Mel Feller Still Remembers His Grandfather's Advice For Life by Mel Feller As my 20-year-old granddaughter, Rachael Raymond, starts to expand and grow her life, I wanted to share these tips with her. I know that they helped me and I know that they will help her too. These are things that I still do in my life and the way I operate my businesses. Please note that I have not placed these in any particular order.

1. Mel FellerStill RemembersHisGrandfather'sAdvice For Life by Mel Feller
As my20-year-oldgranddaughter,Rachael Raymond,startstoexpandandgrow herlife,Iwantedto
share these tipswithher. I knowthat theyhelpedme andIknow that theywill helphertoo.
These are thingsthat I still doinmy life andthe wayI operate mybusinesses. Pleasenote thatIhave
not placedthese inanyparticularorder.
Call yourMom regularly.Itissomethingthatwill make herveryhappy,evenif itisjustto say hello.
SendingyourMom a card on her birthdayandMother’sDay will warmherheart.
Email or textbothyour parents – it isa wayof honoringthem.
I do not knowitall… andwhenI thinkI doI findout how little Ireallydoknow.
Whenthingsseemtobe reallybad,theyusuallyaren’t…justwaita little while,it’llgetbetter.Trustme.
Betteryet,trustGod.
Christianswill letyoudown.Itisa fact of life.Christwillnot.Itmayseemso at times,butitwill get
better.
You are likelynotgoingtohave the desire tofindadecentchurch.Rememberthatyouare the church; it
isnot necessarilyabuilding.Godiswithyouat all times.Talkto Him.Developthatasa habit.Prayer
doesnothave to be witheyesclosedandhandsclasped.ThinkingthoughtsdirectedatHimare prayer.
Pray often.
You will be temptedlike youhave neverbeentemptedbefore.Ittakescharacter,lotsof it,to not
succumb.You have a verylarge reservoirof character.Do not forgetit.Tap intoit at everyturn.
Followingthe leaderwithoutaskingquestionsisusuallyfollowedbytrouble.Be aleader.Itisharderyes,
but itis more rewardingandmuchlesslikelytogetyouintotrouble thatyouhave no control over.
You will occasionally(sometimesmore thanoccasionally)have todothingsyoudon’twant to do.Just
do notletit become a career.
You will face manydecisionsinthe comingmonths,evenyears.Thinkthroughthem.Actingwithout
thinkingusuallyendsbadly.
I have foundthat doingthingsjustfor the moneyhasshort-termbenefits.Thatisit.I have alsofound
that the contentmentisshort-lived.If you’re goingtodosomethingforalong
If you do anythingfora periodof time,yourhearthas to be init. Or you’re goingtobe miserable.Put
yourself ona budget.Continueyourgoodsavinghabits.
Workinghard sometimesseemsfutile.Be persistentinyourhardwork.It doespay off inthe longhaul.
Do not cut cornersor take shortcuts inyour workor in yourstudies.Donot justdo thatwhichis easy.
Do that whichishard. It iseventuallynoticedanddoesproduce results.

2. Sittingnearthe frontin classislikelytohelpyoupayattention.Sittinginthe backhasthe opposite
effect.Sitwisely.
Read,read,read.Newstuff.Oldstuff.All kindsof stuff.The more youread,the betterpreparedyouwill
be,the betteryouwill be able tocommunicate,the betteryouwill doinschool (andinlife).
Do not be afraidto make mistakes.Ihave learnedthatIlearnbestfrom mymistakes.Thiscanbe painful
but usuallyonlyinthe shortterm.Nopain,no gain.
Alcohol cankill you.Eitherquickly(binge drinking)orslowly(alcoholism).Moderationiskey.
You come from a conservative family.Yourvaluesare largelyconservative.Those valueswill be under
attack at school,byyour professors,byfellow students.Thinkwithanopenmindbutnotsoopenthat
your brainfallsout.Liberalismcanbe trouble.Itisgoodto hearthe opposingperspective.Itisbetterto
readthose whocan defendthe conservativeperspective.Theyare outthere butyouhave to lookfor
them.Have liberal friendshowever.Theykeepyousharp.
Whenthingsare notgoingwell ina relationship,askyourself if youare reallylisteningtothe other
person.Iam a lousylistener…notjusthearingsomeonebutlistening…Hearinghasto dowithnoise,
listeninghastodo withunderstanding.A goodlistenerisone whoactuallyhearswhatisbeingsaid.
Words are killers.Choose themwisely.Once the toothpasteisoutof the tube,youcannot getit back in.
Thinkbefore speaking.Itendtospeakbefore thinking.Inaddition,ithashurtpeople,ithashurtme.
That is trouble.
Olderpeople are notanywhere nearasstupidasyoungerpeople make themouttobe.Unfortunately,
youare usuallyanolderpersonbefore youfigure thatout.Figure itout
Seekwisdomfromolderpeople.Experienceisthe bestteacher.Yes,thatisa cliché,butit isa goodone.
Life istoo shortto stay mad at familyandfriends.Youneverknow whenyourwordstosomeone maybe
the last one isyou have withthem.Thatterrifiesme sometimes.Moreover,itshould.
Breakingproblemsdownintoeasilyhandledpiecesbestsolvesthem.How doyoueat an elephant?
Piece bypiece.Donot be intimidatedbythe magnitude.Thinkthroughthe problem,breakitdown,plan
an actionand implementthe plan.Inaddition,remembernumber16.
Eat right.Lots of fruitand vegetables.Avoidwhathappenstomanycollege kidswhogainweightbig-
time theirfirstandsecondyearsawayfrom home.
You exercise regularly.Continue tomake exercise awayof life andit will be withyoufora lifetime.
Sometimes,the bestthingtodoor sayin a situationisabsolutelynothing.Icontinue tohave problems
withthis,yetI dobelieve itistrue.
Experience isenhancedwhenthatexperience issharedwithsomeoneyoucare about.Whetheritisa
sunset,ahike,a paddle,ora good movie.
Budgetyourtime.Prioritize where itisspent.Time canbe spentfaster thanmoneycan.In addition,it
can be wastedjustasmuch as moneycan. Inaddition,inmyview,time ismore preciousthanmoney.

3. Over-tipbreakfastwaitresses
Look people inthe eyes
Whenfacinga difficulttaskact as thoughitis impossible tofail
Neverpassa child’slemonadestandwithoutstoppingtoinvestintheirfuture.
Knowwhenitistime to leave agatheringor party.
Neversay,“I wishIhad …”
Remember,yourgrandmaandgrandpalove you.
Mel FellerAnArchitectof Change inBothBusinessesof All TypesandVariousTypesOf Real Estate
Investments
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