1. How to Convert the Concept of Excellence into a Daily Reality By Debbie Ohl Ohl & Associates Consultants and Educators ThinkTheThoughts.com
2. Your ability to make a difference is one of your greatest blessings. The more often you put that ability into practice, the more fulfilling your life will be.
26. When you consider that you spend infinitely more time with your "self" -- listening to your internal dialogue -- than you do to any other person in your life, it pays to have it on a leash!
27. Our lives are what our thoughts make them. In other words:
39. Happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think. --Dale Carnegie
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Editor's Notes
What does it take to create excellence everyday life? What would you consider an excellent day for yourself? What gets in the way of you having an excellent day? It all boils down to being present in the moment and paying attention., and how many of us have difficulity with that. Think of your staff when feel pushed and have so much to do. Where are they mentally? So today you will be given the opportunity to do a personal reality check,. Before we get into the nitty gritty there are 4 words I want you think about: excellence, quality, life, and time
Convert the Concept of Excellence into a Daily Reality merit, virtue. Possession of unusually good qualities. The state, quality, or condition of excelling; superiority. Something in which one excels. The quality of being exceptionally good of its kind My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment. " - Oprah Winfrey What is excellence? The opposite of mediocrity ning #1: ordinariness as a consequence of being average and not outstanding Synonym: averageness Meaning #2: a person of second-rate ability or value Synonym: second-rater
Take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions
Time and life are inseparable
Realize the difference between need and want. Prioritize what you want to do, then do the most important first. Classify activities as; urgent or not urgent, against important or not important. Set activities for today, this week, this month, this year. Make sure the activities include something that takes you towards your goals. If not why are you doing it? Tell and show the people you love, that you love them now! Stay away from activities and people you do not like, or that do not take you towards your goals. What would you do if you were told that you have only 48 hours to live? Why not do it now? Forget the past learn from it; that’s why you have a past. Do the best that you can now, improve yourself, enjoy yourself. Prepare for the future, but don't put everything there. Don't save for a special occasion. Today is special! Forgive yourself for an honest mistake, learn by it, improve on it to have a better future. Love and enjoy now. How is Time Related to Mind? Physical time is public time, the time that clocks are designed to measure. Psychological time is private time. It is perhaps best understood as awareness of physical time. Psychological time passes swiftly for us while we are enjoying reading a book, but it slows dramatically if we are waiting anxiously for the water to boil on the stove. The slowness is probably due to focusing our attention on shorter intervals of physical time. Meanwhile, the clock by the stove is measuring physical time and is not affected by anybody's awareness. When a physicist defines speed to be the rate of change of position with respect to time, the term "time" refers to physical time. Physical time is more basic for helping us understand our shared experiences in the world, and so it is more useful than psychological time for doing science. But psychological time is vitally important for understanding many human thought processes.
Our emotions, our feelings, our beliefs, our attitudes, our expectations, and what we will or won’t allow ourselves to experience are rooted in the conscious and subconscious mind. Have you ever thought about the fact that there is never a moment when you are not thinking—that whatever happens in this world begins with a thought? Here are five simple steps to help you manage your thoughts and achieve success and happiness in life MIND YOUR THOUGHTS
1. Our self-talk is constant. What your say to yourself in your head goes on 24/7. When you think about it, this is tremendously more input into your life than any other person could possibly have. 2. Our self-talk takes place in real time. It's a running commentary. If it's good self-talk, that's the best 'friend' you can have. If it's the 'idiot in the house' instead, you're stuck with crazy, negative, self-defeating statements going on all day long: "I could never do math," "I'm too fat," "Men can't stand me," "All women are bitches," Everyone's smarter than me," "I'll never make any money," "I'll never be a stock broker," etc. (And of course such statements tend to become self-fulfilling.) 3. Our bodies react as if our self-talk were real. What we say to ourselves in our head has physiological outcomes, i.e., when we think "This proposition is horrible and they're going to laugh me out of the room, and when I get back without the contract, I'll get fired, and then we'll lose the house..." our palms sweat, our hearts beat faster, adrenalin clouds our thinking and we function less well and put our bodies under tremendous stress. This makes it difficult for us at the moment, and then creates habitual thought patterns that kick up in the future, and there's a cumulative stress. 4. Our self-talk is heavily influenced by our locus-of-control. According to Dr. Phil, it's influenced by our sense of "locus-of-control"--what we attribute things to. There are basically 3 choices -- everything's my fault; everything's someone else's fault; or it happened because of chance or luck. 5. It's fascist. It's so powerful, it overwhelms other input, including reality. For instance your self-talk tells you that women don't like to date you, and your head's so full of that at the cocktail party that you fail to even notice the rather shy but extremely appealing young woman who does her best to get your attention and initiate a conversation.
Negative self-talk gets the loudest when you need it the least. When the pressure's on, we revert to default mode. For instance, everyone has one side of the brain dominant, and can and does use both hemispheres, but when learning something new, which is stressful, we all default to the dominant hemisphere. By the same token, when feeling stressed we hype up the negative self-talk, which is -- to say the least -- self-defeating. We're bringing in the negative self-talk because we think we can't do something, then it tells us we can't do something, and then we make sure we can't! 7. Self-talk can be a major life force. Self-talk is relentless and ever-present. That's one reason we say in EQ, "be adamantly and relentlessly self-forgiving." Most of us just don't reach adulthood with self-talk that goes "I'm very good at selling and sell best under pressure," or "Most women like me and I have always dated lovely women though some of the relationships didn't work out." In at least one area, most of us have some really negative self-talk tapes running. 8. You talk to your self in ways you would never think of talking to someone else. If you walked up to someone else and said "You're a stupid, worthless son-of-a-bitch" they would recoil in horror and pain, or lash back at you with verbal or physical abuse. However, it's not uncommon to have that kind of self-talk going on. You know in your heart that if you talked to someone else this way, it would exacerbate the situation, and not solve anything, as well as being unkind and possibly untrue; and yet we sometimes talk that way to ourselves. 9. Ultimately if you have negative self-talk you create a toxic internal environment. Considering that self-talk goes on 24/7 and also that many people aren't consciously aware of it -- or aware that it isn't a "given" and can be changed -- as the months and years go by, you create a sort of closed-loop toxic waste area. In the worst-case scenario, every time you dip in, you pull up something negative and self-defeating, and defeat yourself, and then throw that back into the, well, cesspool. It can get pretty bad. 10. You need to listen to your body because it for darn sure listens to you. Such a toxic inner environment is what causes headaches, pain, depression, anxiety, poor functioning, and a self-defeating spiral into self-defeat. Any degree of negativity from yourself to yourself is more than you need. It's like your authentic self crying "Help me! Get me out of here!"
Affirmations are a statement of faith. They can be positive or negative. They solidify any thought or idea you have. They’re your strongest supporter or your greatest obstacle. Faith is knowledge in advance
