Parental Guidance

1. PARENTAL GUIDANCE IN ADOLESCENT DRESSING
Dr Dorcas Krubu
Department of Library and Information Science
Ambrose Alli University, Ekpoma, Edo State
dorcas.krubu@aauekpoma.edu.ng
Adolescent Health Summit
by
Medical Women Association of Nigeria, Edo State Chapter
in collaboration with
National Association of Women Academics, Ambrose Alli University Chapter
Tuesday July 25th 2017
Parents’ Forum
Conference Hall, Irrua Specialist Teaching Hospital, Irrua, Edo State

2. Your calling as a Parent
• A vessel for the growth, development
and evolution of humanity through
whom souls incarnate on earth to
further the cause of their existence
• When fellow human beings come
through you as children, you are to
create the earthly circumstances for
them to grow in a way that is pleasing
to GOD.

3. • Training and guiding our children to be true human
beings is way beyond dressing.
• In the words of Oprah Winfrey, “we are here to
evolve”…….that is we are to grow and develop along
the following lines…
– Spiritual
– Psychological
– Social
– Educational
– Building their personality/Character

4. One core value we must help to grow in our
our children revolves around the concept of self esteem:
 Self worth
 Self regard
 Self acceptance
 Faith in oneself
 Dignity
 Morale
 Self-confidence
 Self-assurance

5. Outward Signs of Self Esteem
• Following are some outward signs of positive
self-esteem:
• Self-direction
• An awareness of personal strengths
• An ability to solve problems
• An independent attitude
• Good self-care
• A good sense of personal limitations and
vulnerability
• The ability to say NO!
• The ability to say NO TO FASHION!

6. Adolescents receive training/guidance
primarily from four sources:
 Parents – in early childhood this is the strongest
 Teachers – guide students based on their own
worldview and experience
 Peers – classmates, friends (familiar and
unfamiliar), neighbours, etc
 Media – the strongest influence from films,
video musicals, social media, celebrities

7. Guiding the adolescent dress sense
A key value that goes along with self-esteem is teaching children
about our CULTURE of modesty and moderation in dressing.
…..Talking about the AFRICAN CULTURE…….
Flaunting nudity is a taboo in our culture
Provocative and sensual dress sense that highlight hips and
boobs are not in our culture
Short and skimpy clothes do not belong to us
Cross gender dressing is un-Africa
Clothes should be long enough to cover your knees when seated
Sagging and wearing of artificial dreadlocks
Wearing unnatural colour of hair
Right choice of footware
Harmonious colour combination

8. How can we help our children always:
• Pray for them
• Communication
• Be friends with your adolescent child
• Know their friends
• Know their world of influence
• TV , Celebrities
• Social media…. Facebook, Instagram ..etc