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Intimacy 2
- 1. Evan Barker 7/23/2012 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 1
- 2. The New Relationship • Relationships are changing • Texting • Skype • IM • FaceTime • Facebook • Alice and Jesse • Have a relationship and their parents do not even know • Constantly text, and IM 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 2
- 3. Evolution of Dating • Men you call on women at their homes • Women lacked space so couples would go somewhere together (dating) • “Going Steady,” shown by matching sweaters, women wearing letter jackets, etc… • 70’s and 80’s dating became different forms of social contact (hanging out) 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 3
- 4. Intimacy Tools • Three intimacy tools • Cell Phones • Instant Messaging • Social Media • Facebook • Skype • Twitter • These tools eliminated the strain of long-term relationships 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 4
- 5. • Social Media plays key role in casual relationships turning into serious ones • Social Media, less vulnerable than face-to-face communication • Give people chance to introduce themselves to people they don’t know well • Example • Male in Chicago stated that instead of making a phone call, he will “Facebook stalk” to learn more • Facebook relationship status now makes relationships official 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 5
- 6. Breaking Up • Social Media good for starting relationship, not good for ending • Teens interviewed acknowledged that breaking up over social media is disrespectful • Facebook pages begin to slowly change when couples going through troubles (Ex: Michael p.134) • Despite what teens say breakups take place online (Ex: old pictures deleted, angry status updates, removal of ex as a friend) 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 6
- 7. Over, but notreally • Even when relationship is over usually ex’s have mutual social media friends • Ex’s can still see status updates and messages sent • These communications can be caring, respectful, hurtful, or angry • The book uses Bob from Northern California as an example • You monitor your ex, check Facebook statuses, see who’s writing on their wall, and if the relationship status changes 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 7
- 8. Social Media Jealousy • Ono used Facebook to make her ex jealous • Pictures of them removed • Put in another person • Flirt with other guys on Facebook • Use an Ex’s friend to try and make Ex angry on Facebook 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 8
- 9. Privacy from Others • Teens agreed that communication privacy from parents is important • Social Media can give them this • The book uses Joan as an example • Her and her boyfriend would talk on the phone and IM at the same time, so their parents could not hear everything • Teens have ability to be in relationships that parents may not approve of 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 9
- 10. Monitoring and Boundaries • People can monitor each other on Facebook • Anything from • Researching potential love interests • Using a shared password to check one’s significant other • Restrict significant others contact with their friends • Check significant others wall to see who writes on it • Example • Gabriela a 15 year old from LA always logs into her boyfriends • Facebook after looking at her own • DO NOT SHARE PASSWORDS!!! 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 10
- 11. Vulnerability • New media increases teens vulnerability and control over emotional exposure • This could lead to them being victimized by friends and others • Media can also be a good thing • Leaving a message on Facebook can be more comfortable than calling a girl and stumbling over words • Easier to flirt digitally than in person • Predators • What parents worry about most • Be careful of groups you join and individuals you talk with 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 11
- 12. Ito, Mizuko. “Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out.” The MIT Press 2010. 7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 12