Sticks and stones can break my bones…… and names can always hurt me……St David‟s is “a place where faith is respected and encouraged, a deeplyhuman place where people find understanding and friendship.” Eachstudent is valued and respected as an individual and included within thecollege ethos .St David‟s operates a zero-tolerance policy towards bullying and allincidents of bullying will be taken very seriously.
There are many definitions of bullying, but most have three things in common: PHYSICAL - hitting, kicking, taking belongings VERBAL – name calling, insulting, making offensive remarks INDIRECT – spreading nasty stories, deliberate exclusion Do not let bullies upset you and make you suicidal. Why hurt your loved ones just because of these nasty people? Many children are taught that bullies will not get physical if they are only making fun of you. This is not always true, as it can always escalate. Be careful around any bully, ALWAYS stay in public places or amongst others (especially authority figures) when a bully picks on you. If the bully is an adult or young adult and is threatening you or hurting you, that is called abuse. Talk to someone immediately, or call Kids Help Phone(1-800-668-6868) Once again, dont take anything they say about you to heart. Dont be fooled by them either. If they try to act nice to you and they look like they mean it, give them a chance. If they look like theyre faking it, ignore them. Remember- all they want is for you to react. Ignoring them is better than tattling or standing up to them. Eventually they will get bored.
In the short term: Anger Depression Anxious avoidance of settings in which bullying may occur. Greater incidence of illness Lower grades than non-bullied peers Suicidal thoughts and feelings In the long term: Reduced occupational opportunities Lingering feelings of anger and bitterness, desire for revenge. Difficulty trusting people Interpersonal difficulties, including fear and avoidance of new social situations Increased tendency to be a loner Perception of self as easy to victimise, overly sensitive, and thin-skinned Self-esteem problems (dont think well of self) Increased incidence of continued bullying and victimisation
“I was the bully but by the time I realised the hurt andpain I was causing ,my victim had taken his life.I have to live with this sentence now . . . . I am so sorry.”
It is thought that one in ten children are bullied at school, almosttwice the number than a decade ago.Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of death amongchildren under the age of 14. is a term used to describe suicide as theresult of bullying. New bullying statistics 2010 are reporting thatthere is a strong connection between bullying, being bullied andsuicide, according to a new study from the Yale School of Medicine.Suicide rates are continuing to grow among adolescents, and havegrown more than 50 percent in the past 30 years.While it is now well known that bullying is very damaging to itsvictims, it is still not generally considered to be a serious issue.Throughout time immemorial victims have been told to "toughen up","stop whining", to "get a thicker skin" or to “fight back”. When avictim of bullying attempts to get help, he/she is frequently betrayedby the authorities or told "no one likes a tattle-tale". Considering thedevastating and sometimes fatal consequences of bullying, societymust re-examine its attitude to this issue.
Bullying will cause depression. Depression is the leading cause in all cases ofsuicide. According to the American Psychiatric Association over half of all kidswho suffer from depression will eventually attempt suicide and seven percentwill be successful. Every ½ hour a youth who has been bullied will completesuicide. Another estimated 19,000 victims of bullying will attempt suicide thisyear. This is as a result of: Exposure to relentless physical and/or emotional bullying by peers Experiencing continuous resultant pain due to the bullying Having to incessantly relive humiliating moments that are repeatedly brought up by peers as a means of torment Having no other friends to rely on for support or encouragement while being bullied regularly Being the victim of bullying by an authority figure (parent, teacher, coach, etc.)
Bullying can include various types of behaviour from physical attacks, to destroying ones personal property or clothing, verbal abuse, starting rumours, name calling, verbal attacks online as well as other forms of cyber bullying. For teens and children who feel they are being bullied, it is important to address the matter with a parent or teacher right away. It may feel like you are telling on someone for doing something wrong, and that admission might get you in trouble with the bully later. However, this is not the case. In the majority of cases when a bully is reported, the bullying stops because the bully is faced with dire repercussions or they are sent away to a juvenile detention centre. If you see bullying occur, it is just as important to tell a trusted adult about the situation. There are many ways to try and prevent bullying from getting worse and by reporting incidents, you can help cut down on future cases of bullying involving other victims. Maintaining a strong sense of self and good overall self-esteem is another way to ensure you wont be a victim of bullying attacks since bullies generally only prey on those they feel are weaker than them. This is also why it is important to have a solid group of friends that will have your back if a bully does try to attack in some way. Parents, be sure to talk to your children and teens about bullying and how to prevent it from happening to them or their peers. Make sure they know the importance of reporting such incidents and ways to handle a bully.
Regain control by:Recognizing that you are being bulliedRealizing that you are NOT the source of the problemRecognizing that bullying is about control and therefore has nothing to do with yourperformance.Remember that bullies cant hurt you. They just want to show that theyre powerful,even though they show just the opposite: They are cowards. Really powerful peopleshow their power in other ways, not by humiliating others that are weaker than them.Show them that youre not afraid of them.Show minimal reaction to bullying. Do not show the bullies that you feel hurt if theydo something that makes you uncomfortable; just walk off. Bullies gain satisfactionfrom making others feel hurt or uncomfortable, so giving them a reaction may onlyencourage them further.
Everyone experiences friendship difficulties – they „fall out‟ withfriends, they discover people who they do not like or get on with. Partof the growing up process involves developing the skills to deal withthese normal „rough & tumbles‟. Asking for adult support can help youfind strategies for managing, such as: ignoring, walking away andseeking alternatives. It is only when unpleasant behaviour is directed atthem persistently, hurtfully and intentionally that we say bullying ishappening.If you think you, a friend, or someone you know is being bullied, pleasetell an adult, such as a parent or teacher straight away. Earlyintervention can prevent the situation escalating and getting out ofhand. ************************************************