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1. Understanding psychological abuse.
The aim of emotional abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If
you’re the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship
or that without your abusive partner you have nothing.
Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming.
Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behaviour also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally,
abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence or
other repercussions if you don’t do what they want.
You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can
send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real,
and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes
even more so.
Taken from psychologicaltoday on the 20/09/15 written bySteven Stosny, Ph.D.
The effects of emotional abuse
In many ways, emotional abuse is more psychologically harmful than physical abuse. There are a
couple of reasons for this. Even in the most violent families, the incidents tend to be cyclical. Early in
the abuse cycle, a violent outburst is followed by a honeymoon period of remorse, attention,
affection, and generosity, but not genuine compassion. (The honeymoon stage eventually ends, as
the victim begins to say, "Never mind the damn flowers, just stop hitting me!") Emotional abuse, on
the other hand, tends to happen every day. The effects are more harmful because they're so
frequent.
The other factor that makes emotional abuse so devastating is the greater likelihood that victims will
blame themselves. If someone hits you, it's easier to see that he or she is the problem, but if the
abuse is subtle - saying or implying that you're ugly, a bad parent, stupid, incompetent, not worth
attention, or that no one could love you - you are more likely to think it's your problem. Emotional
abuse seems more personal than physical abuse, more about you as a person, more about your
spirit. It makes love hurt.
Taken from psychologicaltoday on the 20/09/15 written bySteven Stosny, Ph.D.
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2. Silent emotinal abuse.
Partners who stonewall may not overtly put anyone down. Nevertheless, they punish by refusing
even to think about their partners' perspectives. If they listen at all, they do so dismissively or
impatiently.
Disengaging partners say, "Do whatever you want, just leave me alone." They're often workaholics,
couch potatoes, flirts, or obsessive about something. They try to deal with their sense of inadequacy
about relationships by simply not trying—since no attempt means no failure.
Both stonewalling and disengaging tactics can make you feel:
Unseen and unheard;
Unattractive;
Like you don't count;
Like a single parent.
Taken from psychologicaltoday on the 20/09/15 written bySteven Stosny, Ph.D
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