2. Private Victory
• So far we have covered the Private Victory:
– You must have your personal self together before
you can be a good team player.
– Habits 4, 5, and 6 are the PUBLIC VICTORY, dealing
with relationships and teamwork
4. THINK WIN-WIN
• HABIT 4: says EVERYONE can win.
• You might say that’s silly, it might be that way
at school or sports, but not in relationships.
• How silly would it be to say “who’s winning in
your relationship--you or your friend?”
6. LOOK and READ out loud together
• The four paradigms on page 22
• EACH table (pairs) pick a paradigm and come
up with a scenario that demonstrates it.
• Share
7. READ
• Page 155-156
• Discuss, what is a tumor twin?
8. Win-win all you can eat buffet packet
• Read pages 152-154
• Complete the worksheet
• Turn it in, then complete “cool stuff to
remember”
9. Seek first to be understand, then to be
understood
• Listen first, talk second
• Its about seeing things from another person’s
point of view
10. Habit 5
• Is the key to communication and having power
and influence with people.
11. • To really understand others we have to listen
to more than what they say.
• We have to pay attention to their actions
• Look at the next slide as an example
13. • Only 7 percent of our communication is
through words…
• Most of our communication is through body
language.
14. 14
Steps to Genuine Listening
1 Listen with your
eyes, heart,
and ears.
2 Stand in their
shoes.
3 Practice
mirroring.
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15. Higher form of listening
• Involves listening with your eyes, heart, and
ears…
• LOOK at the person talking to you, be open to
what they are saying. USE more than just your
ears!
16. Stand in another's shoes.
• Many people look at conversations as a
competition,
– Its my point of view or yours
• We can’t both be right. But in reality, we can
be. You don’t win or loose at conversations.
• When you take time to stand in the other
person’s shoes genuine listening can start
happening.
17. Mirroring
• A mirror reflects.
– It doesn't judge, or give advice
• IT IS THE PERFECT LISTENER
• You don’t necessarily repeat what they say,
but show you understood by repeating their
meaning in your own words.
18. 18
Mimicking vs. Mirroring
Mimicking Is: Mirroring Is:
Repeating words. Repeating meaning.
Using the same words. Using your own words.
Cold and indifferent. Warm and caring.
19. Thinking about your communication
• Complete the “Communicating with your
parents” Page
• Complete the Genuine Listening paper and
hand in. READ PAGES 171-176
• Then FILL out the “ COOL STUFF TO
REMEMBER” page. Hand in completed
packet.
20. SYNERGIZE!
• Synergize is about valuing and celebrating
differences.
• Knowing that people can work together to
create better solutions than they can alone.
• It’s NOT my way or the “highway”
21. IN PAIRS
• Come up with 5 things you have in common
and 5 differences
• List them on your paper
22. Synergy
• Doesn’t just happen. It’s a process.
• Once you understand that differences are a
strength and not weakness, and celebrating
those leads to finding the “highway”
• Read through the “action plan”
23. 23
Getting to Synergy Action Plan
Define the Problem or Opportunity
Their Way
(Seek first to understand the ideas of others.)
My Way
(Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas.)
Brainstorm
(Create new opinions and ideas.)
High Way
(Find the best solution.)
24. Celebrating Differences
• Complete the celebrating differences handout
• Finish and complete “cool stuff” part of packet
• Hand in both
25. Sharpen the Saw
• Have you ever felt stressed out, out of
balance, or empty inside?
• Habit 7: helps you with those problems.
• Its about renewal, keeping yourself sharp so
you can deal with life better
26. READ!
• Story on page 206
• Everybody needs time to relax and renew…
– Habit 7 encourages you to regularly strengthen
yourself in the four dimensions…look at next slide
28. Brainstorm
• Fill in activities that you can do in each
category.
• Complete the Sharpen the saw introduction
packet.
• Complete table talk and cool stuff part of
workbook, turn in
