Wgc k club_01052010

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  1. 1. POSITIVE COACHING ALLIANCE 1. New “Double-Goal” Model of Coaching - Lessons from Sport Psychology - Best Practices of great coaches 2. Youth Sports Organizations - Lessons from the business world on Organizational Culture - Systems Approach (Leaders, Coaches, Parents, & Athletes)
  2. 2. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT 18 1 Romantic Stage —“This is fun!” 2 Technical Stage — doing it “right” 3 Mature Stage — high level
  3. 3. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT Take Aways: • Beware of cutting the Romantic Stage too short • Manage the transition from Stage 1 to Stage 2 – avoid sacrificing fun • Talent is not obvious early • Support makes the difference 19
  4. 4. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach ®
  5. 5. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach 1. Winning (IMPORTANT) 2. Teaching Life Lessons (MORE IMPORTANT) ®
  6. 6. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL Three Principles of Positive Coaching
  7. 7. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL Three Principles of Positive Coaching Redefining “Winner” - RESPONSIBLE
  8. 8. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL Three Principles of Positive Coaching Redefining “Winner” - RESPONSIBLE Filling the Emotional Tank - RESPECTFUL
  9. 9. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL Three Principles of P ositive Coaching Redefining “Winner” - RESPONSIBLE Filling the Emotional Tank - RESPECTFUL Honoring the game - SAFE
  10. 10. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition 24 Mastery Definition
  11. 11. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results 24 Mastery Definition Effort
  12. 12. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning
  13. 13. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK
  14. 14. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE
  15. 15. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Research shows: * Mastery Climate = Anxiety goes down = Self-confidence goes up
  16. 16. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c______
  17. 17. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol
  18. 18. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol > work harder > stick to it longer
  19. 19. TOOLS FOR REDEFINING “WINNER” Mistake Ritual 26
  20. 20. TOOLS FOR REDEFINING “WINNER” Mistake Ritual Reinforce the ELM Tree 26
  21. 21. TOOLS FOR REDEFINING “WINNER” Mistake Ritual Reinforce the ELM Tree Targeted Cheering 26
  22. 22. TOOLS FOR REDEFINING “WINNER” Mistake Ritual Reinforce the ELM Tree Targeted Cheering - Effort vs. Outcome 26
  23. 23. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK E-Tank is like a gas tank 28 EMPTY Less coachable FULL More coachable
  24. 24. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Drain 29
  25. 25. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Drain Criticize/Correct 29
  26. 26. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Drain Criticize/Correct Sarcasm 29
  27. 27. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Listen Drain Criticize/Correct Sarcasm Ignore 29
  28. 28. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill - REWARD Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Listen Nonverbal Drain - PUNITIVE Criticize/Correct Sarcasm Ignore Nonverbal 29
  29. 29. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 5 : 1 “ Magic Ratio” (positives to criticisms) 31
  30. 30. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 5 : 1 “ Magic Ratio” (positives to criticisms) 31
  31. 31. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 2 : 1 Criticism Sandwich (positives to criticisms) 31
  32. 32. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS The Keys to a strong coach/child relationship: 57
  33. 33. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS The Keys to a strong parent/child relationship: Establish a conversation among equals 57
  34. 34. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS The Keys to a strong parent/child relationship: Establish a conversation among equals Adopt a “Tell-Me-More” attitude 57
  35. 35. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk 57
  36. 36. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell 57
  37. 37. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions 57
  38. 38. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening 57
  39. 39. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening • Resist the urge to “fix” it 57
  40. 40. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 57 Let the child set the terms • Follow the child’s emotional schedule • Connect through activity • Be patient and persistent
  41. 41. HONORING THE GAME 10 Gets to the ROOTS of positive play 36
  42. 42. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R OOTS of positive play RULES • Refuse to bend the rules to win 36
  43. 43. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R O OTS of positive play RULES OPPONENTS • “ Fierce and friendly” 36
  44. 44. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the RO O TS of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS • Show respect even when you disagree • Never add fuel to the fire 36
  45. 45. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES • Never do anything to embarrass our team 36
  46. 46. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES SELF • Live up to your own standards even when others don’t! 36
  47. 47. Be a Culture-Keeper Seize teachable moments (positive and negative) Develop a self-control routine (e.g. take a deep breath TOOLS FOR HONORING THE GAME 38
  48. 48. > Redefining “Winner” • Reinforce ELM Tree. • Practice Targeted Cheering. • Mistake Ritual. THREE TOOLS I’M GOING TO USE:
  49. 49. > Filling the Emotional Tank • “You’re the kind of person who…” • Use Kid-Friendly Criticism • Engage in Empowering Conversations • Avoid Post-Game Analysis Fill E-Tanks of all team members THREE TOOLS I’M GOING TO USE:
  50. 50. > Honoring the Game • Be a Culture-Keeper • Game Day Tips • Commit to Honoring the Game with your kids THREE TOOLS I’M GOING TO USE:

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