DisIdentification Skill Building This is our ability to pull back when we are starting to over identify with a person, a behaviour, an outcome. We are not our work, health, relationship, education or more. They are a part of our experiences but they are not who we are but a part of us.

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DISINDENTIFICATION
Sometimes we over-identified with what's happened to us. We become totally identified
with what we do, trapped in a narrow definition of ourselves. One mistake at work, on the
ball diamond, or with a business associate and our world collapses.
State of Self-Consciousness
Disidentification is the skill of consciously separating yourself from your performance.
This skill gives you the power to intervene in how you are describing yourself - it breaks
the claim of over identification with an event , a mistake, or a disappointing failure. You
can be unhappy with your behaviour, the phone call, the report, etc., but o.k. with
yourself.
"We are dominated by everything with which our self becomes identified. We can control
and dominate everything from which we are disidentified."
In a nutshell, disidentification is a deliberate letting go of your feelings, your actions and
your thoughts. Some consciousness disciplines call this skill developing the 'witness
level' - being able to see yourself impartially. It releases you from the negative power of
whatever is pulling you down.
GUIDELINES FOR DISIDENTIFICATION
Follow these simple steps to work on disidentification.
1. Get in touch with what is tying you up
(Rationally, Emotionally, Physically, Beliefs, Behaviour)
2. Take three deep breaths- Belly Breathing, or Meditative Breathing
2. Tell yourself - "I am not my _______ “
(sickness, injury, lost promotion, anger, anxiety etc.)
4.Disidentify - visualize seeing yourself from a distance and repeat,
"I am not my _______ "
5. Act as if you have succeeded in letting go of the particular feeling, event or thought.