1. Inside This Issue: Hampton Institute Memories
Thanks to Social Media
April 2010 – Vol.3, No. 4
Relationship Pulling Your
Conflict:
Eliminating Image
Judgments Package
and Fulfilling Together
Needs Through
Domestic
Abuse Personal
Treatment Branding
Freshman and Your
Survival Job
101: How to Search
Survive
Your
Freshman 10 Steps
Year for
Hire Me. Writing
I’m A Great
Wonderful Business
Plan
How to
Write an Her
Essay Story
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5. Contents
10 Feature Story
Hampton Institute Memories Thanks to
Social Media
By Tracey Smith, BS
18 Success Language
Hire Me. I’m Wonderful
By Sylvia Henderson, MBA
22 BizBest: Business Made Better
10 Steps for Writing A Great Business Plan
25 By Daniel Kehrer
25 Breaking the Cycle
Relationship Conflict – Eliminating Judgments
Advertise and Fulfilling Needs Through Domestic Abuse
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74 28 CWR College Funding BrainTrust
Freshman Survival 101: How to Survive
Your Freshman Year
58 CWR Building Wealth Tanya Knight, MBA
Laying the Foundation for Your Financial Success
By Gil Michel, MBA, CPA 32 CWR Career Zone
Personal Branding and Your Job Search
60 CWR Security Focus By Terry Pile, GCDF
Targeted Violence On College Campuses:
Students Can Play A Role In Prevention 35 CWR Career Zone
By John Enright, Retired Secret Service Agent Resume Essentials: Gather the Data
By Tara Goodfellow, MBA
64 CWR Legal Advisor
Insult to Injury 37 Monica's Writing Skills
By Attorney Jermaine A. Wyrick, J.D. How to Write an Essay
By Monica Y. Jackson, MBA
66 CWR Sage Sporty King
Life Is A Sport: Date It! 40 Fashion Statements
Pulling Your Image Package Together
69 CWR Virtual Cultural XChange: China By Natalie Jobity, MBA
The Custom of Chinese Spring Festival
By Peng Guanlin 44 Relationships TNT:
Why Settle For Being Wife-y,
72 Connecting Worlds: Inside Asian America When You Can Be A Real Wife?
Korean American Celebrates Hwangap, Her 60th Year By Dr. Alduan Tartt, Ph.D.
By Lily Kim, BJ
47 Relationships TNT:
74 Connecting Worlds: Inside Arab America Daddy-Love: The Template for Real Love for
On the Verge of Losing Humanity Women…The Missing Link for Young Ladies
By Dr. Azadeh Osanloo, Ph.D. By Dr. Torri Griffin, Ph.D.
76 Connecting Worlds: Inside Black America 50 Relationships TNT:
Black Love: Past, Present, and Future Is Technology The Enemy Of Love?
By Dr. Leona Johnson, Ph.D. By Paul Carrick Brunson, MBA
78 Connecting Worlds: Inside Latino America 52 Relationships TNT:
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By Dr. Filemon Zamora, Ph.D. By J. Thurman, BA
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Dr. Leona Johnson, Ph.D.
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10. Feature Story
Hampton Institute Memories Thanks to
Social Media
By Tracey Smith
In March of 2008, a good friend of mine named Chad Dickerson, called me to
inform me of a wonderful site that would link me back to my "Home by the Sea". It
was called the Pirate Roundup which was like walking across campus and being
able to delve back into the past. When he called me, I actually thought by chance
that he was kidding, and that this virtual reunion couldn't exist. He patiently
assisted me through the registration process, and "voila" I was back on the steps
of Ogden Hall, observing the pristine view of Huntington Library, the Holly Tree
Inn, the Stone Building, and the infamous circle that led us back to the female side
of the campus. Those are memories that I don't believe any amount of time will
erase from my mind, I was home.
The Pan-Hellenic Council in front of Ogden Hall.
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11. Feature Story
I immediately hunted for every single person's name that actually
mattered during my extended stay at Hampton Institute. Its
rather interesting when time lapses, names are so difficult to recall,
but the moments, the laughter, and experience will never be
forgotten, and thank goodness for yearbooks for the aging college
graduates.
When I started searching for my friends, dorm mates, cafeteria
cronies, etc... I was absolutely in awe when I could look at how even
after the quantity of years passing, smiles were familiar, eyes that
glistened still did, gestures remained the same, and people hadn't
changed as much, they actually had metamorphosed into an adult
form of the young adults we professed to be. The people that I
communicate with from this "virtual yard," still have the same tone or
timbre in their voices, the same laughter, the same humor, nothing
has changed.
Social Media has brought so many people together that mattered in
our lives, that truly meant for something, so there is some good with
aging, the technology. What I will add that has changed, but been
fine tuned, is that these wonderful people all turned out to be exactly
what the Hampton Institute Experience had driven us all to be. They
are successful, tenacious, independent, self-sufficient, articulate,
hardworking individuals that have continued passing the baton of
excellence on to their own children.
Richard Wilson, Tracey Smith, and Charlie Taylor on the waterfront
during summer session of '83.
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12. Feature Story
I can remember the nervous excitement of
attending my first Convocation, and hearing
Maya Angelou speak a steady but yet heartfelt
speech, I knew then, that this was no ordinary
institution of higher learning, this was a "black
utopia." For once in my life, I felt comfortable
in the skin I was in, and as Ms. Billie Holiday
sings, "Don't Explain." I didn't have to explain.
I didn't have to feel the exclusion and angst of
being the only African-American in my college
prep courses; I was sitting in classes amongst
the black glitterati. These were students who
The Scrollers of Kappa Alpha Psi were third generation Hamptonians, and had
Fraternity during the pledging an ancestry that was as rich as churned butter.
process...Beta Chi Chapter Spring '81.
I learned so many different attributes from
these students who traveled from different
regions of the continent, and what is extremely
poignant, even as a student, you could safely
predict who would be a success and who would
find their niche in society.
It was difficult for me to leave Hampton; I
would never be able to feel that same sense of
comfort and adventure again in my life. I've
always attempted to explore other experiences
that would evoke similar memories, but my
college experience is not one to be
duplicated, and nor are the
friends I encountered. I am proud to be able to
say that I am a graduate of the most
prestigious HBCU in the country.
The Ivy Pledgees of Alpha Kappa Alpha
Sorority.
Hampton University
Virginia Cleveland...a women's dorm built
Chapel
in 1874.
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13. Feature Story
Our President of the United States has
spoken at the most recent
commencement exercise, which is a
memory that I will hold dear to my
heart.
U. S. President Barack Obama speaking to the graduating class of 2010...history for our "Home by the
Sea."
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14. Feature Story
Any graduate of Hampton Institute can agree that we had the best
teacher that bestowed upon us gusto to survive, the finesse to
network, and to be shrewd. Dr. William Harvey has always been a
very compelling businessman who continues to run our campus like a
well oiled machine. He has made significant changes for the better;
there have been enhancements in innovation, to allow for a more
competitive edge within the mainstream.
Hampton University President, Dr. William Harvey, enjoying the
view while standing in front of the President's Mansion.
I am glad to see the faces of yesteryear now on Facebook, to look at
photos of children and see hints of their parent's features, I'm
ultimately glad to be able to say hello to people that I had lost contact
with and never thought I would merge with again. We are very lucky to
have experienced the Hampton Experience, and everything that came
with it; from the CC store, to the Labor Day Beach Parties at Croatan,
The Fraternity and Sorority Cabarets, Convocation and good ol' dorm
life.
I can even appreciate the arduous task of registration, walking over the
bridge to Safeway Grocery Store, reselling books at the bookstore in
balmy weather and more; all of these experiences and so many more
are what we can safely say are simple but cherished memories, that
are irreplaceable. These instances are different for each student or
class, but gainfully contributed to their character as an adult.
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15. Feature Story
I know there have been many cosmetic changes to the school, and I
must admit, I'm not sure I'll be ready to try to piece all of the missing
landmarks in my mind, but memories are what sustains me, and I'll
always remember 302 Kelsey Hall and learning a lot about people and
life at Hampton Institute.
This "virtual yard", thanks to social media, has become an addiction
to some of us, but I also believe, its a means of just being able to go
back to a time when life was easy, less complicated, and free. Is there
anything wrong with being able to escape to a place that brought you
infinite happiness in the form of people and scenarios?
Hampton Normal and Agricultural Institute was founded in 1868 by
General Samuel Armstrong. He was interested in moral training and
a practical, industrial education for southern blacks. In 1872,
Booker T. Washington-who had born a slave in Virginia-arrived at
the school with fifty cents in his pocket. After graduating,
Washington was given administrative responsibilities at the school,
and in 1881 Armstrong recommended Washington to head
Tuskegee Institute in Alabama. By 1900, that school has numerous
buildings, 100 faculty members, and more than 1,400 students.
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16. Feature Story
The Banjo Lesson (1893) by Henry Ossawa Tanner, which hangs in the
campus museum and also was presented to Maya Angelou at
Convocation.
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18. Success
Hire Me! I’m Wonderful
By Sylvia Henderson, MBA
How often have you interviewed for you plan to interview by
a school, job, or professional researching the organization
opportunity and said, in so many through social networks, through
words, "Hire me. I'm wonderful?" informational interviews with key
When you present your academic personnel, and by asking people
and work qualifications and tell your you know who know of the
interviewer all the great organization's admissions or hiring
accomplishments you achieved, you practices. Then identify your
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wonderful you are. While your characteristics you wish to convey.
intent may be to convey the Develop answers that are short
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excellent student or hire-or that how you influenced their positive
you deserve the promotion you outcomes, highlighting your
seek, what the interviewer hears is qualifications as they relate to the
that you are a legend in your own questions.
mind. When I was a hiring manager
in a large corporation I encountered For example, were I to ask you,
many an interviewee telling me how "How do you handle people who are
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25. Healing
Relationship Conflict: Eliminating Judgments and
Fulfilling Needs Through Domestic Abuse Treatment
By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Let me tell you how defective partner's commentary as telling
you are" is a strategy that will them how inadequate, deficient,
yield a disconnection. Whereas, defective, less than, and the list
"here is what I need from you" goes on...as do the hurt and
lends itself to connection, angry feelings.
communion and communication
in marriage. The last thing this person wants
to do is embrace their partner's
In domestic abuse counseling, commentary. To the contrary,
couples find that the former is a they seek to run. They reflexively
relationship compromiser and the pull back and disconnect from
latter is a relationship enhancer. the encounter. Self-preservation
And learning this lesson is takes over and their guard steps
transformational to the in while combat brews... As an
individuals, as well as to the outsider looking in, it is obvious
relationship. why this resulting relationship
conflict ensues.
Let Me Tell You How Defective
You Are Here Is What I Need from You
Think about it. When your Now, let's rewind the encounter
partner comes up to you and and play it back...this time
unloads his/her perception of injecting the vital missing piece
how you are inadequate, and eliminating the part that got
incomplete, deficient, somehow this couple into trouble. Or, shall
other than they would be or do in I say the part that nets them a
similar circumstances, then what disconnection in their interaction.
happens?
First of all, the obvious missing
Disconnection happens. The piece in an interaction like this is
person with the so-called what the person giving the
feedback may momentarily feel commentary needs. The "let me
good because they expressed tell you how defective you are"
themselves. But before you know approach fails to identify what
it, the disconnect rushes in the person expressing the
severing the two people. Why? negative commentary is really
seeking from his/her partner. All
The person on the receiving end it offers is his/her judgments,
of this encounter feels judged, critique and ridicule.
criticized, reprimanded,
devalued... They hear their
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26. Healing
First of all, the obvious missing piece in Less War; More Love
an interaction like this is what the
person giving the commentary needs. When we leave the judgments out of
The "let me tell you how defective you the equation and focus on what we
are" approach fails to identify what the long to receive from our partner, then
person expressing the negative we open the door for connection and
commentary is really seeking from the continuation of the interaction.
his/her partner. All it offers is his/her Sharing the request invites having the
judgments, critique and ridicule. unmet need satisfied.
When the person looks within for that And the best part is...no one is hurt.
which they want from their partner, No one is diminished. Rather, the
what springs forward is an unmet need relationship is enhanced as the people
longing to be filled. Satisfying their become fulfilled.
need trumps spewing derogatory
commentary.
And the judgments...are really their
own projections which truly come from Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. is a seasoned
within. Now that doesn't mean that psychologist and consulting expert on
what they see in their partner is not domestic violence intervention and
true. It might be. But, that "truth" has prevention.
nothing to do with the person giving
the commentary getting their needs
met.
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Copyright 2011 Jeanne King, Ph.D. - Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention
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28. Student Loans
Freshman Survival 101: How to Survive Your Freshman Year
By Tanya Knight, MBA
Nobody can have doubts about the get the most out of your college in
fact that the freshman year of terms of academic success and
college turns out to be one of the personal happiness.
most important and influential
years in anybody's life. Your first These strategies will help you
year in college and away from your handle the most important chapter
family can be exciting and in your life. All your concerns and
challenging. These challenges will questions, worries and anxieties
give you a chance of knowing who about your first year in college can
you are and what you know. be handled well. Your freshman
College life unfolds in itself a unique year in college will turn into an
phase in our journey towards a enjoyable and memorable
successful future. This journey experience.
presents you with fun-filled,
exciting and challenging There are various issues that may
opportunities on the academic and disturb you in your initial days at
social front. You must be prepared college. You may feel extremely
to face these opportunities in the embarrassed about certain aspects
right manner that will transform about yourself like your socio-
them into stepping stones towards economic, financial and economic
success in your career! background, your language, looks
etc. Do not get bewildered by these
If you feel lost in college, don't get issues as these are only 'passing
frustrated. Almost everyone goes clouds' and can be easily handled
through this phase and everyone with some mental make-up. And
thinks that they are the only ones one more thing, all these feelings
to go through this experience. It is are extremely natural. So do not
not true! All of us have experienced worry and feel that you are the only
this strange feeling one time or one that experiences such a
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freshman year survival, you can
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college life and convert them into strategy that you need to adopt to
the best and most memorable years handle your freshman year. This
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some simple techniques and tips, Strategy". Are you wondering
you can handle your first year of what this is all about? Let me
college in a successful manner and explain.
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29. Student Loans
This CPO theory expects you to stay Calm, be Positive and always be
Optimistic.
Stay Calm - You need to be very calm and cool in your approach. Your
freshman year in college can corner you with some surprises. But, you
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Be Positive - I always advise students to maintain a positive attitude
about their college experience. Being positive will mentally strengthen you
and empower you with amazing self-confidence that will make your freshman
year more enjoyable.
Stay Optimistic - One more important thing that I want you to
remember is that 'Optimism is the best way of assuring success in life'. So
try to be optimistic in your approach and open in your attitude.
If students enter college with an of growth. Coping up with any
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to cope up with the surprises of the But with the secret CPO strategy,
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change". Change is a necessary part feeling lost in your college.
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32. Career Planning & Development
Personal Branding and Your Job Search
By Terry Pile, GCDF
When we see a Walt Disney movie Personal Traits
advertised, we think of wholesome List six personal traits that you
family entertainment; a Mercedes think best describe you. Invite
Benz represents wealth and five or six other people to do the
luxury; Motel 6 a place for the same. First ask yourself, "Do I
budget conscious to spend the perceive myself as others perceive
night. Each of these brands has me?" Next ask yourself, "Is this
created a promise, an experience the brand I want?" Hopefully you
you can count on. What kind of will see positive patterns
image does your personal brand emerging. Perhaps others see you
conjure? What will an employer as loyal, grounded and
get if he hires you? trustworthy. These are personal
traits that are part of your
A personal brand is the public brand. However if you see
image we want to create. It is yourself as humorous and others
how we market ourselves to see you as a cut-up or instigator,
others, particularly in a job search. there is a disconnect. Perhaps you
Creating your brand should not be should takes steps to turn this
a last minute effort before an unwanted image around.
important interview. It requires
reflection and research and should
be based on your values, personal Skills, Knowledge, Abilities
traits and marketable skills. Here Finally, list the skills you are good
are a few things to think about as at and want to market to an
you begin to establish your brand. employer. Support these skills
with examples. If organizing is
Values your forte, be prepared to discuss
Make a list of values that are your innovative approaches to
important to you and you live by organizing your homework, paying
every day. Support your values your bills or arranging your
with examples. Perhaps life long kitchen. If you enjoy public
learning is a value you speaking, mention your
embrace. Prove it by listing your credentials such as your degree in
continuing education endeavors. If communications, presentations
community service is a value you you have given and affiliation with
hold dear, make a list of the Toast Masters or similar
organizations or projects you organizations. Articulating what
support. These values will become you do well, and supporting it with
the foundation of your brand. examples, creates value for your
brand.
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35. Career Planning
Resume Essentials: Gather The Data
By Tara Goodfellow, MBA
On a regular basis, clients tell me they wish they had kept
track of their accomplishments along the way. This comes
from CEO's, upper level sales managers, directors, and
professionals spanning several industries. Things seem
routine when you're doing them daily as part of your
job. It's when you're looking for a new one that it becomes
challenging to recall all the fantastic improvements you
made for the company. So, start gathering the data and
details now!
Keep education and employment related data in a format
that's comfortable for you. It can be in a file folder, excel
application, or on your phone. What exactly is meant by
data?
• Education. You'll need your correct degree listed,
college name, town, and graduation date. That's
pretty basic, but you can also consider listing your
GPA (if it's strong, of course), major GPA, honors,
awards, recognitions, and activities which are
education related.
• Courses. Please don't list every course you've
taken since your first semester. Do keep a list of
major related course titles so you can highlight them
should a job requisition mention that skill/field of
study is required or strongly desired.
• Internships. You'll need the employer's name, city,
state, and dates (month/year to month/year). For
some, internships are required. For others, it's
optional and not always appealing since many are
unpaid. Consider it. It can strongly enhance your
experience section as an internship shows valuable
skills such as teamwork, responsibility, and hands on
field experience. It can be a struggle to gain
experience and often your competition has it. So, do
what it takes, ask for feedback, and a job
description.
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• Part time employment. You'll need the company's name, your
official title, city, state, and dates of employment. Students are
sometimes advised to leave off non-industry related work
experience. I agree with this statement only if you have a solid
amount of industry related work experience. However, if you
don't, list it. It shows many of those transferrable skills that
employers are looking for. It absolutely requires strong time
management skills to juggle working part time and attending
college full time! Be sure to make note of any promotions or
additional responsibilities you earn along the way.
• High School. Once you graduate college, remove your high
school information and related activities. To present a resume
while you're in college, say for a part time job, some high school
information is okay. It should be impressive and relevant though.
Didn't realize you've accomplished so much, did you? Next month
we'll detail a suggested format for your resume. However, you'll save
yourself a lot of time by keeping track of related accomplishments
during your college years instead of having to search for job
descriptions, course titles, and dates once you're in need of a full time
job as a college graduate.
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37. Learning Resources
How to Write an Essay
By Monica Y. Jackson, MBA
When given instructions to Many students will look at this
compose an essay, many and feel overwhelmed, defeated
students panic and ask how long, and unsure of where to begin.
how many pages and how many However, critical thinking and
words? These questions should problem solving skills are
not be the guiding force and can essential. First, attempt to
hinder the essay writing critique the requirements and
processing, making it a much then ask your professor for
more daunting task. Instead, specific clarification. Instead of
focus on the essay quality, not asking a professor What do you
quantity. For the most part, mean? or What do you us to do?
everyone can write. However, explain your understanding of the
some do a better job than others, requirements and ask for
but everyone can be a part of the confirmation or correction. By
group that does better, by doing so, you are opening your
incorporating the suggestions mind and uncovering materials
that are provided in this article. that you may decide to include in
the essay. You might even
Let's first examine the purpose of answer your own question
an essay. When composing an through your verbal expressions.
essay, the goal is to communi Before you can start writing an
cate, discuss or explain a essay, a clear understanding is
thought(s) or argue a position, essential.
on a given subject. Sometimes, it
is difficult to know where to Here is an example of how the
begin, but it does not have to be instructions could be critiqued
this way. and presented to your professor
for clarity: When you say recent,
If your professor has provided I believe this is something that is
instructions, then take note of within the past 10 years. An
the requirements and follow example of a personal adventure
them precisely. For example, is when my family and I traveled
assume the instructions for an to Europe when I was 15-years
essay is as follows: old. I did not encounter any
obstacles. However, a potential
Describe a recent, challenging obstacle could have been if I was
personal adventure that you lost and became separated from
encountered and describe how my parents. In this instance, I
you successfully overcame any would ... Is this what you are
obstacles. asking for in this assignment?
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This allows the professor to inform you are on the right track.
Approaching the professor in this manner demonstrates that you have
carefully considered the question, instead of simply looking for an
answer that you would simply write about, without much thought.
Assume that your explanation to the professor is correct; there may still
be concerns about where to begin. Refer back to the instructions and
create an outline, or headers in your paper that you will discuss. Here is
an acceptable outline for this assignment.
I. Introduction
II. Personal Adventure
III. Obstacle and Solution
IV. Conclusion
In the introduction section, discuss the purpose of the paper and tell the
reader what the essay contains. For example, this section could contain
the following:
The purpose of this essay is to present an understanding
of critical thinking and problem solving. This paper
discusses a personal, challenging encounter that
occurred within the past 10 years, an obstacle and the
solution that was applied to overcome this obstacle.
Your reader clearly understands the purpose and forthcoming content.
In the personal adventure section, clearly discuss the adventure, so the
reader has a clear understanding of who, what, when, where, why and
how. Assume the reader does not know anything about the subject
matter. For example, this section could contain the following:
In July 2007, my family and I traveled to Paris, France.
Additional details can be discussed.
In the obstacle and solution section, the essay could include:
When we arrived at a famous French restaurant and had
a scrumptious meal, my father discovered that his
wallet was not in his pocket. No one had cash or credit
cards. Just then, a restaurant associated asked my dad
to come to the front counter and said his name had
been drawn for a free meal. Although, this had a happy
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40. Fashion
Pulling Your Image Package Together
By Natalie Jobity, MBA
Last month we talked about the Last month's article examined key
importance of thinking of your image business accessories for
as a package. In a professional professionals and this month we
context, your image package want to go a little deeper with that
includes your clothing, your topic. When you research the word
accessories, your level of "accessory" it means: "an addition
professionalism, your communication to enhance performance". Working
skills, your confidence, your energy- with this definition, doesn't it make
anything that impacts perceptions sense that an accessory could
about your ability to get the job include any and everything that
done. Many professionals think of enhances the way you look, your
their image mostly in terms of their professional presentation and how
clothing and accessories, but it truly you are perceived? Let's take a look
is every aspect of yourself that at a few additional accessories you
others can see, feel, and experience. may be taking for granted.
• Your wallet. We take our wallet out of our handbags or back
pockets repeatedly in a business context. Imagine you pulled out a
wallet that was ripped and torn. What message do you think that
would convey about your professional presence?
• Your business card holder. Networking will be a big part of a
college student's life, especially once you start getting internships.
You may want to consider having a simple business card made
with your contact information to hand out to people you meet. But
where do you put these cards? In a business card holder worthy of
the soon to be super successful professional you are being
groomed to be. Right?
• Your outerwear. Coats, raincoats and trenches are clothing that
can be categorized as business accessories. In the cooler months
the first thing people are going to see is your coat. If your coat is
drab, old, otherwise tattered or simply too casual for a business
environment it is not going to cut it. Your coat/trench can be an
image maker or breaker. Make sure yours is the former!
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44. Relationships
Why Settle for Being Wife-Y, When You Can Be A Real Wife?
By Dr. Alduan Tartt, Ph.D.
I was first introduced to the versus a real one and then I met
term "Wifey" by the R & B group Renee.
NEXT in 2000. They had a song
entitled, Wifey, that flew up the Renee sought relationship advice
charts because it was catchy and about her long-term boy-friend,
talked about love and marriage. Anthony, whom despite multiple
However, that was the problem. All affairs, she had remained faithful to
it did was talk about marriage. In for years. She was growing
the video, each one of the male frustrated with him talking about
singers had a female love interest marriage without actually
but not one of them had an proposing. He used all the typical
engagement ring. I was confused. tricks. He took her to meet his
How can you propose to someone parents, window shopped for rings
without a ring? Oh, now I get it, will and even gave her a key to his
you be my wife-y. apartment with an open door policy
which, ironically, is how she caught
I know you may be thinking, him cheating each time. Renee was
"Well, what's wrong with that?" slowly beginning to realize that she
Well, nothing, unless you ignore the would never be a wife, at least not
y! By definition, a wife-y is Anthony's, and wanted a
someone who is wife-like but not an professional male's perspective on
actual wife. She provides the man what she should do.
with all the benefits of being
married- sex, loyalty, home-cooked Renee was beautiful! She had
meals, raising his kids- but without beautiful teeth, full lips, was well
the actual title and ring afforded to cropped and never missed an
a real wife. That song is a decade opportunity to showcase a mean
old now but it captured the current shoe game with matching designer
and growing phenomenon of bag, of course. Despite possessing
women settling for being just all the fashion sense of a Paris
wifeys. As a man, I couldn't runway model, Renee didn't even
understand why a woman would possess a Wal-Mart education when
settle for being an Almost-Wife it came to understanding men.
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45. Relationships
Renee was beautiful! She had Anthony's infidelity issues
beautiful teeth, full lips, was well personally. Anthony's own fears led
cropped and never missed an him to sabotage the relationship
opportunity to showcase a mean every time he felt pressured to
shoe game with matching designer marry her. Like most men, Anthony
bag, of course. Despite possessing feared being inadequate as a
all the fashion sense of a Paris husband. How could he profess to
runway model, Renee didn't even love and cherish Renee for the rest
possess a Wal-Mart education when of his life with no track record of
it came to understanding men. being successful in the past? So, he
purposely fouled up but not enough
My advice to her was simple to permanently lose Renee, his
and direct. I advised her to leave "wifey".
Anthony. By her response, you
would have thought I accused her Third, I empowered her by
of shopping at PayLess. "I know showing her how to use Anthony's
you are not suggesting that I give greatest fear against him: the fear
up everything that I have worked of losing her. Men are naturally
for and endured- all the affairs, the possessive and their egos cannot
lies, the broken promises- and handle the idea of losing the
leave with nothing to show for it, do woman of their dreams and being
you?" I calmly asked her, "Renee, forced to helplessly watch from the
what do you really have?" Before sideline as she gives his love to
she could retort, the weight of the another man, until death due them
question overwhelmed her and she part. Men dislike feeling ashamed.
began to cry. I empathized with her Thus, avoiding it is a motivator.
and advised her on regaining the How could Anthony live with himself
power in her relationship. The knowing that he lost his future wife
advice worked too because within all because he was scared?
four months, Renee had a ring on
her finger. I bet you want to know
what I told her, huh? Now, there was only one
thing left to do. Renee needed to
First, she had to stop allowing conquer her own insecurities so she
fear to drive her relationship. Her could feel confident about leaving.
fear of losing Anthony, being alone She worked through childhood
and starting over again was feelings of paternal abandonment,
preventing her from gaining what abusive ex-boyfriends and
she desired most: A husband. You strengthened her relationship with
are what you think about; and if all God, the ultimate Father. She
you think about is not losing then began to see what was so obvious
it's psychologically impossible to to others yet had been blind to
ever win. herself- the beautiful child of God
who was most deserving of
Second, she needed to stop taking unconditional love and committed
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So, with God as her guide, she cried, took the ring with no
gathered her belongings and left response and made an impromptu
Anthony in search of a real visit to my office the first thing
husband. She explained to Monday morning. She wanted to
Anthony that while she loved him say thanks, but then threw a
deeply, God's love for her was far curveball that even an ex-baseball
greater and that she refused to catcher turned psychologist didn't
settle for less than equal value. predict. She returned the ring and
She kissed him softly and walked informed Anthony that she would
like a Proverbs 31 woman to her entertain future proposals but not
car and sped away. until he entered counseling to deal
with his infidelity issues. Besides,
Poor Anthony couldn't even make
she had met someone else and
it one week before he was
wanted to see if this was the man
harassing her at work, texting her
God promised her. As it turns out,
daily and stalking her at church.
he was a male client whose
When he did finally track her
appointment always preceded
down, he came prepared and
hers. His reason for seeing
revealed a sparkling two carat ring
me...couldn't find a wife. Go
and proposed on the spot. She
figure. Isn't God good!
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47. Relationships
Daddy-Love: The Template for Real Love for Women…The Missing
Link for Young Ladies
By Dr. Torri Griffin, Ph.D.
Whenever I bake cookies using a cookie cutters for relationship
cookie cutter almost all of the partners look like?" Though each
cookies come out in the shape of story was different, I could tell
the "template" I've selected for that most of the struggles that
them-gingerbread man, they were dealing with (poor
snowman, angel-whichever. If I communication, infidelity,
use a dented cookie cutter, I get relationship abuse) came from a
cookies that come out with the flawed cookie cutter.
same flaw. Imagine that we all
carry around relationship cookie This led to more questions: Who
cutters that hold our likes, told them what to expect from
dislikes, hopes, aspirations and love anyway? Television? Movies?
expectations for relationships and Music? Where did they pick up
we apply them to each person we examples of male-female
get involved with in relationships. interactions? Home? Church?
Now imagine that one primary Friends? Whose job is it to show
factor determines whether or not them how a man is really
that cookie cutter or template is supposed to treat a woman?
dented for young ladies in Steve Harvey? I kid.
relationships. What would it be? I
call it, Daddy-love. I think the first model of how a
man should treat a woman in a
Last semester, as I sat on an all young lady's life is her "Daddy."
women's college campus in a Maybe not her biological father,
room full of young ladies but that significant man in her
describing the various life that made her feel special as
experiences they had already had a daughter while she was
with love, I thought to myself, growing up. The one who loved
"How could so many of these her because she was "daddy's
beautiful, amazing young ladies little princess" who he would do
have such sad stories about the anything for. The one who
young men they have dated? claimed to have a shotgun ready
How are they picking their should any young man hurt her
partners? What do their cookie in any way...ever!
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