THIS PPT SPEAKS ABOUT THE VARIOUS RULES TO DEVELOP PERSONALITY OF AN INDIVIDUAL TO LEAD A HAPPY LIFE

1. Dr. R. Dakshinamurthy
Associate Professor
Centre for study of social Exclusion and
Inclusive Policy,
Bharathidasan University,
Tiruchirappalli.

2. Personality development is the development of
the organized pattern of behaviors and attitudes that
makes a person distinctive. Personality development
occurs by the ongoing interaction of temperament ,
character, and environment.

3. Developing personality starts with understanding
about self. Evaluate what traits you see in yourself,
and what needs improvement. Identify and focus on
the positive personality traits that strengthen your
confidence, openness, perseverance, kindness, and
humility. On the flipside, it's important to know what
traits to avoid. But ultimately, each person's
personality is their own, and there is no one way to
have a happier or more attractive personality. By
understanding more about yourself, you can let your
positive qualities shine through.

4. 1. Evaluating Yourself
2. Focusing on Positive Personality Traits
3. Avoiding Negative Personality Traits
4. Believing in Yourself

5.  EVALUATING YOURSELF

6. 
Write down five personalities traits about
yourself. Think about at least five or more personality
traits that you have. Write them down, and take a few
sentences to describe why you think this personality
trait applies to you. Make sure at least one of them is
a positive, good personality trait that you see in
yourself.
Also, list one personality trait that is negative or
bothering you in some way.
Don't use your physical appearance as a way to
describe yourself. Focus only on your personality.

7.  When you wrote down these personality traits, did you seem to focus
on mostly positive or mostly negative traits? For example, did you
have four negative traits, and only one good one? Understand if you
are only seeing the negative in yourself. You may feel like you're not
worthy or don't believe in yourself. Find ways to Boost Your Self
Esteem.
 If you only mentioned one negative trait, you may have greater
confidence in yourself, but lack insight into what needs improvement.
Consider evaluating your limits in a healthy way and finding More
Humility.

8. If you are not sure about how to develop your personality,
think about what makes you happy. What activities do
you enjoy? Do you like to spend time with others, or do
more things on your own? Do you like fixing or creating
things? Are you more artistic or science-oriented? There
are not right or wrong answers about which activities
make you a happier or more personable person. This is
just a way to figure out the context of what makes you
happy.
Some people enjoy activities by themselves or with a few
people more than others. Some people love to be at big
parties with lots of people. No matter the activity, it's
important to learn how to interact with and respect
others. Good communication skills with others helps to

9. Think about what is bothering you in particular about
your personality. What do you want to see differently in
yourself? By having greater insight, this is an important
step to changing. Think about how you could improve
in the following areas:
Your anxiety, anger, or temper
Your shyness, fearfulness, or awkwardness
Your loneliness, sadness, or depression
Your stubbornness, irritability, or frustration
Your lack of trust
Your arrogance

10. Focusing on
Positive Personality Traits

11.  Confidence is an attractive personality trait. Often
confident people who believe in themselves and in others
are happier. While being arrogant in your confidence can
make others uneasy, believing in yourself is key.Identify
the different ways to feel and look confident .
Have good body language that shows you're not fearful of
others. Maintain good eye contact. Smile. Look interested
in what others say and do.
Gain confidence by focusing on the positive things in your
life, and what you do well. Think about any recent events
in which you worked hard, did well in something, or
overcame a struggle. Remember these times, rather than
the times where you messed up.

12.
• While it may feel comfortable to do the same old
things you always do, be adventurous and consider
trying other things. You may be shy or unsure if it will
go well. Oftentimes, things aren't as bad as you imagine
them to be. Being open to new things makes you seem
more flexible, interesting, and attractive to others. If you
not ready to do something new on your own, try things
in groups or with a trusted friend or family member.
 New experiences don't necessarily have to be risky
adventures that put you or others in danger. It's just
something that gets you out of your comfort zone.
.

13.  You don't necessarily have the same things or
outlook as everyone else. You may be doing well for
yourself. You may see others bragging about how well
they're doing. Focus on how to be humble rather than
jealous. Respect that each person has their own path.
Show self-control.
Forgive yourself and others. Put the past in the past.
Avoid dwelling on past mistakes, and focus on how to
find solutions and be future-oriented. Consider saying
these self-affirmations: "I release the past so that I can
step into the future with pure intentions" or "I forgive
myself one day at a time until it's complete."
Focus on how you can give rather than take.

14.  Resilience is the courage to pick yourself up again after
bad things happen. It's a belief that you can persevere.
This is an important trait, particularly during tough
times.Focus on how to be strong in your daily life. Stand
up for yourself and others who are being bullied,
demeaned, or hated. Have the courage to do selfless acts
in which you put others above yourself.
Develop your resilience by not taking things too seriously.
Believe in second and third chances to improve and
become better. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit by
finding ways to stay positive and be healthy.
Avoid being disheartened or disillusioned. Believe that you
can contribute and make a difference, even in small ways.

15.  While it may be tough to be agreeable all the time, people
are more likely to respond positively and help you if you're
kind and friendly. Show others that you are interested in
getting to know them. Be willing to listen and understand
another person's perspective.
Show empathy when others
need to talk or vent. Imagine what it would be like in their
shoes. Listen without interruption. Put away your
electronics and devices, and focus on being present with
others in need.
Try to remain kind and polite even when others are rude.
While it's important to know your limits, avoid trying to
pick a fight when someone disagrees with you.

16. AVOID NEGATIVE
PERSONALITY TRAITS

17. Being stubborn often means it's your way or the
highway. You see things in black and white, and have
a rigid sense of how things are or should be. Imagine
that things can be confusing, unclear, and gray. And
that's okay.
Imagine alternative ways of understanding a situation
or person. Avoid assuming that there is no alternative
way of thinking.

18.  Anger and anxiety happens to everyone. You may feel
out of control at times, or like you don't know what to
do with your emotions. Find ways to stay calm and
patient. Identify ways to control your anger.
Look at what triggers your frustration, and find ways
to reduce these stressors.
Instead of thinking about how much something
makes you anxious and angry, take a minute. Breathe.
Imagine yourself in a calm and relaxed place.

19.  Do you avoid sharing with others? Or seem to always
want to put your needs ahead of others for some
reason? Break this habit of selfish behavior, and focus
on how you can help others more.Do things that you
normally would avoid or complain about. Help others
that need your help.
Focus first on how you can help those closest to you--
your family, relatives, friends, neighbors, classmates,
or co-workers.
Branch out of your comfort zone, and consider
volunteering your time to others. Give back to your
community.

20. • Learn to stand up for yourself and others.
Shyness can be hard to overcome, and takes
practice. The more you try, the better you will be
with time. Learn to say what you want to say
without fear of rejection or judgment. Consider
taking a public speaking course. There are also
many meetings nationwide via Toastmasters that
help you learn public speaking:
•If you are in school, there may also be debate
classes or other opportunities to learn public
speaking.
•Try talking more often with acquaintances through
school, social gatherings, work. Build
your communication skill.

21.  Everyone wants what they don't have. You may see
someone who's happier, smarter, and better looking
that you, and wish that you could be them. If you
continue to dwell on what you don't have, you miss
out on appreciating what you do have. Instead of
wishing for things to be better, be grateful for you've
got. Remember at least three things each day that
make you grateful for your life.
Appreciate what the world has to offer rather than
fixating on how you've been ill-treated.

22. BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

23. You don't have to pretend to be someone that you're
not. Be true to a personality that fits you, and that
feels natural to you. Uniqueness in your personality is
itself an attractive quality.Avoid seeing your
personality as static. You will likely change over time.
You may become less shy. You may become more
open-minded. Or maybe, you become more stubborn
as you grow older.
Whatever your personality is or becomes, it is
adaptable. It is uniquely yours, and you have the
ability to adapt it, change it, or keep it as is.

24.  Ultimately, your personality may tied to your sense of
happiness. You may wonder how you can change your
personality to be a happier and healthier you. It starts
with finding your inner happiness. What gives you
peace? What makes you feel calm, relaxed, and
rested? Learn ways to cultivate happiness in yourself .
Do relaxing activities. Meditate. Listen to music. Take
a walk in nature. Take time for yourself.

25.  Remember that developing a sense of yourself and
your own unique personality starts and ends with
loving yourself. Appreciate who you are and what you
have to offer to others. Believe in yourself.Avoid
negative talk or thinking. If there are others putting
you down, avoid defining yourself on their terms. You
determine who you are.
Find supports that boost your positive personality
traits. Find others that welcome you, and make you
feel loved. Share with them your concerns.
Be kind to yourself every day.