? This may sound a little
outdated, but keeping your social media
updates clean does count in your favour.
"If u ryt lyk dis", say goodbye to new job
opportunities.
Recruiters and hiring managers will scan your
social media pages to see whether or not
you pay attention to the little things. If your
spelling and grammar is bad on a public
forum, where everyone can see what you’re
doing, you probably either have poor writing
skills or you simply don’t care what others
think.
Keep those drinking photos somewhere
private.
Your potential employer or recruiter does not
need to know that you had a crazy wild bash
on Saturday night. Seeing pictures of you
partying and drinking like there’s no
tomorrow won’t do your reputation and
image any good.
Drugs are a no go zone.
If it’s illegal, stay away from it. Joking about
drugs or taking photos of you with a joint
will only do you harm.
Don’tbeinappropriate.
Think about your reputation. Think about
the message you’re sending to recruiters.
Think about everything you say and post –
if the roles were reversed, would you, as a
boss, want a vulgar, inappropriate employee
handling your company’s assets? No, right?
If you wouldn’t show your mom a picture,
don’t post it on social networks.
Be discreet.
If you’re job hunting and you’re currently
employed, don’t advertise how unhappy you
are in your current position. It’s never a good
idea to talk badly about your current
employer on a public forum or while talking
to a recruiter.
Avoid sharing personal problems.
Personal problems should remain personal.
Employers want to hire hard workers who will
focus on their work and not get distracted
by outside factors. If you’re comfortable with
sharing your problems on social media, you
might find a “venting buddy” and offload
your issues at work, which could potentially
decrease productivity.
Recruiters are ultimately looking for the
best people for their company – and your
social media profiles allow them to see if it
could be you or not.
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